April 2009 Blog Posts (40)

Upcoming Mother's day

I'm really trying not to dwell on the up coming Mother's day. My mother died when I was younger and my only child died 09/07/08. My daughter, Amanda, is who made Mother's day good for me. Now, with both my mom and my daughter gone, I just don't want that day to come. This will be my first ma's day without both of my girls. I know I can't stop time from marching on and I want to stay as positive as possible. However, I'm really sad about this. I know I should go to a rest home or something and… Continue

Added by Karen on April 16, 2009 at 10:25pm — No Comments

Upcoming Mother's day

I'm really trying not to dwell on the up coming Mother's day. My mother died when I was younger and my only child died 09/07/08. My daughter, Amanda, is who made Mother's day good for me. Now, with both my mom and my daughter gone, I just don't want that day to come. This will be my first ma's day without both of my girls. I know I can't stop time from marching on and I want to stay as positive as possible. However, I'm really sad about this. I know I should go to a rest home or something and… Continue

Added by Karen on April 16, 2009 at 10:25pm — No Comments

Upcoming Mother's day

I'm really trying not to dwell on the up coming Mother's day. My mother died when I was younger and my only child died 09/07/08. My daughter, Amanda, is who made Mother's day good for me. Now, with both my mom and my daughter gone, I just don't want that day to come. This will be my first ma's day without both of my girls. I know I can't stop time from marching on and I want to stay as positive as possible. However, I'm really sad about this. I know I should go to a rest home or something and… Continue

Added by Karen on April 16, 2009 at 10:25pm — No Comments

Anticipating 1st bday without Amanda

May is just around the corner. I lost my only child, my beautiful daughter Amanda, last Sept. In May comes my first Mother's day without her (am I still a mom?), her 24th birthday, my 55th birthday and her father (my ex for many many years) 56th birthday. I am just waiting. It's like, if I can just make it through May, I will be okay. I'm hooked up withThe Compassionate Friends and private counseling but I'm so mad my only child, my best friend for the last 23 years, my pride and joy, the apple… Continue

Added by Karen on April 15, 2009 at 9:35pm — No Comments

To J. Botchwey and "Micheale",

I have to apolgize to the both of you, that I am not able to find your comments on the LegacyConnect.com site. I do know that you made replies for me to return replies. I am working on it to find your comments. I have asked LegacyConnect.com to help me. I am visually impaired and only have 10% usable vision, so I am not able to read the print on the website, unless I transfer the comment to Word and BOLD print the information for me to read it. So, please bare with me, unless either one of you… Continue

Added by Diana connors on April 14, 2009 at 10:54pm — No Comments

Memories live on and love never dies.

The saying is true, you never know what you have until it is gone. She was beautiful, smart, loving, intelligent and would go out of her way to make me or anyone else feel special. After 6 years of dealing with me I guess she was fed up so we split. I thought about her everyday eversince wondering if I would ever run into her again to tell her how I truly felt about her or if she'll just pick up and call me to see how I'm doing or anything. After 2&1/2 years I finally got the courage to… Continue

Added by Bret M. Smith on April 14, 2009 at 5:03pm — 1 Comment

What’s appropriate to share?

When my cousin died many years ago, a poem she wrote about her herself, her husband and children was read at her funeral. My aunt had the poem written in calligraphy and gave me a copy for my birthday. Decades passed and my cousin’s children married and had children of their own. One day, I realized I no longer lingered to read the poem and wondered if my cousin’s daughter would better appreciate it. But I wasn’t sure if it would open old wounds so I wrote her a letter to ask if she’d like…

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Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on April 14, 2009 at 3:30pm — No Comments

it doesn't stop it doesn't get better

I'm trying so hard to make each day a day not centered around you dying.

I miss you so much.

This is a way to help me to let some of this pain out. It chokes me so deep,. That sometimes i don't think I can take a deep breath.

I've allowed your passing to become my whole life. The other things I do in the day. Are just done. Than I can come here to Legacy and work on your site.

I tell myself its to help. That once I get it to were its done i will walk in the sun. I will… Continue

Added by Pam on April 13, 2009 at 11:36pm — No Comments

its been 2 months today since u been gone from us dad

dad i so miss u around and miss ur smiling face .
today was a rough day i thought about u all the time.
i stayed strong cause i didnt want the famliy to see me cry.
but deep down inside my heart i was sad and heart broken still.
dad i love u more then anything and miss u teribbly..

Added by michelle on April 12, 2009 at 9:00pm — No Comments

alfonso deadmon

PLEASE, anybody that knew this man PLEASE contact me at 2108260028, 2108041591 210 6183174. need to contact anybody in his family . his brother or any family member SANDRA MARTINEZ very important THANK YOU.

Added by sandra martinez on April 12, 2009 at 3:09am — No Comments

The worst Pain ever

I am 25 and just lost my 31 year old husband of 5 years to a very sudden death Feb 7 09 .He died in his sleep one night that was it.He had a heart dieses that we didnt know about .You always hear about death happening to people you know or kinda know and say to yourself "I couldnt imagen"Well it happend to me .We also have a 6 month old baby that iam left with .Every day feels like forver to get threw and it feels like years since i have seen him or heard his voice .I cant believe this has… Continue

Added by kimmer on April 10, 2009 at 10:30pm — No Comments

I've Never Said Goodbye

I lost my mother in January 2002. Her last 24 hours I was with her except for one hour. In that hour I left because I thought that she was finally stable. She had finally gotten a room in the hospital after being in the emergency room all night. I had stayed by her side the whole time praying every prayer I knew plus just praying for God to please heal her, but also to take her if it was His will. My mother opened her eyes only twice and the look of terror in them startled me. I had hope for… Continue

Added by Bonnie June Wilhelm on April 10, 2009 at 9:00am — No Comments

Rudy, I just wanted to say hello to you on your birthday. I'm not in Texas anymore, but my parents will put flowers with you. Zach is doing so good in baseball, just like his daddy. He talks about yo…

Rudy, I just wanted to say hello to you on your birthday. I'm not in Texas anymore, but my parents will put flowers with you. Zach is doing so good in baseball, just like his daddy. He talks about you a lot. He asks questions like, "Did my dad hit like that?" or "How good of a cook was my dad?" It's crazy that you're gone. I never would have imagined 8 years ago that this would have happend. I know you are in a better place just chillin with Captin Trap.

Ru, I love you and I'm sorry that I… Continue

Added by Loni Zapata on April 10, 2009 at 2:06am — No Comments

helping survivors manage after death tasks

Both my parents died in the past two years. They were both healthy, relatively young (66 and 69) and had pre-planned their funerals, thankfully! However, there was so much to do with the house and all the "logistical" things that my four siblings and I handled. All I could think about was, "how do survivors handle this when they don't have any family to help them?" I am doing research for a book I am writing and would like any feedback from anyone who had to manage tasks after a loved one died.… Continue

Added by Kat on April 7, 2009 at 5:04pm — No Comments

august 11 2007

This was the day my son was killed in Iraq, and although it has been over 18 mos, there hasn't been a day I don't think of him, I have been through alot of tragic things, but this by far has been the hardest ordeal to get thru. I know they say in time it gets easier and but not really. How does one ever forget their child.

Added by Tina on April 7, 2009 at 12:52pm — No Comments

How to Make It Through the Night

Ideas for Getting to Sleep and Surviving the Long Nights



I can pretend during the daytime that Joe is away, working outside or in his workshop. Alone for the evening meal and crawling into an empty bed confirm the worst! The loneliness for him descends like a shroud and there is no escape. What do I do to get to sleep easier? And what about those long hours in the middle of the night when I wake and can’t get back to sleep?



STICK TO A REGULAR…

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Added by Marta Felber on April 5, 2009 at 4:00pm — 2 Comments

missing her

The overwhelming grief I feel envelops me suddenly. I cannot cry for a couple of days, or won’t cry. Then it slowly builds…all day little things spark it and I suppress and suppress. Then, like just now, I can’t hold back any longer. I’m watching one of our favorite TV shows. I keep looking over at her, but she’s not there. She can’t share the funny, the beauty, the silly with me anymore. Then it wells up and I just curl up in a ball and, well, let’s face it. I want my mommy. I walk around this… Continue

Added by Mysti Adams on April 5, 2009 at 1:07pm — 1 Comment

I need my DAD

I dislike cancer. I was raised to never use the word, but when I think of the beast and what it did to my dad, and is continuing to do to my family, I get angry. Why did death come that night 2/26/09. I miss my dad. I am torn up. I need him. I need to talk to him, laugh with him, hold his hand. I need my DAD.

Added by Ernest is my DAD!!! on April 3, 2009 at 2:05am — No Comments

UNCLE DANNY SHARPE

YOU HAVE ALWAYS BEEN MY HERO. IN A MAN, YOU KNOW IM GAY. ANYWAYS IF THERE EVER WAS A MAN THAT WOULD BE YOU. YOU DON'T DESERVE MANY OF THE THINGS THAT HAVE HAPPENED TO YOU. I LOVE YOU AND YOU WERE THE ONLY MAN HO WAS THERE TO HELP ME WHEN I WAS IN DIRE NEED. I,M SO SORRY ABOUT THE LOSS OF YOUR SON, BUT KNOW THAT HE REALLY IS BETTER OFF IN ANOTHER PLACE THAN IN THIS WORLD, HES LOOKING AT US FROM ABOVE AND SMILING OR LAUGHING. IM NOT REAL GOOD AT DEATH BUT I DO BELIVE THAT GOD HAS A PLAN FOR ALL… Continue

Added by penny watts on April 1, 2009 at 9:28am — No Comments

Visitation Etiquette

It’s easy to feel uncomfortable when you don’t know what to expect and that’s what happened to someone who recently attended a visitation. Visitations and funerals are not the same but they usually go hand in hand.



The visitation is a little less formal than the funeral and it’s an opportunity to provide support to the bereaved and spend some time visiting and speaking with the family. Funerals don’t afford that interaction. Some folks go to the visitation and the funeral…

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Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on April 1, 2009 at 8:30am — 1 Comment

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