My name is Susan Milewski, My husband passed on March 12,2011 two days after my 56 brithday. He was diagnosed with stage 4 kidney cancer on December 14,2010. We have been together for 32 years and married 18 of those years. I have no idea how to be alone and each day seems to get worce. I also do not know how to tell people that think they know what I feel that they dont. They have not lost a husband and it is not like losing a mother, father or any other family member. Some times I just want… Continue

We recently lost our mom and have been sorting through her personal things &  making decisions about what to pass on to whom? My mom raised 12 children alone as my dad died very young, so you can imagine how many grandchildren and great grandchildren she has. It has been a very sobering and heart breaking task to have to had to do all of this so quickly but she lived in a rented apartment that was to be rented to a new tenant.  I did not want to just toss her things in boxes that…

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The old saying "It gets better with time"....is an understatement. It should say, "It doesn't get better with time, the heartache gets different.". And that's only because it get's tired of the constant pain. The constant guilt, the constant wondering what would they be doing today? I lost 2 children to suicide, and one from a drug overdose.......I think I am going crazy sometimes. Then I lost my husband, my soul companion to a car accident. I miss them all in different ways, but it all…

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The night of August 25, 2010 we experienced what my son refers to as an "epic" storm. At any moment our house could have been torn apart, wind, rain and lightening kept our family from sleeping even though our bodies were exhausted & needed rest. Larry forced himself out of bed at 5:30 the next morning as I silently watched him brush his teeth, get dressed & slip out the door. It was the last time I would ever see him. In less than 3 hours he would no longer be a part of this world…

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It’s been ten years since my book, Do They Have Bad Days in Heaven? Surviving the Suicide Loss of a Sibling , was published. And it’s been eighteen years since my sister Denise walked in front of a train just two weeks shy of her eighteenth birthday during my…

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Someone, at some point, will say something inappropriate and potentially hurtful when you’re dealing with illness or death. There’s no getting around it; it happens. Maybe we should just face the reality that it’s part of the process.

 

I’ve learned through my own experience that most people truly do not mean to hurt us; they just don’t know what to say and through either their discomfort or lack of experience with loss, they say something totally…

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I remember my daughter coming home from kindergarten & to my amazement she said rather matter- of- factly, that every story has a problem; no problem = no story. Our life is our story and we all have problems large & small. It's how we react to the problems that reflect our character. Larry's death certainly caught me off guard. He was 8 years younger than me, and only 38 yrs. young. He was healthy, strong, optimistic, deteremined and he was everything to me. Now you see him &…

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Oh, Amy, I hope you can see all the beautiful colors and things that we get to see by using the internet and our earthly eyes. I miss your blue ones so much. They were perfect even tho you hated having to use contacts and hated your glasses. I know your vision is…

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How will they access my bank and brokerage accounts?



When you die, or if you are incapacitated, your loved ones will need to access your financial accounts. In the case of your incapacitation, someone will manage your finances, including paying bills, depositing any checks, managing necessary financial transactions (e.g., purchases, deposits, sales,…

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We just completed our 2nd anniversary of the loss of our oldest son Joshua.  My family is totally lame.  they dont call or talk about him anymore.  if i bring it up i am told just get over it.  my husbands family is the oposite.  they ask how are you doing.  what are you doing this year to honor him.  my family doesnt want me visiting his crash site.  while my husbands family asks what have i added.  this year we are putting up a cross with both childrens names on the cross my son josh and…

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My boyfriend Terry and I started dating in Dec 2010 and we fell in love instantly.(I'm 18 and he's 19) We knew each other for over a year and I didn't even know he had feelings for me.  We had so much fun and so much in common.  The night he asked me to be his girlfriend he text me and told me he was waiting outside for me. (It was 11:30 at night and freezing) He said it was important to him to ask me in person and didn't want to do it over the phone.  He told me first he loved me and he was… Continue