April 2013 Blog Posts (29)

Reconnecting Through Obituaries

Since I'm the only one of my siblings living in the town we grew up in – Atlanta – I am often the bearer of sad passings of friends from our childhoods. I monitor the obituaries daily and often send one to them, knowing they will be interested: A best friend's elderly mother, a favorite teacher, a boyfriend's dad and, just this week, an old boyfriend himself.


"He was the first boy I ever kissed," my sister Wendy said. "It was very awkward. I had just gotten braces…


Added by Susan Soper on April 30, 2013 at 2:30pm — 1 Comment


I miss my Mom......a lot. I find myself sitting in a silent apartment, alone.....just thinking of her and next thing I know it's four or five or twelve hours later and I've created another video about her. Enjoy.

Added by Mark Manning on April 30, 2013 at 7:24am — No Comments

How You Feel When You Lose A Partner

I'd like to introduce you to a German word that I think could help you to understand some of the confusing emotions you're experiencing in response to the loss of a partner.

The literal translation of the word SEHNSUCHT (German pronunciation: ze nzuxt) is longing, yearning, or…


Added by Ellen Gerst on April 29, 2013 at 11:10am — 5 Comments

The Jacket

I have Tim’s school bag. The strap is torn from the impact and heavy from his school books.  I don’t know exactly what happened to his jacket that he was wearing.  It was my jacket which was my platoon jacket from when I was in the Police Academy – my name and class number and platoon designation of “A”.  Over the years it became a ratty thing that Tim took to wearin…


Added by Martin Connors on April 27, 2013 at 2:30pm — 1 Comment

Another Death in the family

Recently my family experienced yet another death in our family....

My sisters husband died at the early age of 53. Life is so short for some of us. Tomorrow is not promised to anyone.....Thats why its so important that we appreciate the life that God has blessed us with. And to live each day to his praise honor and glory.   I am truly grateful for the courage and strength my family has shown always trusting in Jehovah for strength and relying on his promises in the Bible about the…


Added by Margaret Lopez on April 26, 2013 at 7:48am — No Comments

Legal Issues When Scattering Ashes

Q. My father is very ill and wants his ashes scattered in a lake near the family summer home when he dies. Are there restrictions on doing so? Who should I contact for specific information? Also, there will be no minister present when the ashes are scattered. Is there a protocol we should follow or particular words that should be said?   


Your questions raise some complicated issues. One is location. Is the lake on private or public property? The owner’s…


Added by Florence Isaacs on April 25, 2013 at 11:18am — 1 Comment

Sorting Through Your Spouse's Belongings

Q. My husband died 10 months ago and I still haven’t cleared out his closet and bureau. I can’t say when I’ll be ready to do it, but it certainly isn’t now. Is there something wrong with me? Also, what do I do with his belongings when I am ready?  


A bewildering number of tasks fall on a widow’s shoulders, but one of the most daunting is emptying your mate’s drawers and disposing of his clothes and other personal effects. I know of one widow who tackled the…


Added by Florence Isaacs on April 25, 2013 at 10:30am — No Comments

My son, my hero

Army SPC Kale Daren Clay-23 born March 3, 1986 to Feb 13, 2010

Kale entered the Army 9-25-07, where he completed Basic Training at Ft. Jackson SC, and did his Advanced Training at Ft. Sill. He was a 13B Canon Crew Member of A Battery, 3rd Battalion, 16th Field Artillary and stationed to Ft. Carson. In 2008/09 he served in Iraq, at CSC Scania in the Babel Province as the number one man on the Paladian Howitzer for his commander’s security.

"I'll love you forever, I'll like you for…


Added by Nancy L Clay on April 24, 2013 at 11:30pm — 2 Comments


Much has happened since my husband passed away. I moved away trying to start a new life for myself.  Since moving things have been very hard and difficult.  I am barely making it financially, my health has gotten worse, nothing is ever easy. I've changed. I am no longer that happy person who looked forward to life with my husband. I have become sinicle and bitter. I have lost my ambition and no longer care if I do anything. One day is just like the other. These are my changes. Do I like them…


Added by Sandralee on April 24, 2013 at 10:25am — No Comments

how do you live without out that person?

i hate my life without Shane things arent the same and its just geting worst for me. im so unhappy and its only been 6months and i feel like im dyeing inside and i dont care anymore about anything. how do you live without someone that you grew up with and has been in your life over 21 years and was your first love and your bf hell your everything in live how do you live without out that person? 

Added by Staci Smith on April 24, 2013 at 2:29am — No Comments

When to use e-mail following a death

Technology has changed the way we communicate. It’s now more common to keep in touch by text than e-mail, while phone calls and handwritten notes seem outmoded or obsolete. But when it comes to a death, are these newer forms of communication appropriate, or should we rely on the old fashioned forms of communication? Here are some thoughts:


  1. “A friend’s father-in-law passed away and there was no immediate announcement in the newspaper regarding a service or…

Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on April 22, 2013 at 12:30pm — No Comments

Even After All These Years there are certain times that you miss them so badly!

Hi, my name is Sue and here is some of my story. On May the 5th of 1979 my life changed and so did the life's of my two younger brothers. I had just turned 18 years old and was pregnant with my first child. As me and my husband and a couple of friends were headed to the lake for a camping trip. I was so excited about the trip because I had never been camping before. About 15 minutes away from the lake a vehicle got behind us and was honking its horn and flashing it's lights. I recognized the… Continue

Added by Sue McGee on April 19, 2013 at 12:43pm — No Comments

Comforting Words at the lost of a love one

In light of all of the senseless crime, violence, and horrific tradegies - one has to question - where is this all going and what hope do we have for the love ones that we lost?. 

There is such a wonderful future prospect for those of us who search out the scriptures  and take delight in the words expresses in the Bible in respects to God promise about death.  We can find such loving expressions at Revelation 21:3,4:- With that I heard a loud voice from the throne say: “Look! The tent…


Added by Diamond on April 18, 2013 at 5:39pm — No Comments

New, unfortunately

My name is Sam Russell, my wife Peggy died 28 Mar 13 at the age of 73yrs. This is my second marriage and second loss. Its not any better no many times it occurs. This is the love of my life. 10 yrs marriage and 54 yrs of love. No regrets only pain.

Added by samuel h russell on April 18, 2013 at 4:59pm — No Comments

A Sink Full of Dishes and Planning a Funeral

When I got home that evening, Tuesday, May 17, 2011, about 7:30 PM, I found people assembled at my home.  There were representatives from the Fraternal Order of Police, folks I had worked with and folks that I knew by reputation, and few co-workers.  The FOP set up a table of food, treats, and beverages in the living room.  Tasha, Jun’s wife, went to-and-fro picking after the kids and playing with my daughters.  Condolences were offered with hugs, hand-shakes, man-hugs where the arms are…


Added by Martin Connors on April 17, 2013 at 6:39pm — No Comments

Full Honor Guard


Added by Toni Hurley on April 17, 2013 at 12:28am — No Comments

To a special son.



When I am gone, release me, let me go.

I have so many things to see and do.

You must not tie yourself to me with tears,

Be happy that we had our years.

I gave you my love...You can only guess

How much you gave me in happiness.

I thank you for the love you each have shown,

But it's…


Added by David, BERNIE's dad on April 16, 2013 at 11:42am — No Comments

feeling sad is not the same as feeling or being guilty

This Sunday I went to Sea World with a group of friends for my 30 brithday and I was having a great time but when it start raining I got sad and all I could was think about Shane and I guess my friend saw one because one even asked if I was ok or not. I was but rain make me sad Shane die on a rainy day. One of my friend that was there told me that I need to stop feeling guilty for having fun Guilty what I feel is not Guilty, I know I have to live my life without him, but when your with…


Added by Staci Smith on April 16, 2013 at 5:04am — 2 Comments

How Long Does Grieving Last?

Grief impacts each individual differently. Recent research has shown that intense grieving lasts from three months to a year and many people continue experiencing profound grief for two years or more. Others' response to this extended grieving process may sometimes cause people to feel there is something wrong with them or they are behaving abnormally. This is not the case. The grieving process depends on the individual's belief system, religion, life experiences, and the type of loss…


Added by Damiro Carlos on April 15, 2013 at 10:49am — No Comments

Sudden Loss

A death that happens suddenly, unexpectedly, is an immeasurable tragedy. This type of loss often generates shock and confusion for loved ones left behind. Incidents such as a fatal accident, heart attack, or suicide can leave family members perplexed and searching for answers. In these cases, family members may be left with unresolved issues, such as feelings of guilt that can haunt and overwhelm a grieving person. These feelings may seem to take over your life at…


Added by Damiro Carlos on April 15, 2013 at 10:47am — No Comments

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