May 2012 Blog Posts (69)

Adam C. Jacobs

My brother Adam was born June 29, 1990. He was a talented musician, smart, and loving son, brother, and uncle. May 20, 2012 he took his own life. He has suffered from a severe mental illness since he was 17. My family is in ruins and have to try have cope with this horrific tragedy. My son who just turned 2 two days before it happened and my niece who turned 3 in Jan. will never know their uncle. My parents are struggling everyday. Just would be nice to talk to someone who can relat. This is…


Added by Amber Jacobs on May 31, 2012 at 9:04pm — 3 Comments

Casey only 22, died in Japan and was living his dream.

My name is Marsha and My son Casey was just into his 2nd year of teaching English Communications.  He had also spent 1 year of going to collage in Japan.  Yes, you can say he loved Japan.  It was odd how Casey just 2 months earlier before his death was begging me to come for a visit during his spring break because he wasn't one to go on and on about anything.  Well,  I spoke to his father and said Casey really seemed to feel it was important for me to come for a visit.  So I bought my…


Added by marsha lowe on May 30, 2012 at 6:29pm — 3 Comments

Sudden deaths

I came to this site looking for relief from the angst of dealing with a sudden death. What I read was so enlightening, that I felt like someone was writing my story. It is calming to know, that someone out there knows how I feel. January 7th of this year, my beloved sister and her husband were trapped in a three story house at the shore in Margate,NJ. They thought this house was going to be a dream come true. A fire broke out in the wee hours of the morning. By 1:30 am,both my sister and her…


Added by Mary Lewis on May 30, 2012 at 5:40am — 1 Comment

How do I forgive myself?

I have to begin at the beginning.

 I am an only child but I used to be the middle child.

My younger brother died when I was 4 and I don't really remember him.

When I was 15 my older brother died on Aug 20,1990 in a car accident. I was the last one in our family to see him alive and we had fought that night. (still can't forgive myself) My brother Leif was my hero he protected me from my mother, who was very abusive and still hates me for living when both of her sons…


Added by Lee Christine H on May 30, 2012 at 1:25am — No Comments

Buying a Gravestone

Q. My aunt died suddenly and was buried in a plot she purchased years ago. Because she had no children, I am now in charge of buying a cemetery stone. What’s the best way to do this and how should I proceed?

Begin by calling the cemetery to find out its rules for markers, headstones, and other options. Size, shape, design, and other requirements vary widely. 

You can buy the stone from a monument retailer and ask friends, neighbors, or relatives for…


Added by Florence Isaacs on May 29, 2012 at 9:00am — No Comments

my loss

I lost my husband May 18, 2012 in a motorcycle accident. He was 50 ft from our driveway when he hit loose gravel. He lost control of the bike an in trying to save the bike and himself, he hit a ditch. It threw his body forward and when he landed it broke his neck. We were having a bbq and me and a budy of his wife went to pick up the other buddies gf. I was 5 minutes from home when the hwy patrol called and told me he was dead on the scene. Two of my daughters say all the ambulances and that… Continue

Added by Kari Alanna Rochester Marchbanks on May 27, 2012 at 11:00pm — No Comments

Long Live Brown Dog

Last year for Memorial Day, I celebrated the life of Staff Sergeant Ryan Patman Means who lost his best friend on 9/11, joined the U.S. Army, received his Green Beret and served his country in Iraq until cancer cut his life tragically short two years ago – just days after the birth of his second daughter in a hospital across the street from where he was being treated for bile duct…


Added by Susan Soper on May 27, 2012 at 8:41pm — No Comments

When people smile...

We went to a revival last night..just hoping it would help.  It didn't.  All around me people were smiling and praising God, and I guess I'm not ready for that yet.  I felt angry at them!!


My daughter went to the cemetary where he is buried, and there was a cigarette butt put on his if he were smoking it!!  THAT has me so upset.  He smoked, and someone went there and did disrespectful to US, and to Chad.  I want him to rest in Peace!!  I'm just so angry. …


Added by Phyllis Estes on May 26, 2012 at 5:43pm — No Comments


Hi my name Francine I just lost the love of my life in Jan.3rd of this year.

I don't know how to go on with out him and so many unanswered questions.

everyone says i need to go and talk to someone not sure what to do.

and don't want to bother anyone.

Added by Francine m Pericas on May 25, 2012 at 10:40pm — No Comments

A Little Bit of History

Hello and thanks for stopping by to take a gander at my page. I'm new here, and am excited to be here to offer support to anyone needing it.

Let me begin by saying that losing a child or loved one is never easy. People deal with their own grief at different times and events in their lives. For instance, my son C.J. who was 2 years old in 1996 passed from Congestive Heart Failure. He was born in 1994 with…


Added by Beth Hoff on May 25, 2012 at 9:48pm — No Comments

gfy p/op

plaistow,nh<> --teen twin funeral service , for thiwknd.. doing sm canvas for evan dube.

Added by wendyfaber yee on May 25, 2012 at 6:30pm — No Comments

In Case of Emergency: A List for Widows

Q. My husband died a year ago and my children keep badgering me to give them an “in case” list of who they should contact if I’m seriously ill or injured and can’t manage my own affairs—or if I suddenly die. My son says, “What if you’re hurt in an accident or have a heart attack?” I guess it’s a good idea but is there an easy way to do this?

Some of us feel our eyes glazing over at the thought of compiling such a list, no matter how responsible we are and how much…


Added by Florence Isaacs on May 24, 2012 at 2:30pm — No Comments

To my Brother Robert Lee

You were a wonderful man ,father,brother,theres so much i want to say     I LOVE YOU ,I miss you , I wanted to take your hurt away.You are an Angel in Heaven now lookin down on us ,I know God has you safe with him in his arms ,theres not a day that goes by my heart doesnt hurt,or I dont cry we miss you so .You will always be in our hearts ,LOVE DADDY,MAMA,AUSTIN JACOB,AND MELINDA…


Added by melinda on May 23, 2012 at 2:04pm — No Comments

ive got so much going thru my head

im going back down hill again i have my good days and bad yesterday and today have been my really bad days were everything just runs thru my head it still feels like a nightmare i cant wake out of i dont understand any of this why why why is he gone why did he go the way he did i feel so alone so empty i miss him everyday thta goes by seems it just getd harder and harder to go on without him we were seperated when i was 4 yrs old i was put into a foster home my mom gave me up we were put…


Added by melinda on May 23, 2012 at 1:15pm — No Comments

why ????????????

On March 11, 2012, I lost my partner of 40 years.  We adopted 4 special needs boys.  They are now

14, 15, 17, and 18.  I was 10 years older than my partner and always believed I would go before him.

We moved into a new leased home on 4/28/2012 and he was released from the hospital on 4/30/2012.

We were both registered nurses.  I took care of him the first seven days, with every 2 hours of morphine.  Hospice came in the last three days.  He died holding my hand.  How…


Added by Drew Phillips-Pielaat on May 22, 2012 at 10:13pm — No Comments

about peace & healing xo

its been over 9 months since my only sibling, my dear brother, died. i haven't been on here because all i would do is cry...i am glad to say i don't cry everyday. something might trigger memories & might shed some tears..or i might even laugh. what i do know for sure, i will never, ever forget my brother..& i still keep him close to my heart. i have a shelf in my livingroom on a far little sidewall..that is all his own. i had an 8 x 10 made of the pic i use here for my profile.on the…


Added by Debbie Kratzer on May 22, 2012 at 2:38pm — 1 Comment

Should children write sympathy notes?

Many parents wonder if it’s appropriate for children to write sympathy notes. Should parents expose their children to death? And if so, at what age are children old enough to understand the complex feelings of sorrow and grief when a loved one dies?


These are tough questions to answer. From my perspective, it is never too early to learn compassion. Since so many adults struggle to write sympathy notes, wouldn’t it be beneficial to teach our children how to write…


Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on May 22, 2012 at 2:30pm — No Comments

Michael Patrick McPartland 1939-2001

My dad Had a Massive stroke in 1996 and  he  died on March 10th 2001  

Added by Mollyerin Middleton on May 22, 2012 at 12:16pm — No Comments

Ashton Michael Middleton Born May 12th 2009 - Died May 12th 2009

Ashton Michael Middleton May 12, 2009

2009 began as a wonderful year in January, when Molly found out that she was pregnant. …

Added by Mollyerin Middleton on May 22, 2012 at 11:05am — No Comments

Ashton Michael Middleton

Ashton Michael Middleton May 12, 2009

2009 began as a wonderful year in January, when Molly found out that she was pregnant. …

Added by Mollyerin Middleton on May 22, 2012 at 11:02am — 1 Comment

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