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Attending an X Husbands Funeral Service

Would it be appropriate to attend the service of her X husband. That is what my friend ask me. They have been divorced many years and are on fairly good terms. He has a terminal illness. She is the Mother of his 3 children, who are all grown.

Added by Gloria on February 22, 2009 at 5:10pm — 1 Comment

What not to say

Even those with the best intentions might say something inappropriate to the bereaved. Hurtful sentiments can damage relationships; so many individuals stay away, fearing they’ll say the wrong thing.

So what can you do? Stick to the basics when speaking with the bereaved. Communicate in some way your sadness at their loss and if you have some knowledge of the deceased, mention a quality you admired. For example: “I was so sad to hear of Jill’s death. Her wonderful nature…


Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on February 18, 2009 at 7:30am — 61 Comments

Giving a Great Eulogy

Q. An old friend of mine has died, and I’ve been asked to give a eulogy at the funeral service. I’m very nervous about it because I’ve never done this before. I’m afraid I’ll sound boring or trite. Can you give me some tips so I don’t make a fool of myself?

A. Today it’s rare to attend a funeral without at least one eulogy, and sometimes many people speak. We seem to need formal, thoughtful words to make sense of the death and give us closure in this era of…


Added by Florence Isaacs on February 17, 2009 at 11:30am — 1 Comment

Loss of a Mother

I found my mother last Sunday deceased. I was her primary caregiver after the nursing agency that came in to care for her everyday. I am the youngest of three children and have repeatedly been told over the last week how strong I am and how I will not have any problems getting through this be cause I am strong. If I hear that word used in reference to me one more time I might start pulling my hair out. Because people continue to tell me that I feel bad when I start to get tears in my eyes so I… Continue

Added by LaQuan Smith on February 16, 2009 at 9:50am — No Comments

I lost my Dad last year june 20

Ever since I lost my both parents at same time in genocide war in Congo, I can't sleep well and I think about them all day and night, my parents are very sincere and live simple life, We lost both our home and properties, I can never live in country of no peace.
GOD shall never forgive All bad leaders and war Lords. world should unite and say no to WAR Worldwide.

Added by Jenna on February 13, 2009 at 5:28am — No Comments

Stand by their side

It can be really awkward when someone you know is grieving a loss and you never met the deceased. Should you participate in the burial and mourning rituals at the funeral, cemetery, or home? Do you pay a personal call days or weeks following a death? Maybe you did know the deceased, but you’re afraid to say or do the wrong thing and contemplate staying away.

Many folks have questions on what’s appropriate etiquette following a death. I’ve come to the conclusion that just…


Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on February 10, 2009 at 2:00pm — No Comments

Loosing my daddy!

My dad had a MAJOR heart attack on Christmas night of 2006. I rushed him to the hospital where they told me that if he has another heart attack he wouldn't make it. In the mean time anything that could go wrong with a person's body went wrong on my dad. He was in a induced coma for about 2 1/2 months. He had to learn how to walk again due to laying there in the bed with no movement. He went to a rehab in Virginia Beach & was there for about two years. I brought my dad home this past… Continue

Added by Corinna Laxton on February 7, 2009 at 9:05pm — No Comments

Still struggling

My cousin committed suicide in June 2008. My world stopped that day. He was 21 and my little girls godfather. Why cant I get over it - why do I feel so upset still and I cant even talk about it without bursting into tears.

Added by Lisa Scott on February 6, 2009 at 1:15pm — No Comments

My Son...My friend...My reason Heaven is brighter

I Loved you so much. I am truly a different person since you went to heaven. I try so hard not to dwell on missing you and it's not always easy.
Mostly it is impossible.
I Love you still...

Added by Vicky Hampton on February 6, 2009 at 7:24am — No Comments

Obituary for Lynn Cary Peck

I need help finding Lynn Cary Peck's Obituary. He is the father of my grown son. He passed away some time in November 2008 Phoenix/Glendale Arizonia. Born March 16, 1940. Deceased bother Michael Roy Peck and mother Maxine A. Peck.
I would like to obtain this information for his son Michael.
Janice Slaughter

Added by Janice Slaughter on February 4, 2009 at 9:19am — 1 Comment

How do I create my planner?

Whether you use Get It Together or handle the job on your own, there are a few basic steps to completing and maintaining your personal planner.

1. Get started! Set aside one- to two-hour windows—sufficient to be productive, but not overwhelming. If using…


Added by Melanie Cullen on February 3, 2009 at 11:00am — No Comments

Get It Together provides a framework

First, let’s consider the process—preparing important documents, collecting related records, storing them securely, talking with loved ones and maintaining your personal “planner” (the name I’ll use for your compiled records). You can prepare your planner yourself, relying simply on the tips in this column. Or you can turn to Get It Together (…


Added by Melanie Cullen on February 3, 2009 at 10:30am — No Comments

Welcome to Get It Together Now!

Welcome to Get It Together Now, a new column about organizing your important records—for yourself and, eventually, for your loved ones.

If you’ve ever pitched in for someone who has become incapacitated, or if you’ve helped to wrap up an estate following a death, you know how hard it is. It’s hard emotionally to step in to the void left by that person, however temporarily. It can be hard spiritually to lose the companionship of one you love and the partnership of one you rely on.…


Added by Melanie Cullen on February 3, 2009 at 10:00am — No Comments

I lost my father in September of 2005.

3 years and 5 months have passed since my Father Marco Antonios Death. My dad was murdered on September 13, 2005 at Ybarra Jewelers in Eastland Plaza. This case is still unsolved and My family and I pray every day that we find the ones who took my dad away from us in such a brutal, horrible, indescribable way. This impacted us so much because my father was the most charismatic, friendly, down to earth family man you would of ever met. We think about him every single day, not a day goes by we… Continue

Added by Marcella on February 2, 2009 at 2:30am — No Comments

When to ask for help

It’s really tough to ask friends for help since it feels like we can’t handle our affairs. And yet we all face experiences that are so difficult, it is impossible to cope by ourselves. Some folks know the right things to do but others will look to you for guidance. Here are some things you might ask for when facing a tough time:

1. Ask to have a lunch or dinner order picked up at a favorite food outlet. I did this with a friend, leaving a lunch order over her voicemail,…


Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on January 30, 2009 at 6:30am — No Comments



Added by lost without my brother on January 29, 2009 at 11:30pm — 1 Comment

Book Review: 'The Grieving Child' by Helen Fitzgerald

When a doctor informed Helen Fitzgerald that her husband was dying from cancer, he discouraged her sharing the diagnosis with the patient. This also meant not telling her four children – the prevailing wisdom of the time was that children should not be exposed to sad or disturbing news. Her children nevertheless sensed something was wrong, causing tensions within the family, and when she… Continue

Added by LegacyConnect on January 29, 2009 at 1:30pm — No Comments

trying to find Stephanie and connect

I don't know any other way to find you. You connected with me about about my brother Bailey's death, oct 28 AND WAS SO KIND . i CAN'T SEEM TO CONNECT WITH you again. this website says I have no friends listed. I'm so frustrated because at first you were so helpful. I tried to say thank you and that I saw your sister's beautiful commemorative you made for her. Please contac me. your loving kindness meant the world to me. I REALLY NEED TO FIND SOME COMFORT FROM THE PEOPLE WHO… Continue

Added by nancy raimer on January 28, 2009 at 12:18am — No Comments

my son died

My son,Shane died in his sleep of heart faliure. He was 37. He died Oct. 15 2008. It's just awful. It's so sad, horrible,I can't think. I want him back, happy and healthy and to be with his daughters again. I want to hear his voice, and always smiling and laughing with his big hugs. I miss my little boy my son

Added by Patty on January 24, 2009 at 12:54pm — No Comments

Two and a half weeks

It's been two and a half weeks since my Mom passed away. She was also my best friend. I was her Caregiver for 10 years. I feel so lost, like I have nothing to do. I find myself just sitting and staring off, thinking. I have a hard time thinking about anything else. Sheri

Added by Sheri on January 23, 2009 at 7:38pm — No Comments

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