July 2012 Blog Posts (34)


I'LL ALWAYS BE THERE FOR YOU I made this for my daughter...it's pictures of her and Andy over the years.




Added by Lori Jones-Andy's mom on July 31, 2012 at 10:47am — 1 Comment

6 months and 1 day

Well it's been 6 months and 1 day now since my Andy took his last breath in this world.  It's still incredibly hard.  There's rarely a day that goes by that I don't WANT to give up and be with him.


We are also still battling the life insurance company, even lawyers...the one we *thought was handling everything I guess decided he was too busy but was even too busy to let us know until my husband finally just went to his office.  Nice huh?  Espcially since much of this is time…


Added by Lori Jones-Andy's mom on July 31, 2012 at 9:59am — 1 Comment

How can I go on...

I just came back from the grocery store. It was hard to shop when I knew I did not need to buy Lucky Charms or Hot Pockets, no frozen pizza or corn dogs. I didn't have to call home 3 times to ask, "what kind of pop do you want?", "Do you need deodorant?" or  "anything else you can think of ?". My phone didn't ring with Dylan asking if I could buy him some Axe body spray, or some face wash...it was a quiet trip to the store. I didn't cry, I have been trying very hard to keep that from…


Added by Elizabeth Ireland on July 29, 2012 at 7:07pm — 2 Comments


It's a known fact that sometimes its better to talk about our experiences with the pain of death then keeping it inside. I believe there are two different kinds of screams.. Those that are uncontrollably expressed and those that are silent. Whether we are alone in our room, car or an open field, when we grieve it's as if our screams of agony are silent. We hear it though.. We hear our voices as it makes stinging sounds of pain and sadness. We may even take our own hand and place it over our own… Continue

Added by Mapisha Cruise on July 28, 2012 at 2:40pm — No Comments

How can I go on...

It has been one month since my buddy, my partner in crime, my beautiful son has been gone from my life. My body aches, my heart is shattered and still I ask why. My son was not suicidal, his Father committed suicide when Dylan was 7 years old, he was adamant about the fact that it was a selfish and cowardly thing to do. We talked in length about it. He spoke to his closest friend and his wonderfully understanding girlfriend about it, he had a tattoo on his arm that read, "Gra Beatha" it…


Added by Elizabeth Ireland on July 28, 2012 at 1:30pm — 1 Comment

A Promise from God

Revelation 21:4 says " And he will wipe out every tear from their eyes and death will be no more neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore the former things have passed away.

Added by Margaret Lopez on July 28, 2012 at 7:40am — 1 Comment

Hearing my Heart Break 2nd year

Hello my Beautiful Boy

Today marks 2 years that I received a call no mother ever wants to hear. I remember the time, the place, the disbelief, the agony, and the Hearing of my Heart break…….Everything is now measured by “Before I lost Brett” and “After I lost Brett” You cross my mind so many times a day. Memories; even small things like being in a store and thinking how much you would have liked something or hearing the laughter of your son sounding so much like you; He has your sense of…


Added by Colleen Pasay on July 28, 2012 at 1:28am — No Comments

Honoring Surviving Siblings Everywhere

My goal when I decided to write my first book, Do They Have Bad Days in Heaven? Surviving the Suicide Loss of a Sibling, was to bring other sibling survivors of suicide together. I knew my siblings and I weren’t the only ones who belonged to this “group” but in those pre-Internet browsing days, I also didn’t have access to others.


On Saturday night, July 21, I had the honor, and I do mean this was an honor, to speak at The Compassionate Friends Conference…


Added by Michelle Rusk (Linn-Gust) on July 27, 2012 at 3:38pm — 4 Comments

A word of comfort

This is a very encouraging scipture to meditate on when we are feeling overwhelmed by the loss of someone we love dearly.



46:1) God is for us a refuge and strength, A help that is readily to be found during distresses.

Rely on God for strength and comfort especially when we feel like we can't take it anymore. Grief can be so overwhelming and draining.…


Added by Margaret Lopez on July 26, 2012 at 7:35am — 2 Comments

Loss of a sister then a brother

On 10/24/2009 I lost my sister - she died of a heart attack.  It wasn't like we didn't know this would happen.  She had her first attack 13 years earlier.  I just didn't expect it to happen when it did.  I was suppose to come down to SC so we could "trick or treat", but I was sick and didn't feel up to the trip.  Instead we received a call from the coroner!  To make matters worse when my Mom and I were heading to the airport, I hit a deer!  Very unexpectedly on 7/24/2011 my brother was…


Added by Barbara L. Plante on July 25, 2012 at 4:27pm — 1 Comment

Still So broken

Well its been 5.5 months and this past week i cannot seem to find a way out of my pain.  I had a realization that my brother is not coming back. EVER,. I then started to think that if his soul reincarnates then he is gone from me forever and it makes me insane.  My heart is so broken. I miss him so much.  Loggin on here and seeing the pain is the only place that feels like im truly not alone in agony.  I know he is free and not suffering, but i am now.  Still wondering what the meaning of…


Added by Jennifer on July 25, 2012 at 1:05pm — 2 Comments

Is this a family and if so why all my life was I so pushed away?

  My family lives in Nebraska, I live in Las Vegas.  I have always had a distant relationship with my father due to me leaving home when I did.  Today is the 2 year anniversary of my sister's death.  I have tried numerous attempts of reaching out to them and never would get that back.   I posted on Facebook my page.  When I did I looked up my sisters to reconnect with them.  They proceeded to tell me my sister had passed and did'nt know why I was not there.  Well I live in Nevada 1st of all,…


Added by Sandy Barry on July 23, 2012 at 1:32pm — No Comments

Directing Your Final Exit: Lessons from Nora Ephron about Death and Dying

U.S. director Nora Ephron, left, and U.S. actress Meryl Streep are seen during a photocall for the movie 'Julie and Julia' at the 35th American Film Festival, Saturday, Sept. 5, 2009, in Deauville, Normandy, France. (AP Photo/Michel Spingler) Nora Ephron once said she wanted everyone at her funeral to be “a basket case.” And they were. From family members to famous celebrities – 800 invited guests, including her ex-husband, Carl Bernstein. But that doesn’t mean humor and heartfelt tributes were absent in the New York good-bye to the journalist-author-screenwriter-producer-director-cook. According to news accounts,…


Added by Susan Soper on July 23, 2012 at 8:30am — 6 Comments

My sister's suicide - a story that continues to spiral downward

Roughly one month ago, my older sister committed suicide.  She was my best friend and confidant in our adult lives, and lovingly maternal caretaker when we were young.  Young (30s), brilliant and beautiful, she had so much life yet to live.  We were both emotionally and physically abused by our parents; one is a mentally ill addict and the other, a physically disabled enabler.  It was through sharing this traumatic childhood that our bond was indestructible.  Few people can relate to such a…


Added by MidnightPoet on July 20, 2012 at 7:26pm — 4 Comments

Coping with a loved one's mental illness

On June 24, I received a text message from my wife: "Problem with Gabe. Come home." When I reached home a few minutes later, my worst nightmare became a horrible reality. Gabe had jumped from the balcony of his apartment on the 59th floor of Marina City. Our beautiful, loving son was…


Added by LegacyConnect on July 20, 2012 at 8:30am — 18 Comments

In Memoriam for a Business Partner

Q. One of my business partners just died, and I’d like to run an In Memoriam ad in the newspaper and an industry trade magazine. What is a suitable In Memoriam message? I’ve never written one before.

Few of us have. Yet there are occasions in business or professional life when an In Memoriam ad or notice is appropriate to acknowledge the death of a principal, employee, colleague, customer or client, supplier or consultant and honor his/her memory in…


Added by Florence Isaacs on July 19, 2012 at 12:00pm — 4 Comments

Finding Light In the Chaos

My journey or  “second life” began on  June 11, 2012 at 8:45PM — the moment I’ve realized that I’ve lost Derek — my best friend, true love and soul mate suddenly and unexpectedly.

How would I have described my life if I had met you prior to 8:45PM that evening? I would have said that I was a seasoned marketer,…


Added by Valerie Blair on July 16, 2012 at 10:30pm — 2 Comments

Respecting Different Mourning Rituals

We live in a multicultural age where many of us have family members from different faiths and nationalities. And yet when someone in our social circle or community dies and they’re from a different culture or faith, we often seem at a loss for what’s appropriate to do. If we ignore the religious and cultural rituals of the bereaved, we run the risk that our thoughtful gesture may cause confusion rather than solace.


For example, a friend was perplexed after his…


Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on July 16, 2012 at 6:30am — 2 Comments


my friend passed away in 08 i didnt find out till 6 months later i found his obituary in the paper hes from new jersey im from ohio but i cant figure out if he was buried or creamated how would i find out?

Added by irma rodriguez on July 14, 2012 at 8:16am — 1 Comment

Lori Peltier

My Husband, Michael S. Peltier

Added by Lori P. on July 13, 2012 at 4:34pm — No Comments

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