July 2015 Blog Posts (22)

Ask For Help

At times we feel strange asking for help, especially when we are typically independent.  When feeling vulnerable those around you feel useful when you ask for help.  It's okay to sit back and allow others to do for you.  Be kind to yourself.

Added by Private Memorial Clergy Boston on July 31, 2015 at 8:30pm — No Comments


A Celebrant is defined as a person "who celebrates something."  Today more people are moving towards a Celebrant style Memorial Service and Anniversary Service for a departed loved one.  Celebrants can work with families and create Services that have no religious, or spiritual elements whatsoever.  A Celebrant can also add religious elements if some family members practice a…


Added by Private Memorial Clergy Boston on July 31, 2015 at 8:00pm — No Comments

Ways I Can Keep My Joy

So, I was doing some more reading today and identifed some ways to keep joy in my life despite hardships..... volunteering and doing things for others

I put the focus not on myself but others.  Sending cards or buying gifts for someone having a difficult time...We dont always have to wait to the holdays to give. Practice giving and that will help you maintian joy Good thought! NWT ACTS 20:35

Added by T.C. Goodwin on July 30, 2015 at 11:28am — No Comments


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Added by dream moon on July 29, 2015 at 2:55pm — 5 Comments

" I have a Black Dog Named Depression"

Some one shared this link on you tube with me and I found it very insightful. I agree all of us struggle with some sort of depression and many of us deal with it in different ways. Some good and some bad ways...As I read my scriptual text this morning, I am reminded that we need to support those that are weak ACTS 20:35... Practice giving ...&.Always remember that the God of tender mercies is there for us in this trialsome time. I needed that this morning.....

Added by T.C. Goodwin on July 29, 2015 at 10:01am — 3 Comments

Today marks 6 months

Today marks 6 months. 

I am going to commemorate it by eating the other half of a frozen pizza Tim had made himself from scratch, dough and sauce to boot.  I found it last week.  It'll probably taste like a mastodon chipped from the tundra of Siberia but throwing it out just doesn't seem right.  Too salty for the vegetable garden compost, certainly not something the dogs may have ("no means no"), so I'll eat it.  If I'm unpleasant to be around while I do…


Added by Andrew McCullough on July 29, 2015 at 10:00am — 1 Comment

Future Plans - Living Will & POA

So... an elderly friend of mine is wondering who she should select as her power of attorney... I know its not always easy because families cant get along and no one wants hurts feelings.... That's why families need to communicate now and figure out things like this...It's so much drama when our love ones die and the family is fighting NWT Prov 21:5

Added by T.C. Goodwin on July 28, 2015 at 5:42pm — No Comments

Why Run an In Memoriam Notice?

Q. I see In Memoriams in the newspaper regularly, but I wonder why people bother to place them. First, they’re expensive. Second, isn’t an obituary enough? 

Many of us never consider an In Memoriam because it isn’t a family custom and funeral costs are hard enough to…


Added by Florence Isaacs on July 27, 2015 at 11:00am — No Comments

A metaphor for healing

I use metaphors quite often in my thinking and included many of them in my book, Surviving the Loss of Your Loved One; Jan's Rainbow. This book was inspired by the rainbow that surrounded our home the day after I lost my wife of 40 years, Jan, to…


Added by Lindsay Collier on July 26, 2015 at 10:53am — No Comments


 " God please give us the inner calmness that we need to deal with the anxieties of life ... free us from the uneasiness and unsettled minds" NWT Phil 4:6,7

Added by T.C. Goodwin on July 26, 2015 at 9:27am — No Comments

Celebrant Memorial Service

Just as in writing wedding vows, there are no limits to honoring a loved one either.  You can mix elements of a certain religion or faith, or leave faith out of a service all together.  If you want to involve people in the ceremony, pick two or three people to do a reading.  A reading can be poetry, a biblical passage or an original writing about the deceased (encourage a…


Added by Private Memorial Clergy Boston on July 24, 2015 at 9:30pm — No Comments

Here's to Tim and from us to you.

I went to an actual social function yesterday evening. 

I went alone.

It was weird. 

It was also liberating.  Maybe 'liberating' isn't the right word... 'defining' maybe? 

This was the first time I've done anything social since his open house non-memorial memorial party in March.  I haven't wanted to see anyone because the one person I want to see more than any other is gone, therefore I want nobody.  That's a dangerous logic. 

It was a garden party…


Added by Andrew McCullough on July 20, 2015 at 12:42pm — 2 Comments

Deepest of Sorrows

When my daughter (now 30) was 17 years old, her dear friend was hit by a train and killed.  Her entire youth was spent playing sports with this girl.  They were truly the home town heroes in every sport they ever played.  There was not a week when their names were not in the local paper.
Now the shock wave hit our home town.  Stunned by a…

Added by Private Memorial Clergy Boston on July 14, 2015 at 1:30pm — No Comments

To Move Through Grief Don't Resist It

One can feel overwhelmed and even fearful of their own grief.  The best way to move through it is to allow it and know that it is a process.  In the leaning into grief without resistance we honor ourselves and begin to heal.

There is no one who does not experience sorrow and you will get to the other side as did others before you.  Often times the one…


Added by Private Memorial Clergy Boston on July 14, 2015 at 9:30am — 4 Comments

A Promise from God

(Revelation 21:4) And he will wipe out every tear from their eyes, and death will be no more, neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore. The former things have passed away.”

Added by Margaret Lopez on July 14, 2015 at 7:57am — No Comments

Eulogy Worksheet

Eulogy Worksheet

Eulogy Worksheet

A Eulogy is a "word picture" of a diseased Soul's life here on Earth.  A Eulogy can be written and given by one person or it can be a "shared Eulogy" between two people. In a shared Eulogy two people can work together to cover different aspects of the…

Added by Private Memorial Clergy Boston on July 13, 2015 at 2:55pm — No Comments

My son was murdered

On May 26, 2015, my son was shot in the stomach by a person who robbed subway in Stockton , California. He was 43 years old, married no children they were going to adopt a baby. He was the kindest person everyone who knew him liked him. He would give you the shirt off his back if you asked for it. He was a college educated man but could not find work in his field but he took a job at subway rather then go on welfare or turn to crime to make ends meet. this animal came in and shot him for a…


Added by Paula Lucero on July 13, 2015 at 12:37pm — 5 Comments

Making a Memorial Donation

Many of us choose to make donations in memory of our loved ones and those of our friends, colleagues, family members and neighbors. I made one just today in the memory of a friend’s mom. The donation was easy; the death announcement indicated where donations should be made, and I went online and made the payment.

But when…


Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on July 10, 2015 at 7:30am — No Comments

Says it All

Added by Andrew McCullough on July 9, 2015 at 9:49am — No Comments

Helping other with their loss is a great way to help yourself

It's been 15 years since I lost my wife of 40 years, Jan. Three years after losing her I married a lovely lady who had lost her husband and was in a bereavement group with me. We are very happy but I will always keep Jan in my heart. One of the major sources of strength for my recovery has been helping others. My book, Surviving the Loss of Your Loved One, Jan's Rainbow has brought comfort to so many people as have my presentations on the topic. Something to keep in mind - when you help…


Added by Lindsay Collier on July 7, 2015 at 8:57am — 1 Comment

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