August 2012 Blog Posts (47)

Depression and Suicide: Knocking on Death's Door

In this post I want to share my insights on suicide. In finding that those who have not experienced suicidal feelings are simply not able to comprehend what is happening, this blog is designed to urge these people to accept their ignorance and think carefully about their reactions to the suicidal. Suicidal people need…

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Added by Yaz Rooney on August 16, 2012 at 5:30am — 2 Comments

Complicated Grief

I experienced what the psychology profession calls complicated grief. A year after Zak’s death, I descended into an extremely black abyss that seemed to keep me in its grip no matter what efforts I made to climb out.…

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Added by Yaz Rooney on August 16, 2012 at 3:43am — No Comments

Anger...Avoiding Grief

Grief massacres; it is an entity that reaches into the soul and annihilates the covert enemies we’ve come to accept as friends and lovers; the aspects of self that discreetly destroy our innate joy. I discovered later that grief is a dark Prophet of human salvation, yet it can never, ever be welcomed with open…

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Added by Yaz Rooney on August 16, 2012 at 3:00am — No Comments

Honor Your Loss

To Honor: a privilege (to show respect); a showing of usually merited respect; reverence (implies profound respect mingled with love or awe)

All the definitions and synonyms of honor include the concept of…

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Added by Ellen Gerst on August 15, 2012 at 11:33am — 2 Comments

The Day Death Appeared

I’d waited all my life for this moment. It was the reason for the panic attacks I’d suffered for years, the cause of the deep anxiety that I had carried with me for most of my life. This moment rose up from that dark void that I always referred to as the ‘hole in my soul’. This moment was the darkness that I’d…

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Added by Yaz Rooney on August 15, 2012 at 2:00am — 1 Comment

My Journey Through This Dark Night

Hello everyone.

This blog and the ones that follow relate my own story of devastating loss and its wrecking ball effect on my rigid belief systems. It is an account of how my own intense grief and black depression eventually illuminated the meaning…

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Added by Yaz Rooney on August 14, 2012 at 9:00am — 2 Comments

No Regrets

I've seen several people posting about all the regrets they have surrounding their spouses death.  I know how difficult that is to bear.  My Barry, the light of my heart, took his life.  I found him in the garage one morning, hanging by a rope.  For several days after he died, I was completely overcome with regret.  It ate away what was left of me.  I let it consume me completely.  Why didn't I see this coming?  What did he do differently in the days leading to this?  Why didn't I wake up…

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Added by Christopher Ruggles on August 13, 2012 at 1:39am — 2 Comments

grieveing privately

I lost three family members in the last two years, and the later were the last year, mu sister and New Years Day, we had been estranged but not by choice.

 

Added by Julie G Wilbur on August 11, 2012 at 3:12pm — 1 Comment

God, please, I want to hold him just once more.

Todd died July 22, and since then chronicologic time has blurred; I cannot tell you what day of the week it is without referring to my calendar. I have lost my mother and father, and those losses were difficult, but losing Todd has been like having my arms removed. He was my right hand man and my left hand man. We were very, very happy together. Both of us loved to watch gymnastics and ice skating, and neither of us understood football. =-) He was about as nutty as I am and was very quick to…

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Added by Brent Pettit on August 10, 2012 at 12:05pm — 2 Comments

"Love Never Fails"

Love Never Fails…”

That was the inscription etched onto the tiny wooden cross carefully wrapped within an eBay purchase which I was not supposed to receive for another four weeks and delivered by a gentleman whom I never saw before. I had thought the inscription was a “cosmic response” to…

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Added by Valerie Blair on August 8, 2012 at 3:30pm — 2 Comments

Teaching Children to Comfort the Bereaved

I learned to be comfortable with the bereaved because at a young age, I was the bereaved. I witnessed firsthand how young friends, their parents, my neighbors, teachers, school officials, relatives, and family friends treated me and interacted with me upon learning that my father died.

 

And yet it was my mom who taught me how to comfort the bereaved. She connected by phone, cooked a meal, visited the bereaved, and continued to help long past when others ceased to…

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Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on August 8, 2012 at 2:00pm — No Comments

The Widow Social Niche

Q. My social life has changed noticeably since my husband died a year ago. I’m almost never invited to a dinner party anymore unless it’s family-oriented. Is it just me, or does this happen to other widows, too?



Actually, your experience is very common. It’s a myth in our society that friendships always stay the same – or last forever – or should. In fact, our friendships ebb and flow (and sometimes disappear) as we change, others change, or the situation…

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Added by Florence Isaacs on August 7, 2012 at 3:30pm — 3 Comments

anyone else

I lost my little sister on April 21st 2012 unexpectedly.  My mother found her dead in her apartment, she was 19 years old.  On that Saturday morning i recieved a phone call from my younger brother telling me i need to go to mom she found her dead. I spent what seemed like enternity sobbing and screaming on my floor until my sister in law came to pick me up. All of my close immediate family rushed to her apartment and stayed while the police and coroner did their job.  We saw her come out in…

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Added by Jamie King on August 7, 2012 at 3:17pm — 1 Comment

its been 16 weeks

hi. It has been 16 weeks since my husband died of cancer. He died in hospice after nine days. We dealt with melanoma for two and a half years. My questions are these:

does this journey REALLY get better?????

 

why dont I feel more relieved like some people do when their spouse dies in hospice? or suffering from cancer? I do feel a little relieved but more griefstricken. How can I feel more relieved??

 

Any answers? Please help me if you can. I need…

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Added by Abby boerner on August 7, 2012 at 12:57pm — No Comments

its been 16 weeks

hi. It has been 16 weeks since my husband died of cancer. He died in hospice after nine days. We dealt with melanoma for two and a half years. My questions are these:

does this journey REALLY get better?????

 

why dont I feel more relieved like some people do when their spouse dies in hospice? or suffering from cancer? I do feel a little relieved but more griefstricken. How can I feel more relieved??

 

Any answers? Please help me if you can. I need…

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Added by Abby boerner on August 7, 2012 at 12:57pm — No Comments

Missing My Mom

I have been missing my Mom so much lately.This is a picture of us when I was a baby. I'm her oldest child and am now 33 years old. My Mom unexpectedly passed away on May 18, 2012 at 2:33 pm of a massive heart attack. 

Lately I have been feeling anxious, guilty, upset, and extremely sad. We all have our good and bad days when it comes to grieving, and my days have been bad so far. My Mom was such a sweet and loving woman and I often want to scream and curse at God for taking her away…

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Added by Robin Preston-Richeson on August 6, 2012 at 7:06am — 1 Comment

My Father Honored Volunteer Fireman and MAN WHO SERVE HIS COMMUNITY WITHOUT QUESTION

My Father passed without all but 2 weeks warning back in 2010,, I have many fond memories of him although people don't realize this,,,,He was an honored fireman and American Legion, Lions Club and VFW,,plus so much more...He taught us kids about how honorable it was just to knock on someones door and ask,,,,Do You Need Anything....not wait for them to come to you.....When the lord decided to take him I was called abond..either come help mom and take him home or he has to go to nursing…

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Added by Berta on August 5, 2012 at 10:03pm — No Comments

My Uncle Harry G. 'Bud' Budinger 11-30- 1948 - 8-2-2012

I'm having a tough time dealing with the loss of my Uncle.

 

I know its a shock for everyone and me on my father's side of the family.

 

When I found out that my Uncle was dying and then the day after he died when…

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Added by Belinda Wilson on August 5, 2012 at 9:55am — No Comments

Lost my best friend my love of 23 years

In March of this year my husband was diagnosed with gall bladder cancer that had metastasized to his liver given a 3-6 month life expectancy after 3 1/2 months of unbelievable pain and over a month of that a stay in the hospital he passed away on July 15th.  I am usually a very strong person but this is just tearing me apart I am scared to talk to friends and family because I dont want to be a bummer and depressed all the time with them.  I do feel depressed…

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Added by Margie Thrash on August 5, 2012 at 9:55am — 1 Comment

i need help

I'm losing myself, I need my son I can't live without him but I do have another child I understand he needs me to but it to much to live to move on to be the same mother. I need help I think another another dieing ever day and how I would, could do it.

Added by stephanie on August 4, 2012 at 11:17pm — No Comments

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