When my neighbor’s daughter died following a car accident, the neighborhood pulled together and extended an array of kindnesses. Folks they did not know left bagels on their doorstep; others placed additional obituaries in their mailbox, and many sent cards and flowers. My neighbor wanted to acknowledge the thoughtful deeds but was…Continue
Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on April 23, 2017 at 4:00pm — No Comments
A friend’s father made his final requests abundantly clear. He wanted no obituary, burial, or funeral rituals of any kind. His wife honored his wishes; he was cremated and his remains reside on the top shelf of the master closet. With no memorial or gathering of friends following her husband’s death, the bereaved spouse has been unable to grieve. Her daughter worries she will never mourn or move…Continue
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Added by dream moon on April 9, 2017 at 5:27pm — No Comments
I am on here because about a month ago I lost my beloved 25 year old son Colton to suicide. This has been the most difficult month of my life! I miss my baby boy so much! I feel like my heart has been ripped out and stomped on!
Therapists and counselors who work with bereaved spouses commonly advise: Wait a year or so before finalizing the decision, unless you have no choice for financial or other…Continue
Added by Florence Isaacs on March 21, 2017 at 11:30am — No Comments
How do you respond when a friend or family member gets sick, has an accident, requires treatment or rehabilitation, or experiences the death of a loved one?
Many of us want to be there and would like to do the right things, but something prevents us.…Continue
Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on March 19, 2017 at 2:30pm — No Comments
Q. My colleague’s 19-year-old brother died in a freak biking accident. I attended the funeral and sent a condolence note, but worry about what to say and do when the bereaved comes back to work next week. What is your advice?
You’re not alone in your concerns. “Coworkers and managers don’t know…Continue
Added by Florence Isaacs on March 17, 2017 at 7:30am — No Comments
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If you have ever lost a loved one, you know how painful it is. We grieve: It's our response to loss, and mourning is our reaction to grief. Mourning is the heartbreaking process we work through so we can eventually adapt to loss.
Friends or family members play a crucial role in extending support during the mourning period.…Continue
Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on March 5, 2017 at 12:00pm — No Comments
In the aftermath of her daughter’s death, my friend Isabel’s memory is hazy. She recalls friends surrounding her; they called, sent flowers, prepared meals, made donations, and attended the memorial service. And then silence. In the ensuing weeks, it took all her energy to assume fragments of her routine. Isabel said she exhausted her reserve and could…Continue
Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on February 15, 2017 at 7:00pm — No Comments
It’s important to consider your social media accounts when making your estate plans. Do you want your accounts deleted or memorialized upon your death? Add a list of your social media accounts, passwords, and other required information to your estate planning documents so your heirs can easily and completely manage your affairs.…Continue
Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on February 1, 2017 at 3:00pm — No Comments
Well next month it will be 5 years since my brother passed away from alcoholism at 32 years old. It feels crazy that amount time has passed... I think I may have been living in a bubble the first 2 or 3 years just managing daily life and trying to get through. Other people share that it gets easier ..... I cant say I agree. Although I moved on with life and have a great life, it has not remotely made a difference in the amount of pain I feel, or the fact that he inst coming back. It…Continue
Added by Jennifer on January 24, 2017 at 8:31pm — No Comments
Nine days ago I lost my other half. The 29th of this month will be our 3year anniversary, although we had been friends over half of my life. I've never had to deal with losing someone this close to me and I never knew a person's heart could hurt so much. It feels like my world was turned upside down and I don't know when it will ever turn right side up again. My chest is tight, my stomach is in knots, my head is hurting. I feel like I am on a roller coaster of emotions; torn between…Continue
Added by Tiffany Phillips on January 24, 2017 at 9:30am — No Comments
When loss hits, it wipes you out. It can be hard to get out of bed each morning no less resume daily routines. How can you make you way back while continuing to mend?
Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on January 24, 2017 at 9:00am — No Comments
My name is James but most people call me Tommy. I am the oldest son of 4 brothers. But my story starts with the fact that there are only two of us left. 18 years ago my first brother died in a car accident. I got a call near midnight from another brother telling me that he had died. He was only a year younger than me. Of course his death was hard but in many ways it drew our family closer together. In some ways I felt like I had closure with him. Fast forward to 2011. I got another…Continue
Added by James Shults on January 16, 2017 at 11:12am — No Comments
Added by Joyce Gordon on January 7, 2017 at 5:27pm — No Comments
The big question is: matter to whom? So many rituals, which bind us together, have fallen by the wayside in our…Continue
Added by Florence Isaacs on January 5, 2017 at 9:00am — No Comments
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Added by Colleen Pasay on January 1, 2017 at 10:51am — No Comments
We will be going on 9 months on Jan. 8th since I lost my husband to a drugged driver. Sometimes I get so lonesome not only because most the time I am home alone but I miss his voice and seeing him look over at me, I miss his smile, I miss knowing that he is next to me in the bed. So many other people still have kids at home, I am alone.
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