When we learn there’s a death, we think it’s essential to respond immediately. Some folks rise to the occasion and quickly craft a heartfelt message. But if you need some time to do the job justice, take it. The bereaved get most attention in the early days and weeks, while they’re in shock and processing the loss, and most likely won’t remember much. It’s in the weeks and months ahead, when mourning takes place, that they might most appreciate a note from you. Here are five… Continue
Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on January 23, 2009 at 7:30am —
My dad Heberto T. Gomez was a Mighty Oak. He finally went to rest in the heavens above with my beautiful mamma Juanita and brothers Jesse and Juan. All men were not created equal. My dad was a strong, tempered, stubborn man, but he was a gentle giant at that same time. he taught his children to be tough and respectful at the same time. respect had to do with EVERYTHING. If respect was not shown for others, than you didn't deserve it yourself. A man of promise, thats what he was. One with nature… Continue
Added by Belinda Gomez-Cabacungan on January 22, 2009 at 3:07am —
Just two days ago my mother was buried after a ten week illness. She entered hospital with a broken hip, and was suddenly diagnosed with an ischemic bowel that was inoperable. After ten harrowing weeks, most of which she spent incoherrent on huge doses of morphine she died. Now begins the unthinkable, living without her. The usual absences, her phone number has become obsolete, my family home is deserted and I have no clue how to deal with life without her. I would love to hear from members who… Continue
Added by maria mulligan on January 21, 2009 at 11:21am —
I read your last message to me but can't get the website to allow me in to respond. I don't know if u will read this but I'm trying to answer you but can't. You may have responded to many people in need. I'm the one who lost her brother in oct. his obit is listed in the berkshirew eagle in pittsfield ma on the 26th or 27th of 08. please read and contact me thru that if u can. I went to your sister's webside and was moved beyond tears. What an absolutely beautiful tribute to her, what a… Continue
Added by nancy raimer on January 19, 2009 at 9:41pm —
GOLIATH was a very big,very loveable dog,I live at hazel center in medford-it is sort of a group home for mentaly ill-my favorite days were when GREG would bring GOLIATH in for the day,and it was even better on days when EMILI a boston terrier owned by SHELLI was there also,small EMILI was big ol'e GOLIATH"S girlfriend,they got along great and were in love. I would take GOLIATH for walks,once as I was crossing the street a waitress at a coffee shop came out and yelled out"I love your dog".… Continue
Added by FRANK BRYAN on January 18, 2009 at 11:04pm —
Q. What type of stationery is appropriate for condolence notes? Is a printed condolence card the best idea? Continue
A. A correspondence card, whether imprinted with your name or not, is the perfect stationery for a condolence note. A correspondence card offers at least three advantages. The stock has weight, which somehow adds weight to your message. Due to its size (usually 6-1/4”x4-1/2”), a correspondence card also limits how much you can say. A few lines can…
Added by Florence Isaacs on January 18, 2009 at 4:30pm —
Loneliness Is To Be Felt – Alone Time Made Better Continue
Friends ask, “What hurts the most?” Always I answer, “Loneliness for Joe. It never goes away.” I don’t want to run from this loneliness because I know to feel it is an important part of the grieving process. But my alone time can be enriched.
Feeling My Loneliness
Don’t fight it; let the feelings come. Express aloud, on paper, physically (without hurting myself), and with tears.
Added by Marta Felber on January 18, 2009 at 4:00pm —
When someone is going through a difficult time, communications and actions need not be elaborate to make a difference. Choose one or more of these five simple steps to offer your support:
- Send a note to share your sadness, feelings, or memories and let the recipient know they are in your thoughts and prayers.
- Bring a meal, food item, or gift card for a favorite carry-out restaurant.
- Make contact before…
Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on January 15, 2009 at 10:00am —
my brother jim passed away on april 12 2008 at the age of 37 Iam 36 but at the time only35.he died unexpectadly and the family was already going through alot whereas i broke my back last november. so it has been very hard for us all,he left behind a son the age of 17. I try to be there for him but it is difficult,when i feel guit about my brother and best friends death it makes it hard to look my nephew in the eye sometimes.
Added by joseph langley on January 14, 2009 at 7:27pm —
Children, Ages 6-14 Grief & Loss Group
172 Ravenhurst Ave LL
Staten Island,NY 10314
For further information and registration, call: Karen 518-506-5999
Added by Karen L Goldman,LMHC BC on January 14, 2009 at 3:00pm —
“This is what my father did,” writes Joan Wickersham early in her memoir The Suicide Index: Putting My Father’s Death in Order. “He got up, showered, shaved and dressed for work. He went downstairs and made a pot of coffee, and while it was brewing he went outside and walked down the long driveway to pick up the newspaper. He left the paper folded on the kitchen table, poured a cup of coffee, carried it upstairs, and put it on my mother’s bedside… Continue
Added by LegacyConnect on January 14, 2009 at 11:00am —
My brother died today in his sleep and this is the worst even that has happened to me in my life am in the military and gratful it di dnot happen while i was deployed to iraq..I dont know how to deal with this am crying on minute and am okay the next...i have 2 more brother now i cant say i have 3 now i have to say 2 this is crazy this is not how life is suspoe to be he was only 24 just turned 24 less than a month ago..why couldent god take something less meaningful from me then my family,,i… Continue
Added by Mickoel on January 12, 2009 at 10:03pm —
When someone trusts you enough to share their thoughts and feelings, they're asking for just one thing – they'd like you to listen. They're not looking to you for answers and they don't want you to judge. They just want to voice their experience.
It's not easy to be a listener; it takes lots of energy and hard work to actively listen. You'll listen more effectively if you avoid these six additional distractions:
Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on January 12, 2009 at 1:30pm —
My whole life has changed since 1996. During this time, well, it's very difficult to explain because I became very ill in a very strange and unusual way. But, it caused me to lose everything I had established my whole life, my reputation, my home which I loved dearly, my personality, myself, my husband. Actually, I was walking around with more than a nervous breakdown but only a couple of people could tell. I knew it. Then my dear Father, whom I was very close to passed away in 1999 at the age… Continue
Added by Peace on January 12, 2009 at 2:07am —
I have recently joined this Legacy site and want to thank everyone here for all the posts and messages of encouragement.
Over the last 42 months I have reached out to God to be my strength each and every day since the shocking news was given to me that my precious child had suddenly passed away. The following information on our web site documents much of my hope and healing journey.
My prayers go out to each and every one of you on this gathering place. I hope and pray you… Continue
Added by Mark on January 11, 2009 at 10:53pm —
Well it's been 2 days now that we layed my Mother to rest. I feel frozen with a million different feelings. I don't even know were to start, to tell you just what my Mom meant to me. Yesterday I found this website, I read about everyone's pain, it sounded so so familiar, it's exactly what I'm feeling now. I do know my Mom's not in pain anymore, and that is the only thing that keeps me going. Thank you to all, for sharing your stories of pain with us. Sheri
Added by Sheri on January 11, 2009 at 11:28am —
I recently, well three days ago lost a friend who was in a car accident. Joey was such a funny kid. He was always the smartest person i ever knew and and the same time did not use his head. He apparently was going 100 mph down a street and a lady with a infant in the car went to pull into a private street. She was driving a SUV and Joey was driving a honda crx. He collided with her head on and the SUV did a 360 and at the same time Joeys car continously spun around and slammed right into a poll… Continue
Added by Melissa on January 9, 2009 at 5:52pm —
It’s one thing to support a family member or friend dealing with loss but harder to know what to say and do with relationships that lack intimacy. It may seem safe to do nothing when you’re uncertain how best to proceed but it’s the small kindnesses that mean a lot and go a long way in providing comfort. Here are some suggestions from real-life queries: Continue
Q: How can you support a colleague that has experienced a painful loss? My supervisor is really an acquaintance and…
Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on January 8, 2009 at 2:30pm —
Justin L. White, 17, of Masaryktown, died Saturday, May 31, as a result of an auto accident. Survivors include his mother, Susan J. White of Masaryktown; a brother, Richard Furr of Brooksville; and four sisters, Valerie Harper and Angel Cappuccio, both of Spring Hill, Nichole Dubuisson of Defuniak Springs and Aimee Diestro of Georgia.
Added by Nichole on January 7, 2009 at 3:21pm —
Teen Remembered As Masaryktown Cowboy
By KYLE MARTIN
Published: June 2, 2008
SPRING HILL - Justin White was a talker.
"98 words a minute" as his sister puts it.
It didn't necessarily matter if you were listening or not, just an occasional nod of the head or an "uh huh" would suffice.
His family members were used to White's chatterbox ways, but even they would have to ask him to zip it from time to time.
They would give… Continue
Added by Nichole on January 7, 2009 at 3:19pm —