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Another Thanksgiving 2016

Snow covers the ground early this year.
Thanksgiving dinner was wonderful your family all here. As your sons drove away yes you heard right both boys driving can you believe it !
If I had a wish to give you it would be for your to see them. I Can just picture your face I see the tilt of your head the sparkle in your eyes your head back roaring at the sight of them
I miss you so very much
Tpwu
Love you Hun
Mum

Added by Colleen Pasay on October 9, 2016 at 9:25pm — No Comments

Grief Following a Long Goodbye

It’s difficult to witness the physical and mental decline of a friend or loved one with a debilitating illness. In fact, it’s hard not to grieve while they are still alive, as responsibilities and relationships shift and lives change. Some might think that death would be a relief and grief shortened, but that’s not often the case.…

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Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on October 7, 2016 at 7:00am — No Comments

Complicated Grief and Widows

Q. I’ve heard that some widows experience “complicated grief.” How does it differ from ordinary grief, and who’s at risk? I’m a widow myself.

Grief is the emotional and physical response to the death of a loved one, featuring symptoms such as sadness, anxiety, panic, numbness, fatigue, shock. After my own husband…

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Added by Florence Isaacs on October 5, 2016 at 9:30am — No Comments

There is no such thing as a "new normal"

Hi There. As a mother who lost her eldest son ten years ago, I have come to really dislike the term often used in grief work as living with a new normal. I work as a grief therapist and psychotherapist, and I can tell you from the perspective of a parent, there is nothing normal about the loss of a child, no matter the age. I think of it as "a new reality" that we are forced to live with. Losing someone you love isn't normal. Yes we adapt over time - life goes on with or without you. I get…

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Added by Sharon Rossy on October 3, 2016 at 8:03pm — 4 Comments

This it to hard

Don't know how any of us do this. It is so hard.  Went camping for one night with my son and some of the kids and almost couldn't stand it. It just wasn't natural to be there without him. I followed my son home, who had his dads 4 wheeler in the back of his truck not ours

Added by ROSE EGGERS on September 26, 2016 at 4:31pm — 1 Comment

Recent Shooting in Charlotte

My heart goes out to the family of Keith Scott. Peaceful protest have done some good and its good to see even the national guards giving the citizens of Charlotte warm handshakes and hugs... Then I hear of folks getting shot up in a mall. I pray for a more permanent solution to all this blood shed, violence and pain. The only solution (Matthew 6:9,10)...Come Lord Quickly!

Added by T.C. Goodwin on September 26, 2016 at 4:14pm — No Comments

Gardening – The Best Way to Spend Time with Your Lost Love

Jan and I were different in so many ways. Most of our likes and dislikes were totally opposite and I always maintained that this was why we were so close. Sounds strange, doesn’t it? But I think our disagreements created a positive energy in our marriage that just resulted in raising the level of our love and…

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Added by Lindsay Collier on September 21, 2016 at 3:30pm — 4 Comments

Turning Grief Into Purpose

While grieving a loss, you learn a lot about what helps or hampers healing. That’s what happened to Laurie B. following the death of her beloved husband. Despite a wide circle of friends, she often felt alone and saw a need for sensitive support. She approached her pastor and suggested they start a shawl ministry, a support group where members would knit shawls…

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Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on September 20, 2016 at 8:00am — No Comments

How Writing Helps Us Cope with Death

William Shakespeare once said, “Give sorrow words; the grief that does not speak knits up the over wrought heart and bids it break”.

For hundreds of years, people have taken up writing, especially letters, to express their grief and deepest…

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Added by Julie Ellis on September 20, 2016 at 6:01am — No Comments

one year coming up 9/26/2016

I lost my best friend and spouse, David, on 9/26/2015.  We had 35 years together, all of which provided wonderful memories but I miss him so much.  time has only made it harder for me, definitely not easier as many said it would.

Added by Tim Morgan on September 19, 2016 at 2:35pm — 2 Comments

new here

I'm 31married in March.  He's 34.  He died July 8th flipping his car on the freeway.   6th of July found out I was 11 wks pregnant.  I have two other children 6 and 8 from previous relationship. I guess I'm just looking for advice on how to raise our child knowing their father.  Everything we had was in the vehicle and destroyed pretty much.  I have a few items of clothing.  Since the accident I've created a facebook page  to collect pictures etc.  I didn't know any of his friends or family…

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Added by Whitney Rollins on September 13, 2016 at 12:48am — 4 Comments

Options When the Deceased Didn't Want a Funeral

Q. My late friend and colleague wished to be cremated and did not want a funeral. He had no close family. I (and others in my professional organization who will miss him) feel very sad. He had a huge impact on our careers, especially when we were starting out. What can we do that honors his wishes, yet also allows us some closure? And…

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Added by Florence Isaacs on September 7, 2016 at 11:00am — 1 Comment

My Sister Karen

I lost my sister on 5/15/15. She was one of the brightest lights in my life. I was the closest to her of all of our family members. We laughed like crazy when we were together and I always wanted to be like her. Everyone she met fell in love with her. She was 3 years older than me and she died at 57. She had type 1 diabetes since she was 21 and her overall health was suddenly declining as though she was giving up on life. She had started drinking and smoking more I guess as a way to cope with… Continue

Added by Lisa coplin on September 2, 2016 at 8:46am — No Comments

Texting Support During Trying Times

We all know the importance of being supportive during troubling times, and yet it can be challenging despite our best efforts. One of my friends is facing that dilemma right now. Her dear friend’s mother is dying of cancer, and my friend has…

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Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on September 1, 2016 at 9:30am — No Comments

Only the Beginning

I lost my soul mate on April 8, 2016 while he was walking on his lunch break. My daughter bought him a fitbit so that he could get healthy with all of us. He loved it and he beat us on every challenge. The sad part is that she now feels some responsibility for his death. No matter how much you tell her she isn't it stays in her mind. The texting, on meth driver crossed over the road and hit him from behind. He was at the hospital for almost 2 hours before we even found out he had been hit.…

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Added by ROSE EGGERS on August 30, 2016 at 12:16pm — 4 Comments

Research into online mourning

I'm a graduate student in Medical Anthropology at UCSF/UC Berkeley, and my dissertation research looks at grieving online. The idea emerged out of the experience of losing my own father, who died unexpectedly 2 years ago. My project specifically explores how accessing sites such as online memorials, Facebook profiles, and digital archives might allow people to feel connected to loved ones who have passed away. If you visit a particular website or sites to connect with a loved one who has…

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Added by Molly Hales on August 29, 2016 at 11:05am — 5 Comments

Comfort with Flowers

Flowers make those that are grieving feel better. Every good gift is from above James 1:17.

Added by T.C. Goodwin on August 24, 2016 at 3:44pm — No Comments

Every Kindness Helps Following a Death

A friend of a friend died last week. We hadn’t been in touch with the family in 10 years, and I vacillated on whether to attend the visitation. I not only decided to go, but I also encouraged my spouse to go. We were surprised and humbled when the daughters of the deceased…

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Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on August 17, 2016 at 1:00pm — 1 Comment

Healthy Grieving

A friend in her early 30s grieved the loss of both her mother and father who died just one year apart. My friend chose outlets for her grief that helped her process and mourn the deaths of her parents. After a year had passed, her older sister confided that she was concerned in…

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Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on August 10, 2016 at 12:00pm — 2 Comments

Music for Funerals and Memorial Services

Q. When my time comes, I would like to have music played at my funeral. Is music acceptable at services in all religions? Can you suggest some appropriate choices?

Music has played a role in funerals since ancient times when survivors chanted to appease the spirits. Ancient Roman funeral…

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Added by Florence Isaacs on August 3, 2016 at 12:00pm — 2 Comments

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