When my neighbor’s daughter died following a car accident, the neighborhood pulled together and extended an array of kindnesses. Folks they did not know left bagels on their doorstep; others placed additional obituaries in their mailbox, and many sent cards and flowers.…Continue
Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on April 23, 2017 at 4:00pm — No Comments
A friend’s father made his final requests abundantly clear. He wanted no obituary, burial, or funeral rituals of any kind. His wife honored his wishes; he was cremated and his remains reside on the top shelf of the master closet. With no memorial or gathering of friends following her husband’s death,…Continue
Therapists and counselors who work with bereaved spouses commonly advise: Wait a year or so before finalizing the decision, unless you have no choice for financial or other…Continue
Added by Florence Isaacs on March 21, 2017 at 11:30am — No Comments
Q. My colleague’s 19-year-old brother died in a freak biking accident. I attended the funeral and sent a condolence note, but worry about what to say and do when the bereaved comes back to work next week. What is your advice?
You’re not alone in your concerns. “Coworkers and managers don’t know…Continue
Added by Florence Isaacs on March 17, 2017 at 7:30am — No Comments
The big question is: matter to whom? So many rituals, which bind us together, have fallen by the wayside in our…Continue
Added by Florence Isaacs on January 5, 2017 at 9:00am — No Comments
Grief is the emotional and physical response to the death of a loved one, featuring symptoms such as sadness, anxiety, panic, numbness, fatigue, shock. After my own husband…Continue
Added by Florence Isaacs on October 5, 2016 at 9:30am — No Comments
I haven’t found any that focus specifically on widows, but "Colors of Loss and Healing: An Adult Coloring Book for Getting Through Tough Times" by Deborah H. Derman, Ph.D., targets readers who have had…Continue
It has been one of many steps that I now see are about how I have never strayed from who I am supposed to…Continue
Added by Michelle Rusk (Linn-Gust) on August 14, 2015 at 2:00pm — No Comments
Can you see, with your mind’s eye,
Peoples dwelling together?
Sorrow has passed. Peace at last!
Life without tears and pain.
2. Man and beast, living in peace,
Cause no harm to each other.
Food will be there. All will share…Continue
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Added by Darcy on March 24, 2015 at 11:12pm — No Comments
I will be the first to admit that I love the hustle and bustle of the holiday season. I’m a multitasker, I like to entertain, and my birthday is in December. Last week I was in England at…Continue
Added by Michelle Rusk (Linn-Gust) on December 2, 2014 at 1:00pm — No Comments
Just when we think we’ve seen or heard it all about death these days, there is more to learn, to love and to laugh at about the way people are impacted and/or reacting to life’s final moments. Funerals are lightening up, obituaries are good…Continue
Added by Susan Soper on October 16, 2014 at 2:34pm — No Comments
The fashion shows recently rolled out in New York, London and Milan reminded me of a fashion show of an entirely different sort I attended last year in Montana. It was during a week of seminars and workshops on aging issues, and I was invited to present ObitKit: A Guide…Continue
In your grief, it’s easy to become numb to yourself and to the world. The vibrancy of the world – its colors, noises, smells and tastes – can be too much for you to manage. Add the lack of touching, which you miss so much, and you just want to climb into your hole and ask the world how it can go on when your life has stopped. Consequently, you may revert to not wanting to feel anything and, hence, you make yourself…Continue
Added by Ellen Gerst on March 17, 2014 at 1:00pm — No Comments
I've always loved the image that conjures up in my mind. For me, the darkness of loss certainly felt like being stuck in a deep tunnel, and as I marched forward on my journey of grief, I looked for any illumination that could provide me respite from…Continue
Added by Ellen Gerst on February 8, 2013 at 5:00am — No Comments
Much of the grieving process focuses on our loss. We miss our loved one so much that it hurts, and we wonder how we will ever make it through the pain. We spend time looking back at the past with regret and grow anxious as we anticipate a future without our loved one in it. We wonder how we…Continue