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How to Help During a Natural Disaster

With Hurricane Harvey and vast flooding dominating the news, it’s easy to feel helpless in the wake of such personal tragedy. In this technology-driven world, we’re witnessing breaking news; reading, seeing and hearing first-hand how these disasters personally impact individuals and communities. Who can…

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Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on August 31, 2017 at 10:00am — No Comments

Should You Respond to Inappropriate Comments?

The bereaved report that they are frequently subjected to insensitive comments following a death. It’s not as if someone deliberately wants to hurt the bereaved; inappropriate statements appear to stem from a discomfort with the concept of death and individuals who…

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Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on August 11, 2017 at 6:30am — 1 Comment

Living Life With No Regrets

It’s not uncommon for those bereaved to feel regret. While anyone bereaved can feel regret, children and young adults can be particularly vulnerable. They have less experience with life and death and have yet to understand how fragile life can be. Regret is a deep sadness over what we perceive as missed…

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Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on August 3, 2017 at 11:30am — No Comments

Should a Widow Move? If So, How Soon?

Q.  My husband died several months ago, and people keep asking me whether I’m going to sell my house and downsize or move somewhere else entirely. How do others decide what to do?

Therapists and counselors who work with bereaved spouses commonly advise: Wait a year or so before finalizing the decision, unless you have no choice for financial or other…

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Added by Florence Isaacs on March 21, 2017 at 11:30am — No Comments

When a Bereaved Co-worker Returns to the Job

Q. My colleague’s 19-year-old brother died in a freak biking accident. I attended the funeral and sent a condolence note, but worry about what to say and do when the bereaved comes back to work next week. What is your advice?

You’re not alone in your concerns. “Coworkers and managers don’t know…

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Added by Florence Isaacs on March 17, 2017 at 7:30am — No Comments

Attending a Funeral: What's in It for You?

Q. My elderly aunt just died, and I’m on the fence about attending the funeral. I loved her, but the funeral is far away and will be so depressing. Will it really matter if I don’t go?

The big question is: matter to whom? So many rituals, which bind us together, have fallen by the wayside in our…

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Added by Florence Isaacs on January 5, 2017 at 9:00am — No Comments

Complicated Grief and Widows

Q. I’ve heard that some widows experience “complicated grief.” How does it differ from ordinary grief, and who’s at risk? I’m a widow myself.

Grief is the emotional and physical response to the death of a loved one, featuring symptoms such as sadness, anxiety, panic, numbness, fatigue, shock. After my own husband…

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Added by Florence Isaacs on October 5, 2016 at 9:30am — No Comments

Widows' Aid To Coping? Coloring Books

Q. I’ve read about coloring books for adults that somehow help reduce stress. Are any of them for widows?

I haven’t found any that focus specifically on widows, but "Colors of Loss and Healing: An Adult Coloring Book for Getting Through Tough Times" by Deborah H. Derman, Ph.D., targets readers who have had…

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Added by Florence Isaacs on August 2, 2016 at 1:00pm — 1 Comment

'The Green Dress' Impact

In the two months since I got married and my new book, The Green Dress, was released (on the day of our wedding as gift to our guests), I have had time to reflect on how much the book has changed me.

It has been one of many steps that I now see are about how I have never strayed from who I am supposed to…

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Added by Michelle Rusk (Linn-Gust) on August 14, 2015 at 2:00pm — No Comments

Life With Out Tears & Pain - One of My Old Time Favorites

Can you see, with your mind’s eye,

Peoples dwelling together?

Sorrow has passed. Peace at last!

Life without tears and pain.

(Chorus)

2. Man and beast, living in peace,

Cause no harm to each other.

Food will be there. All will share…

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Added by T.C. Goodwin on August 7, 2015 at 4:38pm — No Comments

Writing Down

It's so raw. I keep thinking im strong and of course I am. It's just that he was my life and to put it together without him almost feels wrong. We were so in love with each other. It will just take time. I'm writing down something to do each day, next day and future day. But I did forget to write the next 3 days. I think I will try that.

Added by Darcy on March 24, 2015 at 11:12pm — No Comments

Remember All That Matters to You This Holiday Season

Flickr Creative Commons | kayte terry

I will be the first to admit that I love the hustle and bustle of the holiday season. I’m a multitasker, I like to entertain, and my birthday is in December. Last week I was in England at…

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Added by Michelle Rusk (Linn-Gust) on December 2, 2014 at 1:00pm — No Comments

Dealing With Death Can Prove So Innovative

Just when we think we’ve seen or heard it all about death these days, there is more to learn, to love and to laugh at about the way people are impacted and/or reacting to life’s final moments. Funerals are lightening up, obituaries are good…

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Added by Susan Soper on October 16, 2014 at 2:34pm — No Comments

Dressing for Your Own Funeral

The fashion shows recently rolled out in New York, London and Milan reminded me of a fashion show of an entirely different sort I attended last year in Montana. It was during a week of seminars and workshops on aging issues, and I was invited to present ObitKit: A Guide…

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Added by Susan Soper on October 10, 2014 at 9:49am — 3 Comments

Refreshing Your Outlook By Looking To Nature

In your grief, it’s easy to become numb to yourself and to the world. The vibrancy of the world – its colors, noises, smells and tastes – can be too much for you to manage. Add the lack of touching, which you miss so much, and you just want to climb into your hole and ask the world how it can go on when your life has stopped. Consequently, you may revert to not wanting to feel anything and, hence, you make yourself…

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Added by Ellen Gerst on March 17, 2014 at 1:00pm — No Comments

What Is the Light at the End of the Tunnel?

When it comes to coping with grief, there is an often-used term "the light at the end of the tunnel."

 

I've always loved the image that conjures up in my mind. For me, the darkness of loss certainly felt like being stuck in a deep tunnel, and as I marched forward on my journey of grief, I looked for any illumination that could provide me respite from…

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Added by Ellen Gerst on February 8, 2013 at 5:00am — No Comments

The Hidden Blessings of Grief

Much of the grieving process focuses on our loss. We miss our loved one so much that it hurts, and we wonder how we will ever make it through the pain. We spend time looking back at the past with regret and grow anxious as we anticipate a future without our loved one in it. We wonder how we…

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Added by Nancy Weil on December 26, 2013 at 2:00pm — 2 Comments

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