My mother’s birthday was July 25. She would have been 87, hard for me to even imagine as she died at age 45 in 1968 – 42 years ago. A whole lifetime ago. So many culture changes ago. So many upheavals ago – none of them, however, as devastating as losing a mother at a young age.
As my avocation is reading and writing obituaries, wanting to always know more about what makes people tick – even when they are no longer ticking – I’ve been thinking about how her…
Added by Susan Soper on August 13, 2010 at 3:30pm — 3 Comments
My dad died 14 years ago, on my brother’s June birthday. My friend Jane’s father died on her June birthday. Not surprisingly, when Father’s Day comes, it underscores the shocking and ill-timed departures of those guys we loved so much.
Even though at first we couldn’t really talk about our emotions, Jane and I have learned to share them just about every year since 1997 at our annual Dead Dads Dinner. Each May, when we know we’re heading into the blues that come with those…
Added by Susan Soper on June 15, 2010 at 12:00pm — 4 Comments
When I recently congratulated a good friend on becoming a certified Pilates coach, she perked up and answered right back, “Now I have a new item for my obit!”
Never mind that she has had a long and successful career as a real estate agent, is the mother of two, grandmother of four and a widely traveled, sophisticated beauty.
Pilates? This is important! She worked hard to qualify for this certification – going through 600 hours of grueling precision training…
Added by Susan Soper on June 11, 2010 at 9:30am — 1 Comment
Have you noticed? May is the new December!
With the school year winding up, weddings around the corner and days celebrating everything from mothers to teachers (May 4), kites (May 12) and tulips (May 13), this spring month is rivaling the holiday madness that gears up at Thanksgiving. Like that frenzied four-week onslaught, much of May’s madness hovers around shopping: for moms, for teachers, for grads, brides and year-end parties, performances and picnics.
Added by Susan Soper on May 18, 2010 at 4:00pm — No Comments
Ever since I had to write my dad’s obituary in the middle of the night with no resources at hand, I’ve been an inveterate and appreciative consumer of obits. I read them in newspapers, in magazines, online and even in books (see 52 McGs: The Best Obituaries from Legendary New York Times Reporter Robert McG. Thomas, an incredibly creative compilation of posthumous profiles). I clip them, email them, excerpt them and, always, learn from them. Sadly, I often discover amazing…Continue
Added by Susan Soper on April 27, 2010 at 12:00pm — 1 Comment
Is awareness of all things death-related a perception thing? That once you’ve lost someone, you become more aware of the buzz around you about death and grieving? Or is it that, as part of the aging process, we are all more accepting of our mortality and others’ too? Or could it be that as we age and lose loved ones, we are all just plain paying more attention to the topic – and talking about it more?
A recent spate of death-related stories in the media – all this month – leads me…
Added by Susan Soper on April 23, 2010 at 12:30pm — 3 Comments