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Communicating With the Bereaved

Death is an inevitable part of life and it’s something we will all experience. Even if we understand that death is unavoidable or we anticipate the death of a loved one, it is still a shocking and painfully difficult experience. No one is truly prepared to mourn the death of a loved…

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Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on December 10, 2014 at 9:00am — No Comments

Surviving the Holidays Without Your Loved One



The period of mourning is sad enough but when holiday season hits, it can be harder to cope. Holidays are laced with memories; it’s not just the actual day that is difficult but, it’s the days and weeks leading up to the holiday that are filled with reminders in the foods, smells,…

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Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on December 1, 2014 at 6:30am — No Comments

Why Is It So Hard to Ask for Help?

A family in my neighborhood has been quietly struggling for months. The mom has a stubborn virus that is taking a long time to heal and the dad is shopping, cooking, cleaning, and ensuring his kids get wherever they need to go. When he finally shared his family’s situation, neighbors…

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Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on November 17, 2014 at 8:00am — No Comments

Small Kindnesses With Big Impact

In the best of circumstances, life is not easy. And we all experience rough patches, some harder to navigate than others. When life feels overwhelmingly difficult, a kind gesture can feel like a lifeline.

I have two friends…

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Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on November 3, 2014 at 9:00am — No Comments

How to Help Friends and Loved Ones in Difficult Times

When we hear sad news we want to help, but we often do not know how. Instead of figuring out a way to help we say, “Call me if you need anything.” Individuals facing difficult times frequently find it difficult to put one foot in front of the other; they do not have energy to call and even…

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Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on October 14, 2014 at 7:00am — No Comments

Who Exactly Are the Bereaved?

When we think of the bereaved, we most often include the primary relationships, such as: husband, wife, mother, father, sister, brother, son or daughter. Other family relationships that may come to mind include grandmother, grandfather, aunt, uncle or cousin as well as…

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Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on October 6, 2014 at 11:00am — No Comments

What not to say to a bereaved parent

When a friend gave birth to a stillborn baby her granny told her, “Now you have your own angel.” This comment upset my friend and yet her granny repeated it every time they spoke. My friend shared, “I love my granny but my baby is dead and what she is saying to me is no comfort.”

It is rare to…

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Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on September 18, 2014 at 12:49pm — No Comments

Sharing Stories – One at a Time

My grandmother was born in Austria and when I visited there this summer I felt an immediate connection. When I had my first bite of apple strudel, it triggered a flood of memories. The last time I ate apple strudel was when I was a child and my grandma made it. I posted a…

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Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on September 3, 2014 at 7:30am — No Comments

What to do with all those memories



When someone dies, they leave behind a footprint. In years past you most likely found old photographs, letters,…

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Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on August 12, 2014 at 10:00am — 1 Comment

How to Help a Bereaved Family

The death of a family member is more than painful; the absence of a parent or a child throws the entire family out of kilter. Roles are changed, schedules must be realigned, and financial circumstances may be greatly altered. The middle child may now be the youngest, or the eldest child may become an only child.…

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Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on August 4, 2014 at 1:00pm — 2 Comments

Don't Avoid Calling the Bereaved

It happens every time I call the bereaved; they sound dreadful when they answer the phone. When they hear my voice and realize I’m calling to say hello, their tone miraculously changes and their gratitude seems to seep through the phone line.

The fact is, our phones rarely ring…

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Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on July 23, 2014 at 10:00am — No Comments

Begin With a Sympathy Note

Sympathy notes are not easy to write; it’s difficult to know what you can possibly say to comfort someone who is so profoundly sad. And yet we work hard to write them knowing how important it is to acknowledge a loss and comfort the bereaved.

Despite our efforts to send condolences, it might be a shock to…

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Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on July 8, 2014 at 2:00pm — 1 Comment

Trends in Mourning Rituals

There was a time when mourning rituals were steeped in etiquette. You knew exactly what to expect and how to demonstrate good manners. But all of that has changed with social media, emails, texts, and ever-evolving…

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Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on June 23, 2014 at 10:30am — 1 Comment

How to Help a Bereaved Child

Death is a devastating experience, and it is hard to know what words or actions can possibly ease the loss. When the bereaved is a child, it is even more challenging to know what to say or do. As difficult as it may be, “Try to act like things are as normal as…

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Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on June 6, 2014 at 12:00pm — No Comments

What You Should Never Say to the Bereaved

While chatting with a friend I mentioned that my good friend had died this winter. She asked, “Is that your friend who was terminally ill?” When I answered yes, she said, “Well you knew she was going to die.” Speechless, I thought, what an insensitive thing to say to someone…

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Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on May 12, 2014 at 11:30am — 1 Comment

Missing Mom on Mother’s Day

No matter how old you are you are never prepared to lose your mother. Mothers play such a unique role in our lives and they are irreplaceable. When your mother dies, the grief can be overwhelming.

There is so much lost when you no longer have your mom. Who will ever remember your favorite cookie, cake or entrée?…

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Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on May 1, 2014 at 9:30am — No Comments

Should you write an ethical will?

When a friend’s mom died, she was left with a box of their correspondence spanning decades. The letters were vivid reminders of the close relationship they shared, but they weren’t much solace in the sad weeks and months that she painfully mourned. My friend was lost; she confided that she wished her mother had left something behind that told her how to live her life without her.…

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Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on April 21, 2014 at 7:30am — No Comments

Sympathy Notes That Never Grow Old

It was time to clean my desk, so I emptied all the cubbyholes and dumped everything on the table. I sorted through old baby announcements, wedding invitations, endearing birthday cards and sweet thank you notes. I started a pile to keep and a stack to shred and then, to my surprise, I found two condolence messages tucked into eulogies from my mother’s…

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Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on April 10, 2014 at 1:34pm — No Comments

Living with Loss

My mom was widowed twice by the age of 46, and she gave me some sage advice; “Life is a series of changes and you must learn to adapt to change.” At this time in my life my perspective is a bit different; I see life as a series of losses, and it’s essential that you learn to cope with those…

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Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on March 24, 2014 at 12:00pm — 1 Comment

The Jewish Mourning Ritual of Sitting Shiva

Members of the Jewish faith observe Shiva, a seven-day mourning period following the funeral of a family member. The word Shiva literally comes from the Hebrew word for seven. While sitting Shiva, family members do not work and typically stay home.

 

How will you know if the family is sitting Shiva? There is usually an announcement…

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Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on March 13, 2014 at 3:00pm — No Comments

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