10 Platitudes Never To Say To A Mourner

After the loss of a loved one, friends and family rush to comfort the bereaved. They want to do and say the right thing in order to help the most. However, sometimes they are not quite sure exactly what is necessary to accomplish that task.

In society, we often hear platitudes such as, "Time heals all wounds." or "God needed your loved one." In truth, these statements do not ease the pain of the mourner.

It certainly is not the intention of friends and family to bring more sorrow to the mourner. They simply say these things out of ignorance because no one has explained to them how the mourner will feel upon hearing them.

In order to educate those who are consoling the bereaved, please watch and share the video of my "Top 10" list of platitudes that a mourner never wants to hear. On the video, I speak as the mourner so the viewer can truly understand the impact of these statements.

If you would like a written list of these platitudes, please visit my website to download a free copy (under Free E-books and Special Reports Available)

Ellen Gerst, a Life Coach who specializes in grief and relationships, is the author of several books on grief, including A Practical Guide To Widow/erhood, born out of Ellen's own experiences as a young widow; 101 Tips and Thoughts on Coping with Grief, an easy-to-read reference guide filled with suggestions for every day use on moving forward through the grief journey; and Love After Loss: Writing The Rest of Your Story. "Love After Loss" is a blueprint on how to use her successful method to redesign your life to include a new love connection after the loss of a partner. Join the conversation on Facebook for Love After Loss. Click for more information and to order grief related services and books.

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Comment by Patricia A Haas on September 28, 2010 at 11:55pm
sorry about the bad spelling.
Comment by Patricia A Haas on September 28, 2010 at 11:54pm
win my husband died everybody wanted to know how much money i was getting. Then I had a boyfriend for 10 years and he died of a heart attack. People told me well he was 60. he like my husband didnt get to enjoy retirement

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