My sister, best friend and "surrogate mother" (my Mom died when I was 11) died on October 14. She had been living with me for nine months during her illness and we had bonded even further during that time. She was a wonderful, loving and caring mother, wife and sister.
One of my brothers and his family did not attend the funeral, nor did they extend any support or condolences to the rest of the family who were experiencing deep grief and sorrow. I can only attribute my brother's unconscionable decision to an extremely petty incident (while my sister was critically ill, she failed to RSVP to a baby shower for my brother's grandchild). Not only am I grieving for my sister but now my brother who turned his back on me and the rest of my family in a time of great need.
How do I tell my brother how profoundly hurt and unconscionable I feel his actions (or inaction) were at this terrible time? Both he and his wife are not talking to the entire family.