My husband passed away 6mo ago from cancer. I thought I was doing pretty well all things considered but recently I seem to have gone backwards. I am feeling overwhelmed and guilty. I am going through…

My husband passed away 6mo ago from cancer. I thought I was doing pretty well all things considered but recently I seem to have gone backwards. I am feeling overwhelmed and guilty. I am going through all the financial stuff right now and got so upset I had to leave my accountants office. It's so unfair that he worked so hard and planned so well so that WE would be set when we were ready to retire and he gets nothing for all the hard work.
I did not grow up with any religious beliefs and was not taught anything about religion. I do believe in god but that's the extent. I find myself longing for the peace my friend gets from her faith during her grieving process. I don't even know how to begin to find that peace

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Comment by Sandi Wheaton on April 24, 2012 at 10:06pm: Thank you Miss Sylvia and Jane for your kind words. I am open to any advice and words of wisdom you may have to offer. I guess I am looking for a starting place on finding my way to god and all that goes along with that.

Comment by S.A. Brobin on April 24, 2012 at 1:15pm: Sandy, please accept my sincere condolences on your loss. There is no time-frame on the grief process and it is a process. Before now you probably were somewhat numb. Now you have to start living again without your mate my heart goes out to you. On your quest to find god be mindful that there are many. A reliable place to search is in the Holy Scriptures. In fact God invites you to seek him. The God of the Bible is Happy, Loving, Just, Wise, Generous,Powerful and so much more. You don't have to do this alone. In fact he is near to you right now. Psalms 34:18 says " God is near to those that are broken at heart. And to those who are crushed in spirit he saves" Soon he promises to get rid of pain, sorrow, sickness and death. He is not a god who rips your love ones out of your embrace. Get to know him. It would be my pleasure to share more with you if you care to know what the Bible says. Miss Sylvia

Comment by Jane P. on April 23, 2012 at 4:30pm: Sandi, I am so sorry for your loss and even sorrier you had to join our group. I am 10 months into this and I hate every day of it. Within this group you will find there are no judgments passed. We are all grieving and in different stages of grief. We are all experiencing some sort of financial loss or difficulty because we are down by one income, or the income has been decreased. You will find grieving has NO time frames and there are no right or wrong answers.

I have been brought up with a religion but I am struggling to find God again. I have been going to different churches to find myself and God. I also have been brought up to believe God is everywhere so now I take a few minutes a day just to talk to God and that has helped me out immensely. My father would always say you will never find an atheist in a fox hole surrounded by bombs and bullets flying over your head! Everyone prayed. So start off with just making time for you and God and eventually God will show you the way. He will test you along the way but he always seems to hold you when you will need it the most.

Sandi, stay with us! This is rally a great group who are all willing to help with the advice, or a kind word. I hope this helped you. Many hugs, Jane P.