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Hi,
My Mother died July 22, 2009 and my life hasn't been the same since. She passed from complications of COPD. She was my girl.... my bff. I can definitely relate. My Mothers sister is now ill. I can't bring myself to call her. I guess I am not ready to deal with this. (My daughter and I were the main caregivers for 2 years). People just don't understand that to a certain extent you just want to be left alone. Not having to answer to the all too familiar question "How have you been doing"? They really don't want to know. They really don't want to hear your sad story. In their mind they feel as though you should have gotten over this by now( like you have a time limit or something). However every one deals with grief differently. How can I "get over this"? For me, my Mother and I shared 43 years together. Or the comment "you know she is in a better place". Which in your heart you know is true, however it doesn't take away the pain. People go on with their lives when they are not directly affected but as for me I'm still stuck on the loss. It's so hard. I cry everyday. My husband and children try to understand me ( they have no idea what this loss means to me). Thanks for listening!
Dee
My Mother died July 22, 2009 and my life hasn't been the same since. She passed from complications of COPD. She was my girl.... my bff. I can definitely relate. My Mothers sister is now ill. I can't bring myself to call her. I guess I am not ready to deal with this. (My daughter and I were the main caregivers for 2 years). People just don't understand that to a certain extent you just want to be left alone. Not having to answer to the all too familiar question "How have you been doing"? They really don't want to know. They really don't want to hear your sad story. In their mind they feel as though you should have gotten over this by now( like you have a time limit or something). However every one deals with grief differently. How can I "get over this"? For me, my Mother and I shared 43 years together. Or the comment "you know she is in a better place". Which in your heart you know is true, however it doesn't take away the pain. People go on with their lives when they are not directly affected but as for me I'm still stuck on the loss. It's so hard. I cry everyday. My husband and children try to understand me ( they have no idea what this loss means to me). Thanks for listening!
Dee
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Comment by Dee on April 12, 2011 at 9:51am
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Today is one of thoes days missing Mama.
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Thanks Kathy for your words of encouragement. I am taking it one day at a time
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Comment by kathy on September 20, 2010 at 12:47pm
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Dee, I'm sorry to read your hearts still ache with sadness I am praying for you the bible says blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted. (Matthew 5:4) I hope this is true for you. Although persons are trying to comfort you with the statment "you know she is in a better place". Your right its not helpful however as you share the stories and the memories of your mom and how she lived life also how very much she meant to you, may you find comfort...And, throughout this difficult time, may you also know the deep concern that is felt for you.The Bible assures us: “God is near to those that are broken at heart; and those who are crushed in spirit he saves.” (Psalm 34:18)
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Dee, I'm sorry to read your hearts still ache with sadness I am praying for you the bible says blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted. (Matthew 5:4) I hope this is true for you. Although persons are trying to comfort you with the statment "you know she is in a better place". Your right its not helpful however as you share the stories and the memories of your mom and how she lived life also how very much she meant to you, may you find comfort...And, throughout this difficult time, may you also know the deep concern that is felt for you.The Bible assures us: “God is near to those that are broken at heart; and those who are crushed in spirit he saves.” (Psalm 34:18)
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