"Daughter" a [Victim] of a "Murder-Suicide" by Husband !

How does a "Parent" relate to/or reconcile with such a [Tragedy]?;

The "Question(s)" that I am faced with each waking moment is - Why?;

What "signs" could I have foreseen, how do I relate to the Guilt of not being there?

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Comment by SUE on February 24, 2010 at 12:44am
I am so so sorry Francois,

I am not a parent who has lost a child but I do understand murder/suicide from a victims point of view.
I read you have sought help , thats good. Try not to do more than you can handle for the moment. Lean on others, and keep breathing.
Your son-in-law suffered from depression, which is anger turned in, murder is anger turned out. Murder/suicide is the rare occurance of both at the same time.
I dont know your beautiful daughter, but I do know Kay(step-mom & friend), and what she meant to me and my life and more importantly her daughters lives. I wrote Kays story and then Micks story here, if you wanted to take a look.
Id like to hear more about your daughter and him, if and when you are ready. I know Kay never suspected any harm would come to her, she was a very strong lady. I suspect Mick had just lost it, rather than plotted it, not that it changes anything. My Dad only with her mere hours before. She didnt see it coming, she didnt leave thinking she would never be back. We had no idea. She got as far as the driveway only. Someone said at her funeral that when someone dies a violent death , that angels surround them and they are not afraid. Strangely, I found some comfort in that.
I lost my only brother to suicide just 10 months later.
My heart goes out to you Francois,

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