Remembering happy memories or looking at photos may be painful at first but in time may help you to heal rather than bring pain. Writing down pleasant memories in a journal or keeping a list of things you wish you could have said to your loved one when he or she was alive may help. Writing may also provide you with a healthy outlet for your emotions. What about keeping mementos? Because everyone grieves differently, opinions differ. Some feel that keeping mementos is an impediment to recovery while others may find it helpful. How about you and who else can we really rely on?