BF non communicative after father's death

When I met my boyfriend last December, his father was already fighting lymphoma.  Both his parents live with him and his family (siblings, nieces, nephews) is very close. There were times we did not see each other much due to him caring for his father. We did maintain communication through email, texts and phone calls.  His father died in early November and for a few weeks, we talked and even saw each other.

Three weeks after his father's death, we were texting and he wrote to ask how my cold was and to let me know how his was progressing.  That was the last I heard from him.  My friends who are therapists have said he is doing his own grieving at this point and, most likely, supporting the family members who are also grieving.  They have recommended staying in touch a few times a week.  I have been doing this and always stay upbeat in my communication.

I have been through the death of a child and a father figure who I cared for while he fought cancer in hospice care. I do recall that I went into hibernation after each (didn't return to work for months after my baby), but I did manage to maintain contact with those closest to me so they would know I was still surviving.

We are both adults and are open with each other about feelings.  I am battling not being able to help himn and wondering if I should just move on and let him grieve. Any suggestions or help would be greatly appreciated.

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