Death is an inevitable part of life and it’s something we will all experience. Even if we understand that death is unavoidable or we anticipate the death of a loved one, it is still a shocking and painfully difficult experience. No one is truly prepared to mourn the death of a loved one.
The bereaved need our support and friends and family should rally around them. It ought to be simple to reach out and communicate with them but, it is not.
When a friend’s beloved mother died another friend wanted to drop off a food gift. She called several times and our friend either wasn’t home or didn’t want to answer the phone. She finally left a message that wasn’t returned. She was frustrated because she wanted to do something caring and she asked, “Do you think it is appropriate to send an email?”
It’s not unusual to have difficulty reaching the bereaved. When you are mourning a death you are not always up for visitors or phone calls; social interactions are challenging when you are profoundly sad. So what is the best way to communicate and connect with those grieving a loss?
The powerful emotions that accompany mourning can compromise our coping skills. Be patient with the bereaved even if you have to make several attempts to connect. It’s so important to communicate and stay connected.
Robbie Miller Kaplan is an author who writes from a unique perspective as a mother who has lost two children. She has written How to Say It When You Don't Know What to Say, a guide to help readers communicate effectively when those they care about experience loss, now at a reduced price for e-books for "Illness & Death," "Suicide," "Miscarriage," "Death of a Child," "Death of a Stillborn or Newborn Baby," "Pet Loss," "Caregiver Responsibilities," "Divorce" and "Job Loss." All titles are in Amazon's Kindle Store.
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