I just lost my husband to lung cancer on may 4th.

My husband died of Lung Cancer on May 4th. He had just turned 60 years old. He was my best friend of 14 years. He was the only family I have expect for our child.

He was in the Hospital for about a month. Before that we didn't know he was so sick. The first hospital sent him home with me with a a lot of meds. It was so scary as he kept getting sicker and sicker for 2 weeks and I called emergency and they took him to another hospital where he died. Sometimes I find it very hard to breath. I can't believe he is gone! It just feels like my life is over!

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Comment by Alison Gomez on June 16, 2012 at 9:45am
Ladies you are not alone, God has a plan to use your grief and sadness so that you can comfort someone in need. It does not make it easy,my husband died November 5,2010, to lung cancer. I still have hard days, I do remember his suffering and I then remember when he was happy. I would not want him to be here suffering even though those left behind our suffering. God has given us many scriptures for grief if we will just pick up his word the Bible. We will survive, others have overcome this same battle, even though we can't seem to over come our loss on our timing. Find a friend who has lost their spouse, only they can understand. I am in Texas, we can connect and create a widow cracked pots group for all the lonely struggling widows. Alison
Comment by Elizabeth DeVigili on June 15, 2012 at 5:44pm

Thank You Jacky for responding to my post. You are so right, we must take it minute by minute and so on. I know Horma is in Heaven too and it gives me strength to know that. I think it is the death process is one of the hardest parts for me since I never seen it before in someone so close. You just think they will be there for you forever and in a moment it is over. Watching a love one die is really awful! There is a lot of trauma involved! God bless us and keep us close to Him as we go through this. Liz

Comment by Jacky on June 14, 2012 at 4:43pm

Dear Elizabeth, I am so sorry for your loss.  I am new on here, as my husband went to be with our Lord, April 18th, he too had lung cancer. He was 65. I know the feeling you have, as I also experience it. You are blessed to have a child, as we have none. So I k

My advice, is take it one minute at a time. My, h. usband taught me this, after my Mummy went to be with our Lord. I had alot of panic then, but my faith in .Go,d was not strong then. Then after you make it through a minute, take it five minutes at a time. Then an hour, then you will make it through an entire day. 

This helps me. I need to remain focused only in the moment, getting through this minute. If I look past that, I panic.

It all seems unreal, unbelievable. I Praise God, he was not sick, and he did not suffer. This I am thankful for.He was actually doing very well. The Dr. stopped kemo 3 weeks before, saying he looked excellent, and his bloodwork was excellent. He was suppossed to have a follow up scan in 1month. The Dr. said he expected it to be "favorable", which is his way of saying he didn't expect to see anything. Then he said he would give my husband off 4 or 5 months, then get another scan before the holidays, to see where he was. 23 Days later, gone. Everything was ok Tuesday, he didn't wake up Wednesday, and 8:34pm, he was gone.

Our faith is strong, so I know he is rejoicing with our Lord. But it's me who suffers. I hate this, I don't know how to deal with it, the intense, gut wrenching, heart and soul being ripped out pain is unbearable.

I see no purpose in this. I see no purpose for me, but I know God has one, otherwise he would have taken me too. Having said that, it doesn't make it easier. I miss my husband.

I'm so sorry you too must go through this

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