I just recently found out that my ex husband passed 3 months ago. We were together 16 years and divorced for 5. Although the marriage ended, I always cared for him. His death was such a shock, but the biggest shock has been peoples attitudes! Everything from "SO? You were divorced" to "Why would you care?" I feel as though I'm supposed to be ashamed of my grief. I don't get condolences simply because we were no longer married. I didn't stop loving him, we simply made each other unhappy! I am heartbroken and I feel somehow cheated. Hiding my grief because others find it inappropriate! It feels so unfair! I want so much to know more about his final days, thinking of nothing else! I want to be able to freely express this terrible pain and emptiness!