My son Sean age 25 passed away 2 months ago, He went to hang out with a friend, I guess they talked about getting high & they took some pills & my son pasted out & never woke up. My heart is so broken, I feel like a part of me has passed along with him. Every minute of the day, all day long my mind is on Sean. Im still in SHOCK!!! I have read books & lots of pamplets on grieving, I started going to church, Iam looking for a support group that my husband & I can attend. I came across Legacy.com & thought maybe I can chat with someone who has experienced the same lost as me. If anyone that has come across what I have experienced please write to me. Thank you.

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Comment by LAURA FONTES on August 9, 2013 at 2:36pm

EVERYDAY   IT GETS   CONFUSING  AN I  JUST WANT TO LAY IN MY BED AND COVER UP AN  LET IT ALL BE A DREAM   .  MY CAT FLUFFY   HELPS ME EVERYDAY .  WELL  WOULD LIKE A SUPPORT GROUP  TO GO TO AND   JUST TALK TO OTHERS  THAT  HAVE BEEN THRU  A NIGHTMARE OF LOSING THERE SON OR DAUGHTER AN OTHERS.   I  WOULD LIKE A CHURCH GROUP MORE I THINK SOMETHING SPIRITUAL  MAY  HELP ME MORE    OR HELP ME JUST A LITTLE TO GET THRU DAY BY DAY.    SORRY  FOR ALL THOSE  WHO HAVE SOMEONE THAT PASSED ON   IT S   JUST CONFUSING FOR ME . THANKS  .   PRAYERS TO ALL .

Comment by LAURA FONTES on August 9, 2013 at 2:29pm

lost  my son   LORENZO C. MIRANDA ,   he was   also  a  DJ   AT TIMES . DJEPHX, AGE 26 YEARS.   HE PASS ON   JULY 4 TH  OF 2013  .    HIS FATHER   FOUND HIM IN THE MORNING  ,HE WAS NOT BREATHING  . WAS  IN SHOCK   AN  ANGER   AND STILL AM  JUST CONFUSED  . IT BEEN ONLY ONE MONTH  THAT HE PASS ON .   SORRY ABOUT EVERYONES  LOVE ONES  AN SONS !    MAY WE GET THRU THIS  DAY BY DAY .  

Comment by Laurie on January 26, 2011 at 7:31pm
I lost my son 22 11 monthes ago to cancer, my younger son Jordan could not cope, he turned to pills and alchohol. Not only do I wake up dreading another day with out josh. I am terrified for jordan. He has been getting help. but just yesterday, they released him from jail with out a open bed in the recovery home he is ordered to go to. They came for him 3 weeks ago with a open bed and they would not release him, the system?? I live in fear this to will happen Like Sean, he is in Ca and I am in AZ. I need the strengh to go to California, to help him. Before I have lost 2 sons. I know how your hurting. oh God I feel your pain.
Comment by Mary Ann Squires (Macs) on November 27, 2010 at 10:41am
Rhonda, I'm sorry so for your loss of Sean. I'm pretty new at this too as I just lost my son Logan, on 10/26/10. Logan was such a free spirit and sounds pretty much like what happened to Sean. Logan was in Siagon, Viet Nam and was to start a new job there. He told the staff that he was going to go out and live it up before he had to buckle down and start his new job. He never showed up for work and on the second day his new boss called the police and they found him in a hotel room. They said they didn't know the cause of death but drugs or alcohol were probaby the cause. Logan was only 32 years old and my only child. It has been very difficult as we use to work together at the Performing Art Center when he lived here. We were the mother and son tag team behind the bar. Now I work there without him and I have to have a smile on my face and all I want to do is cry or die. I know our sons want better for us and that may come some day. I'm finding great comfort in just talking with others. Please write me when you feel up to it. A huge hug for you.
Comment by Suzanne Kinnaman on November 13, 2010 at 12:08pm
Rhonda, I hope that you can fill in the blanks in my note that I left out words. My emotions and thoughts get going but my typing is far behind them. Sorry
Comment by Suzanne Kinnaman on November 13, 2010 at 12:02pm
Rhonda, First let me tell you how much my heart bleeds for you. The first years was the hardest for me as I still didn't want to believe that my son was gone. I challenged God and the purpose of this horrific "life lesson" I was mad as hell at everyone and everything. I wanted to scream and beat the day lights out of his father and step-mom. How, why and what in the world where they thinking. Then Joshua's freinds would come to my home and offer to mow my lawn or wash the car. Things that Joshua use to do. As they would be offering me I would be looking at them thinking, "why are you alive and not my", "why couldn't it have been you". It was then that I knew I had to get help as the loss of any child is just to much to bare for any of us. At the of Joshua's death I was living in Delaware. When I started have these terrible thought I figured that leaving the east coast and putting distance between myself, his friends (who were nothing but awesome and trying to help me), and the criminal proceedings would save me. Needless to say that wasn't the case. As mentioned prior I am still grieving as if Joshua just died. Reading your note and others has been a breath of fresh air. One thing that I have learned is that everyone grieves differently and at their own pace. There is no set standard only you and your husband control that. Shock and disbelief are the first emotion that I think we all face. I know that until I saw my son's body I was convinced that they must have made a mistake on who was actually dead. Then when I went to his grave the first time I just want to reach down into the ground, pull up/out, rock him in my arms adn tell him every thing woudl be alright cause mommy was here. Naturally it didn't work that way. I am six years out and I found that the pain never goes away. What I have found is a way to survive with it. I never question the should have, could have, would have or what if's as they would led my to the funny farm. What I know is that I loved him with all my heart and he knew it, so that is all that matters to me. I know that I can't bring him back but in my case I can honor his memory by making sure justice is served. Realize that only you can determine how you grieve and at what pace. I am hear to listen and share anything I can with you. I don't care if its anger, sorrow or laughter. Nothing you say or feel is going to shock me as I can understand. I may have know your son but I share a loss and pain with you that many can't fathom. Something I won't wish on my worst enemy. I hope that I haven't rattle on to long. Thank you for extending yourself to me.
Comment by JoAnn Brozowski on November 12, 2010 at 2:23pm
My son Tyler, my only child, passed away in January of 2010 from an accidental overdose. He was 24. We are all in the same boat - talking on this site is the only solace I have. Knowing that I am not all alone in the world. I feel exactly the way you do. Keep in touch - it will help us all.
Comment by JoAnn Brozowski on November 12, 2010 at 2:23pm
My son Tyler, my only child, passed away in January of 2010 from an accidental overdose. He was 24. We are all in the same boat - talking on this site is the only solace I have. Knowing that I am not all alone in the world. I feel exactly the way you do. Keep in touch - it will help us all.
Comment by Annette Walters on October 14, 2010 at 12:32pm
Dearest Ronda, I am so sorry for your loss of your son Sean. I too lost my son Chase, 21 yrs. old on February 6, 2010 to an accidental drug overdose. Please go to his site at www.mitchellchasejones.com to read his story. I know your loss, pain and suffering as I have a forever hole in my heart. My only comfort and peace is to know that Chase loved God so much and I know he is in heaven and I will get to see him one day and we get to spend eternity together. I am praying for you that God will put a shield around you and comfort you with His peace. You are not alone in your suffering my friend as we are all going through the pain together. God bless you and be with you.

Annette Walters
Johns Creek, GA
annettemwalters@yahoo.com
Comment by Carrie L on September 12, 2010 at 8:58am
Hi Ronda myson is morgan he was almost 24 I feel so much guilt and that I got life all wrong. i am never going to get over this. now I don't know what to do. keep going i have other children moved away from my two sons and feel so much guilt why i moved and on and on. he needed me and i wasn't available. his dad was thank goodness. but i never thought this would happen like a fool.. we have a lot in common we are in ky.... i would like to move back but it is hard for there is expensive property there nothing likewe have here. things didn't work out like i wanted them to but they are not that bad. i am having marital problems. and feel like that again left me unavailable for my kids .. sorry.. for us and our sons and the life we have lost because nothing is ever the same.. without them being a vibrant part of our lives. carrie L

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