On May 26, 2015, my son was shot in the stomach by a person who robbed subway in Stockton , California. He was 43 years old, married no children they were going to adopt a baby. He was the kindest person everyone who knew him liked him. He would give you the shirt off his back if you asked for it. He was a college educated man but could not find work in his field but he took a job at subway rather then go on welfare or turn to crime to make ends meet. this animal came in and shot him for a sandwich, he would of gave him the sandwich had he just asked. Turns out this person has quite a history of crime and was wanted on several other charges. I can not make since of this, no point to it. They did catch this person the next day and he will be tried with the death sentence in mind. But that will not bring my son back to me and they will never actually put him to death. He sits in prison having all his needs taken care of breathing and my son breaths no more. I go to bed crying, I sleep all ay and when I am awake I am crying. I only had two sons and now I worry about the other son 24 /7. I think I will never be right again.  I have not found one good support group in this area, I am hoping reaching out to this support will hope.

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Comment by Private Memorial Clergy Boston on July 15, 2015 at 9:26pm

Paula, look for support groups on facebook and on Yahoo groups.  Interact with other blogs on here so you can have feedback and interaction.  Keep reaching out.  God bless you Sweetheart you are doing a good job.  Don't give up, you have another boy to live for.  

Comment by Paula Lucero on July 15, 2015 at 9:21pm

Margaret thank you it helps some that others are at least listing. Today was a really ruff day, I just want my son back.

Comment by Margaret Lopez on July 14, 2015 at 7:11am

I am so sorry for what you are going through.  My thoughts and prayers are with you and I hope you find the strength to endure this tragedy!  I have lost so many in my family these past years my head continues to spin.  I can't imagine losing a child.  Please try to hold on..... knowing you are not alone.

Comment by Paula Lucero on July 13, 2015 at 5:12pm

Thank you for your thoughtful words.


Comment by Private Memorial Clergy Boston on July 13, 2015 at 3:01pm

I cannot imagine the breadth and depth of your grief.  Firstly I want to say that I am very sorry for your sorrow and the senseless killing of your son.  From my heart I would say to you to be very gentle with yourself through this time.  Comfort  yourself as though and innocent child while you are going through this tragic time.  When JFK was assassinated right before Jackie's eyes...she took to bed to grieve and wail for 6 mos.  After six mos she rose from her grief and made a decision to live on for her children.  

There was great wisdom in her actions.  She did not deny her pain and sorrow.  She gave herself time to process her trauma and broken heart.  Do not deny yourself your grief...when you have cried every tear to the bottom of the well of your heart...lift yourself if and LIVE for you and your remaining child.  God bless your sweet heart.  ~ Rev. Lee

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