I lost my soul mate on April 8, 2016 while he was walking on his lunch break. My daughter bought him a fitbit so that he could get healthy with all of us. He loved it and he beat us on every challenge. The sad part is that she now feels some responsibility for his death. No matter how much you tell her she isn't it stays in her mind. The texting, on meth driver crossed over the road and hit him from behind. He was at the hospital for almost 2 hours before we even found out he had been hit. Although we are told that he was killed instantly part of you can only hope that is the case and that he didn't suffer. I am still in the denial stage and wait for him to walk through the door. I don't know how to go on without him. We met when I was only about 13 years old, he was my first and my last. We have two adult children and 6 grandkids. They were the light of his life. They managed to get him to do things that you never would have imagined him doing. Although we have many pictures and many memories, I miss him terribly. 

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Comment by T.C. Goodwin on August 31, 2016 at 4:29pm

Sorry for your lost Rose. I can not imagine how you feel to lose your best friend and husband of many years. I know he is in God's memory.

I look forward to the time we there will be  no more tears of pain and sorrow

-Revelation 21:3,4

Comment by Harold McKinstry on August 30, 2016 at 7:45pm


Sorry for your recent loss my wife past away January 29th. I went through the same thing wishing her to come through the door. It's too bad about your daughter blaming herself, my wife was on a ventilator for 6 weeks one night her poor dear Heart gave out and stopped for 29 min. I had to make the decision to turn off her ventilator, I held her and talked to her and heard her taking her last few breaths. Mentally I knew I did the right thing but for quite awhile, I would ask myself did I kill my Wife. I finally told myself that I made the best decision I could with the information I had. It's hard to think straight on anything when you are in raw grief, with time she will come around. I wish I could tell you something to help you feel somewhat better. Post often don't try to control your grief let it go where it needs too. Hang in there Rose       

Comment by Sara Murphy on August 30, 2016 at 5:09pm

Rose, I'm so sorry for you loss.  I understand the pain you feel.  I lost my husband in January after 30 years together.  I'm only 50 so he was my life for my entire adult life. The denial stage lasts for a while.  It's still surreal for me, I can't believe he's not coming home.  Your daughter will eventually realize she is not responsible but until she is ready to hear it/realize it, there's nothing you can say to ease her guilt. 

Hugs and prayers to you.


Comment by Deb S on August 30, 2016 at 12:53pm

Rose, You and your husband shared most of your lives together. I imagine that you do miss him terribly. My prayers are with you.  Debbie

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