Hi There. As a mother who lost her eldest son ten years ago, I have come to really dislike the term often used in grief work as living with a new normal. I work as a grief therapist and psychotherapist, and I can tell you from the perspective of a parent, there is nothing normal about the loss of a child, no matter the age. I think of it as "a new reality" that we are forced to live with. Losing someone you love isn't normal. Yes we adapt over time - life goes on with or without you. I get that. But losing a child, well that is a whole different thing. It is out of the order of things. It is my belief that we live in a death-denying society and most people are just uncomfortable with death. It's messy and nobody wants to talk about it. I get that. I think a lot of people are afraid that if it happens to you, it can happen to them. It has been my experience that we must do the adapting, harsh as that is, because the world marches on. People want us to be better, even members of our own family. But the reality belongs to us and us alone. This is a difficult journey and one I would not wish on my worst enemy. At the end of the day, it still surprises me that ten years later and I'm still here. Never thought it would happen. We can find happiness again and even joy, but it's never ever the same. We are changed forever, and that is the new reality.