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At 2:10pm on October 1, 2011, Sheila Venezia said…
Hi Valerie It is really great to hear from you.Thank you. I am so sorry for you lose.  It sounds like you were a good mom and "dad".  Monday is my son Jason's birthday. Would be 34.  My life is really non existent.  I think about him always and cry most of the time. I just don't know how to get through all of this.  Birthday, Thanksgiving, Christmas. Then his 1 year anniversay on Jan. 25.  Jason was my life. I don't understand how to get through it all. I guess I will never be the person I was before Jan. 25, 2011. I can't ever possible be the same without Jason.  I send you hugs and thinking about you.
At 2:10pm on October 1, 2011, Sheila Venezia said…
Hi Valerie It is really great to hear from you.Thank you. I am so sorry for you lose.  It sounds like you were a good mom and "dad".  Monday is my son Jason's birthday. Would be 34.  My life is really non existent.  I think about him always and cry most of the time. I just don't know how to get through all of this.  Birthday, Thanksgiving, Christmas. Then his 1 year anniversay on Jan. 25.  Jason was my life. I don't understand how to get through it all. I guess I will never be the person I was before Jan. 25, 2011. I can't ever possible be the same without Jason.  I send you hugs and thinking about you.
At 9:15am on September 21, 2011, Terri - Autumn's Mom said…
Hi Valerie,
I was just thinking about you and wondering how you're doing?  
At 3:06pm on September 18, 2011, Amelia R Chavez said…
Hi Valerie nice to hear from you too.I understand your feelings and always remember we are here for each other.Take care
At 6:56pm on September 15, 2011, Jeff Justus said…

Val, you're so right about never being able to be completely happy...ever again!

At 4:35pm on September 10, 2011, Janet - Todd's Mom said…

Dear Valerie, 

It was so good to hear from you!

I too take Valium at times when I'm so nervous and confused I can't think straight.  It helps my mind to calm down and do what I need to do for the day.  You're right, it doesn't get easier, although other parents who have lost children have told me that the pain "softens" somewhat over time.  Or that "it's something that you learn to live with".  I hope our sons have connected in heaven and are good friends too.  I miss Todd so much; if I could only SEE HIM BEING HAPPY maybe it would help ease the pain.  Of course it's not possible for me to "see" him.  Hurts so much. But I don't have to tell you that.

That's an absolutely beautiful garden you've planted for Joey!  I want to make one for Todd...I keep saying that, but when I saw Joey's garden, it's beauty took my breath away and made me more determined than ever not to be afraid that my flowers will die. 

Thinking of you and your handsome son Joey,

Love,

Janet

At 11:53pm on August 27, 2011, Alicia Rodriguez said…
Hi valerie thinking of you and Dusty on his angel day.i know its hard.I'm missing my beloved son Jesse.i to have to take sleeping pills everyday now for two years.I
I'm so sorry we lost our sons.we just keep making it one day at a time.i hope jesse and Dusty and all the Angels here have met in haven.God Blesse you and be strong. Alicia Jesse's MOM
At 10:17pm on August 27, 2011, Susan - Donny's Mom said…

I know none of us can make it any easier for you today but know we are all thinking of you today and Dusty too.  Tonight I will lite my little battery candle in Dusty's memory.

Peace for you Valerie...

Susan

At 4:58am on August 25, 2011, Tim's Mom, Vickie said…
Hi Valerie,
I know this week is turning into a whirlwind of emotions for you. Tim's 2nd angelversary was a bittersweet day where I felt comfort in how far I've come in 2 years as well as it was 2 years of no Tim. I felt like I had no right to be moving ahead so soon, that I neglected him and his memory. His 28th birthday would be September 26th and I'm already having a hard time dealing with it and it's weeks away.
There is a lot of comfort in knowing Tim is with all the awesome kids we have lost. There's more comfort in knowing the parents of those kids.
I'm sending you massive *hugs* and lighting a candle for Dusty to show him that we all love him.
At 3:48pm on August 21, 2011, Janet - Todd's Mom said…

Hi Valerie, 

I saw your post today about the two year anniversary coming up.  June 8, 2011 was the 2nd anniversary of Todd's angel date, and I know what you mean about the weeks before.  I kept thinking how on May 29, Todd had gone to his doctor because he was very sick with a bad cough & cold.  He went before work so as not to miss any time.  This so-called doctor sent him away, telling him he "wasn't that sick" and "didn't have the flu or pneumonia.  3 days later, on June 1, he went back, again before work, and got a different doctor who diagnosed him with pneumonia and prescribed the antibiotics that the other doctor wouldn't.  Again, he went to work all day.  June 2, he had an app't with the Sleep Clinic, where he had recently been diagnosed with a severe case of Sleep Apnea.  He was happy about the CPAP machine they prescribed to help him breath while sleeping, because it really helped a lot.  He was always so enthused about new things like that.  At the sleep clinic they called an ambulance to bring him to the hospital.  He was diagnosed with Acute Respiratory Distress Syndrome and put on a ventilator. His organs began failing.  Nothing they did helped.  He died on June 8, 2009 and we've been absolutely devastated by his loss.  So, I just wanted to say that I know the pain you are going through and I'm so sorry.

Hugs,

Janet   

At 9:03pm on August 20, 2011, Cathy Pearly said…

Valerie,  I don't want to hear you talk like that!  You are a strong woman...I hate it when people say that to me, but sometimes it is just the exact words that fit a situation.  Do NOT give in to all those negative feelings.  When you are overwhelmed like I think you are right now, you need to go out and do something....anything!  Do something for someone else.  Do a small kindness for a stranger...walk around the block...write a letter to dusty and just let your mind say anything and everything it thinks of, and then take the letter, roll it up and stuff it in a balloon and let it go, or take it in the backyard and light it on fire and watch the ashes (or balloon) that float away and think of it as being carried up to Dusty.  I know you are sad and that you miss him...I KNOW this Valerie!  But you will get stronger as time goes by.  You will have your new normal, and it will NOT hurt as bad...I promise you this.  Work through all of these feelings  and let yourself explore every emotion you have...it gets easier I promise Valerie.  Tell me about your new job.  You can email me directly if you want to at cathypearly@gmail.com Call me anytime, you know I am here for you always.  I love you!  Cathy

At 9:03pm on August 20, 2011, Cathy Pearly said…

Valerie,  I don't want to hear you talk like that!  You are a strong woman...I hate it when people say that to me, but sometimes it is just the exact words that fit a situation.  Do NOT give in to all those negative feelings.  When you are overwhelmed like I think you are right now, you need to go out and do something....anything!  Do something for someone else.  Do a small kindness for a stranger...walk around the block...write a letter to dusty and just let your mind say anything and everything it thinks of, and then take the letter, roll it up and stuff it in a balloon and let it go, or take it in the backyard and light it on fire and watch the ashes (or balloon) that float away and think of it as being carried up to Dusty.  I know you are sad and that you miss him...I KNOW this Valerie!  But you will get stronger as time goes by.  You will have your new normal, and it will NOT hurt as bad...I promise you this.  Work through all of these feelings  and let yourself explore every emotion you have...it gets easier I promise Valerie.  Tell me about your new job.  You can email me directly if you want to at cathypearly@gmail.com Call me anytime, you know I am here for you always.  I love you!  Cathy

At 5:56pm on July 27, 2011, Rev.James Durden said…
Hi Valerie,it's good to hear that you're so involved in the church and tour heart is for the Lord and I hope you grow strong as you worship the Lord and follow his word,I hope your ministry grows and people are healed and blessed by your actions.God Bless 
At 12:32am on July 25, 2011, Tami said…
Valerie, I have the perfect Jobs, I clean a doctors office on Sundays, and I clean houses, maybe one a week, but I like it because I wont clean unless the people aren't home, so it is very nice to be somewhere else and nobody there! I also pet sit a few times a month and that is house sitting and pet sitting, I do it for my cousins that are always going away, so I love that! But if I truly had to get a Job Job, I would do the office cleaning, it is at night and it is easy!!! Love to you and know that I will be here forever until my last breath! so If you ever need anything I am here!
At 5:09pm on July 24, 2011, Tami said…
Valerie, I too count the hours days and sometimes min. I can tell you right now, that Joey has been gone 761 days 15 hours and 48 min..... It drives my husband crazy and I think it drives me crazy too! I am here for you, Please go outside, sit in the garden, take a deep breath, think of Dusty, send him love, and ask for strength... I sometimes do this at night, I just go out side, sit and star at one star, I pretend it is a window from Heaven and Joey can see me, I cry, dont get me wrong, but I talk to him, if anyone is around I do it in my mind, Im sure I look nuts doing the hand gestures and the head tilting, but oh well. Love you sweety and we are here, Just keep writing, we are listening!
At 9:00pm on July 23, 2011, Tami said…
It really seemed like just another day, it was strange, you build yourself up to where you get sick, no energy, anxiety, waiting for something, but it ends up just the same as before, it is so hard to explain. I did work myself up to a frenzy before the second angelversary, I kind of blocked everyone out, I cried, and then the day came, I didn't feel anything different than I feel every day. So strange, and the next day was business as usual.
At 9:20am on July 16, 2011, Janet - Todd's Mom said…

Hi Valerie,  Thank you for the info on anti-depressants.  I'm glad to hear that they're working. The combination that finally had worked for me is Wellbutrin & Celexa, plus Trazadone (a very old antidepressant that actually works better at helping people sleep).  I had suffered from clinical depression most of my life, and about 7 yrs ago this combination finally worked for me.  Then, 2 yrs ago, when we lost Todd so suddenly, I was numb from the shock for awhile.  Didn't want to believe it.  The doctor increased the dosage a little, but it didn't help, so I went back to the lower dosage I was taking before this nightmare began. 

Everyone says the 2nd yr is the worst, but now I'm in my 3rd yr (2nd anniversary was 6/8/11) and I'm feeling worse.  I'm so sorry it's a terrible time for you too, with Dusty's birthday on June 28, and the 2nd anniversary coming up on Aug 28.  I too get angered when I'm told that I'm the one who controls how I feel and also that things will get better.  How?  My son, my best friend, my joy in life, is no longer alive because of a negligent doctor, but we're told, "No one knows for sure that antibiotics would have helped him because even broad-spectrum antibiotics didn't help in the hospital".  But I feel that if he had been given antibiotics when he first went to his doctor, 5 days before he was rushed to the hospital, he would have had a fighting chance against the pneumonia, and that it wouldn't have developed into Acute Respiratory Distress Syndrome, which is deadly.  

This journey is too long and painful.  The only relief I get is when I'm here on this site and reading about other people's sons and daughters and how other parents are coping.  

Sending you a warm hug today,

Janet    

At 11:53pm on July 8, 2011, Ann said…
hey Valerie....Thanks for the remembering.  I had  BBQ at the house for Michael's birthday and invited 30 of his cosest friends and then I took balloons to the cemetery and left them on hid grave.  The next day I cut them loose and let them fly up and out of sight, the kids loved it and I did too.I'm praying for us and Dusty and Mike.
At 4:54pm on July 6, 2011, Melinda Ellen Guinn said…
I enjoyed it. Bittersweet. I miss Candace SOO much!
At 3:00pm on July 6, 2011, Melinda Ellen Guinn said…
Thanks Valerie, I received it. It made me cry. All the while I kept looking at Candace's picture I have right here. Thank you again.

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