Dee, This time of the year seems to escalate our pain and intensifies our loneliness but some how we move forward. I too look at the calendar and wonder where did the time go. The days move on, the calendar changes months and I am stick in limbo.
As far as cleaning up your husbands stuff the consensus seems to be, when we are ready and only then can it be done in peace. I was able to clean out my husband's suite because he hated wearing them but they got as far as being put in a box and shoved in the bottom of the closet! When I am ready they will make it out the door. Until then they are not bothering a thing so they will stay there.
Stay strong and remember there are NO right or wrong answers down this road. It is up to you and what you are capable to handle.