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At 6:19pm on June 18, 2019, Thomas L. Trolia said…

I got married in my home town where I worked for a mini grocery chain, 27 stores, and of course, we were a close net family of workers.  The owner was at a function where he ate a piece of cake and it was so good.  He made an offer to provide her a Bakery to make baked goods for his 27 stores.  Mrs. Smally made my wedding cake.  We took part of the cake back to my wife's home town and they loved the cake and the leftover Whiskey.

At 9:19am on May 9, 2019, Frances C Younger said…

Sometimes I go back and re-read posts, I guess for comfort.  I appreciate you said I was important.  After your best friend passes, you don't get so much encouragement.  Yesterday, a good lady hugged and and to be honest, after her well-meaning condolences, I think it reopened the wound, and put me in such a down mood.  Sometimes it all seems so unreal.  I think I am in an angry stage, but I know with time, I will be able to handle my tender emotions.  I do have a purpose driven life, but there sure are some sad moments.  I am changing my home a little bit so that I am not constantly in a negative place.  I packed up his much loved books and hope they find a reader who loves the writer's he loved.  I kept saying I would read them, but he is not here to discuss them.  God Bless you have a wonderful day.

At 11:04am on April 30, 2019, Frances C Younger said…

Thanks Barbara, I might figure this message stuff out, might not. lol

My husband died in his sleep about 3 months ago - it's tough.  I am amazed at how stong I have been, but crushed.  This was my second loss of a spouse, and although not a child of my own has died, my gran daughter was killed.

I am past retirement age, but have the blessing of still able to teach for the GED program, and also have custody of 2 little boys.  Their 18 year old brother is with us as well.           I am still in the control your tears mode.  No one understands who has not been there.  I needed some reassurancw I guess.  Today has been good.  Those days surprise me too.  So sorry for your loss.  My daughter llost her only child about the same time you did.  We talk about her everyday.  Christle and her husband did have a baby boy, so life is more on track for them.  Thanks for speaking to me.  I really felt I was at a non working message board.  I have not logged out.  I have to find my password.  

At 3:01pm on March 29, 2019, Becky Jackson said…

Hi Barbra. This Becky Jackson. I just read your loving comment you wrote me. I want Thank you for showing interest. My son Donte was 20, he died by suicide, I found him in his closet. That’s when my world came crushing down on me it was a terrible painful ordeal. A part of me died too. This all happened on August 22,2018. And it’s like a broken record playing over and over again. Seeing what I found was horrifying no one should go through this. I miss him so much I literally hurt so bad, my sweet boy. 

At 8:26pm on March 23, 2019, elyse said…

Hello Barbara, David is right,I was reading up on that.Birthday month flowers,which month are you ?

At 1:05am on December 2, 2018, Sara McNamara said…

Wow,  I did not at all think that anyone would care to read, let alone respond to,  my post.  I don't have anyone (other than the Lord) I can talk to to help me get through this experience. I truly cannot tell you how much your responses mean to me.  I know that God will never leave my side, but knowing that there are people who I've never met that cared enough to respond to my brokenness gives me additional hope.   The range and intensity of emotions I continue to feel since my father's passing on October 24, 2018 makes me wonder if this will ever get any easier.

At 4:34pm on April 22, 2018, elyse said…

Barbara,continuation ,still trying to navigate .I get cut off and have to start again.What I was going to add was that I go to Bereavement group and I'm unable to speak of my feelings,so through this site,it makes it easier.Family doesn't want to hear of my grief,they don't know what to say.

At 4:28pm on April 22, 2018, elyse said…

Barbara,Thank you also for your suggestion about the group I was asking about,I was able to figure it out after awhile and so I created it under"Words to our Loved ones",your welcome to join,unless like you said you do that on FB,I don't have FB,not familiar with it.So here I am able to have somewhat of a relief/release of my thoughts.

At 3:13pm on April 19, 2018, elyse said…

Barbara,Do you know how I would go about creating a group on here ?

At 11:28pm on April 16, 2018, elyse said…

Barbara,Ty.I'll try to add it to "Sibling group".

At 8:07pm on April 16, 2018, elyse said…

Barbara,I read your post and David 's,where is the column "Words to Our Loved Ones" ? Thanx

At 11:55am on April 10, 2018, Kathy Manning said…

 8 years without your son. Birthdays and Anniversaries are hard. You are an inspiration. So true yesterday is gone and tomorrow is not promised. Live for today. I hope the memories and the love you shared with your son got you through. That's all we have now. Going into my 9th year without Brittney; my only child. Still so hard to believe. Please continue to post. You inspire me to go on. Thank you.

At 2:03pm on February 12, 2018, Tracie Williams said…

Barbara,

I am truly sorry to hear of your losses.  I was unable to reply Friday.  I am glad you have been on this site and are comfortable with it.  I will be sporadic on when I log on here. I am at work/lunch now and have a few minutes just now.  I really appreciate your reaching out to me.  You must be a very strong woman; I know you must grieve everyday yet must find a way to continue life.  Warm regards back to you and hopefully I will be able to get into a habit of visiting this site for strength and support.

At 1:33am on November 4, 2017, Ken Smalwood said…

Thanks Barbara, yes I am still on the PC myself.. you would think I had enough after this week, lol. 

The opiate overdose epidemic is completely out of control and so sad:( David had several physical ailments as well. COPD, Diabetes and Cardio Vascular disease. 

The week before he passed away, he was diagnosed with Diabetes. He was prescribed Suboxone just 3 days prior to his death for chronic back pain. This medication is an Opiate agonist that is prescribed to individuals that are withdrawing from Heroin but can also be prescribed for chronic pain as its not suppose to be addictive like other Opiates are. When I found him the first thing I had thought of was a possible accidental overdose, however, the medical examiner claims it was natural causes, even after we requested a toxicology be performed. I just wanted some sort of closure and understanding. I am fairly certain it was the COPD but if the medication assisted in anyway, I guess I will never know. 

I believe I had read that you had lost your son? I cannot even imagine how devastating that would be and I am so sorry for your loss!  One of my biggest supporters through all of this lost her son 2 years ago on Oct 23rd. He was 24.

Since moving back home in 2010, its been rough to say the least. I lost my mom in 2011, A great friend since the early 90's in 2013, his partner in 2015 and now mine. 

Here is hoping that 2018 will be much better for all of us:) 

Again, I am very sorry for your loss and would love to hear about him:)

You have a good weekend as well!

Ken

At 11:47pm on November 3, 2017, Ken Smalwood said…

(continued)

It's somewhat ironic because we moved in together over Labor Day weekend in 2011. 

I have been working remotely from home now for almost 4 years and because I am a very social person, the isolation has been rough but bearable while David was here. Now.. I am not sure how long I will be able to stay with this job without going back to an office. I actually look forward to the many conference calls I have just to be able to talk to someone:)

I have several friends that want for me to consider moving back to KC for a fresh start. We will see, I know that right now, I am not ready to make any major changes but who knows what the future will bring for me. 

Well, hopefully I have not been too long winded:) It was great hearing from you again and hope that all is well with you. Hope to chat again soon.

Sincerely, 

Ken

At 11:30pm on November 3, 2017, Ken Smalwood said…

Hi Barbara, 

Sorry to take so long replying to your last comment. I work from home for an IT company and have been extremely busy on multiple projects that I am mentally drained most evenings during the week. It sounds like you have been keeping busy with your advisory committee involvement as well. I think that it is great! I wish I had more free time from work to be able to become more involved with outside activities myself. I have always wanted to do some volunteer work at an animal shelter. I am an animal lover and know that it would be a perfect means to fulfill this void now in my life. I am hoping that someday work will slow down to where I can do this. 

Even though work is keeping me very busy, this week has been difficult on my emotions. I think because of Halloween.

My story is somewhat complex but here it goes:)

My partner's name was David and we first met in 1993 through a mutual acquaintance. I didn't realize this at the time but I had met my soul mate. Back then we would see each other out on the weekends and always speak but we had a separate circle of friends so we had never connected. In 1995 I met someone else who was in town for business and we began dating. The following year I had moved away to Kansas City to start a relationship that lasted 14 years. Towards the last several years of that relationship, my partner and I had grown apart and were having difficulties in our relationship. In 2007 during a visit to my family in St. Louis, I had met some friends out one evening and as I was socializing I felt someone looking at me from behind so I looked back and it was David. I could hardly believe it as it had been over 10 years since I had seen him last. We hung out together that night and had a great time socializing with friends. The next morning I left to head home to KC and didn't talk to him again until I moved back to STL in 2010. Again, I happened to run into him one eveing and that was the start of our relationship. My current relationship had ended and even though I still love my former partner and we are very close, I had never felt the same type of love or connection that I did with David. 

Halloween that year in 2010, I had thrown a party and it was really the first event that David and I attended together and from that point on we were together. It was such a great night which is why this Halloween had very good  but painful memories for me.

In 2011 I had lost my mother while David and I were on a trip to Alabama. I was very close with my mom and have always felt sorry that I was not here when she passed. David was here for me then and helped me through that difficult time. 

He was also very close to his mom who passed in 2008. I wish I could have been here for him the way that he was for me at that time as I may have been able to help prevent what followed. David suffered from Bi Polar disorder as well as Major Depression. The death of his mother was the catalyst which started an addiction to alchohol and prescription meds. Because of David's battle with mental health and some traumatic events that happened to him as a child, he tried to cover up these painful emotions he felt after his mother's death with alcohol and medications.  I knew at the time we started dating that he had addictions he was battling. He was very up front with me about his problems. The thing is, when you love someone, your there for them no matter what and I knew a long time prior that I loved him and always had. 

Despite the mental illness, addictions and physical ailments, I would not give anything for the time that we had spent together. We had some rough patches but the good completely out weighed the bad.

David passed away in his sleep on Sept 04 at 46 years old. His body was tired. He passed 10 days before his 47th birthday. We would have been together 7 years on the 1st of October. He passed over Labor Day

At 3:09am on October 28, 2017, Ken Smalwood said…

Thank you Barbara.. I appreciate the kind words and I hope I am replying correctly. I am trying to get use to this site. My sincere condolences to your lost loved ones also:( . I am the clean shaven one in the picture. My story is a long and complicated one that I will hopefully someday be ready to talk about. The grief I have had the last several weeks has been unreal. I am still trying to come to terms with everything. The funeral home just called today that I can come in and pick up the death certificates. Just when I think I am starting to get a little better, something like that happens and brings me right back to where I started:(. I am hoping that I will be able to move forward eventually. I have a good support group of friends and family. I think joining one of the support groups that you mentioned will be good for me also. I appreciate it! Thank you:)

At 11:30am on September 20, 2017, cathy winslow said…

Hi Barbara,Thank You for your words,I really appreciate hearing from you.My Wolf is part shepard,akita,chow...90 pounds.The insurance man just left awhile ago,I think I'll make out OK.I remember we lost our Son's in a similar way,the result of ....evil people!I swear I could hear Danny saying...what were you going to do with all my old clothes & shoes?Throw that shit away......I still kept his last pair,I had put them up.So thats it for now.HUGS,Cathy

At 10:26pm on April 6, 2017, Daphne vaughn (Anthony's Mom ) said…
Barbara thinking of you and your son Joe sending lots of hugs your way.you post such meaningful thingsIenjoy your posts just wanted you to know that you are in my thoughts and prayers this week!!!
At 2:31pm on April 4, 2017, cathy winslow said…

Hi Barbara,Thank you.My name,Catherine....they used to call me royalty at work...ha ha.I love to read everything,secretly,I've always thought about writing a book.I wrote a lot of poetry in my 20's,Danny found them years ago & was impressed.Maybe that is my purpose?I am glad you are an upbeat voice,I need that.Lets keep keeping on.Hugs,Cathy.

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