I'll be off work all of next week, as I'm having foot surgery this coming Friday the 14th.  You can call me any morning you have a few moments.

Nina,  here is the poem (I had to look on our Bereaved Spouses/Facebook page, as I am at work & didn't have it on this computer.---If you belong to Facebook/easy to join if not/ck out Bereaved Spouses page) I too love these type poems, and when I find them I copy & paste onto a Word document & save. Short ones, you can put a bunch on one page:

 

I was stilling here in Heaven & having a wonderful day.
I started thinking about you & all the things I didn't get a chance to say.
I don't want you to worry about me & please don't shed any tears,Everything I had on Earth, I have in Heaven too!
My first day here, my body became brand new,
It is really pretty here and I love my new home.
Although your heart is broken, because my body is gone;
My love will always be there, as you go along the way.
Just take a peek inside your heart; there is where I'll stay.
Know that I love my family & all my friends too.
My thoughts will be with each of you your whole life through.

nina: i just read your comment your husband and my husband died 1 year apart of each other: george pass on 3/1/09 sorry to hear about your loss stay on this site it will help you

Nina, I am so sorry for the loss of your precious husband. I lost my husband on just over 8 weeks ago and I haven't stopped crying since. I talk to him ALL the time. I found a recording on the computer of him today and cried and thought he was home. I guess together we will help each other. Glad you are here too. Holidays are horrible. We would have been married day after Christmas 12 years. I just have to stay in the moment. HUGS. Help Us Grow Strong. Ellen~

Hi Nina
Just wanted to let you know I am thinking of you.
I have been looking for a job since I got laid off but
no bites. I think if I could find one, it would help me
a lot with my lonliness.
Hope you are doing better and that you were able to
sell your property.

Hugs (((())))) Arlene

Hi Nina
Hope you are having a better day than I am.
I keep crying......I hate being alone, especially
at night.
Just wanted you to know I think of you because
I know you are going thru the same feelings.
Thanks for listening to me "vent"
Arlene

I dont know why when I write my msgs to you, I get cut short so I have to start over....sorry about that.
Anyhow I also went to my doctor yesterday for a physical and she wants me to try prozaac for a short period of time. Says it will get me the energy I need to stop hanging around . Im not sure I want to take that so I havent filled the prescription yet.
I am DREADING the upcoming holidays ! Dont know how I will get thru all of them.
Im glad you have found some comfort in that church. Hope you continue to go whenever you can. I know its hard with work scheduled.
I will keep you in my prayers still and you try to take care.
Hugs, (((())))) Arlene

They all cried. So I didnt feel like I was the only one going crazy with grief. Only people like us who are actually going thru this on their own, with no direct household help, can understand. I havent done a darn thing in my house since he died in June. I just sit and watach tv most of the time. We have a place in Maine for the summers and I only went up like 4 day trips. Just could not do it.
I have to learn how to do everything now, he did it all because I worked all the time (my husband was older than I) But then I got laid off last October.
I have been trying to find a job but no bites. You are fortunate you have one and can get out of the house for even that short period of time. I know it must be hard to face people, but im sure you get strength from it too.

Hi Nina
It was nice to heaer from you.
Likewise, nobody else emails me from this site. Actually I find
it a bit confusing to maneuver around with. Everything seems
like its old stuff...
Last night I went to my first bereavement group that I recently joined. There were 10 of us. 7 had husbands pass on who were
sick for a long time, 1 other was a suicide (I give her credit to admit that. Lots of people would not and be afraid others would stereo type her)
and then 1 other like me, had a sudden death I was the only one with recent death the others were from 7 years ago, 3 years ago and within the last year.

I want to tell you about this great book I read.
Its called I Can't Stop Crying
This book says everything just the way we really see things!
I picked it up at the local library....
I am going to a grief support group beginning on 9-16
How has your week gone so far ?
Keep in tough....its good to know I am not alone in this terrible grief I am feeling.
HUGS (((())))

Hi Nina Thanks for thinking of me !!
You know, its 3 months since my husband's sudden death
At first, I received phone calls & visits.
Now, nothing. Its like everybody is back to their old lives
(which I cannot blame them) and just forgotten about me
and how hard it is to be alone (especially at night)

Hi Nina

Hope you are having a better week and just wanted to let you know you are not alone in this...I think about you frequently and know that I am not alone, either.
Hugs ,
Arlene

Nina, you are so right ! After arguments, we alwas still loved each other, after all its part of life
(arguments) But when I go anywhere, I come home to an empty house too, and I just cry.
On top of it, my daughter who has 3 kids is having marital problems and is mad (she actually
swore & then hung up on me) because I didnt
tell her she & the kids could come here for a couple of months. Nina, I just cant do that right now...so shehasent called me.....
I have to start taking care of ME.....I got laid off from work last October after 16 yrs......and itsreally hard out there....nothing available, so I
worry about how I will support myself when my
unemployment stops.....so I cant burden myself with her problems....I feel badly but I just cant do it. What do you think ?? Am I wrong ?
Oh, our son stayed with us 8 months last year
and one time she snapped at my husband and me that we let him stay but one time (another time) she asked to come here & my husband told her no, too. She thinks I am favoring the son.
Im not. One son who has no wife or kids was bad enough....I dont need 4 extras right now.
Plus, I have a tiny house....
Did you go back to grief counselling ? I think you should.....i find it helpful.
Thank you for being my email buddy in grief !
I have nobody to talk to except one real close friend but she has her own problems taking care of her paraglegic son.... :-(
GOD Bless !

Hi Nina
Today wasent that bad.....I even went looking
at a couple places for a monument for the cemetary - just trying to get a few prices & compare,,etc...
My son is staying over tonight, so I am not doing
so bad. (with the crying) But when I am alone,
thats all I do......Tomorrow (the 4th) will be
very hard because I live in Massachusetts, and
in the evening they have live on the TV ..
the Boston Symphony Orchestra . Its a big deal
up here in Boston --right on the banks of the charles river, fireworks, cannons shooting off...
thousands of people sitting out on the grass taking it all in....MY HUSBAND & I WATCHED THIS EVERY YEAR ON TV.
I know Im just going to loose it tomorrow night..
maybe I wont even put the TV on...at least not on that station.
I think you should go back to the grief meetings too. I only went once so far & I found it very informative....I am going back again on wed. night. (By the way, what part of the country are you from ? )
Hang in there....I will pray for you when I say my prayers....

Symphony Orchestra

Yes, I cannot add anybody as a friend because
of that error......this site is a little confusing
to use actually.
I am actually taking zanax to help me with
the "crying".....I have to admit, it has helped
some.
I know, as you do too, that i will see my husband again someday.
Do you believe in little "incidents" happening that
you believe are messages from him ?
I was looking at some old recipe clippings from my mother (who passed last year) that she had
in a spiral notebook. Guess what fell out !
A small chain with this tiny white heart that is
a locket that you can put 2 tiny pictures in.
But on the locket.....is this tiny shamrock !
My husband was Irish . I myself am Polish.
So my mother would not have something like
this years ago...so a friend of mine told me that
it was a "sign" that he is okay and is with my
mother.
Do you think Im nuts ?

I dont know.....i m not sure I know how to
use this site...when i select you for a friend,
i get "unexpected error ".
:-(

Nina
I also lost my mother who was 94 yrs old
last year.....& I was laid off from my job after
16 years there this past october.
I am going to really have to look for something
even if its part time.

Thank you so much for that poem.....it is just
beautiful. I am going to print it out, also.
My husband passed away on 6/2/10 from
a cerebral hemorhage. I miss and cry everyday for him. I guess I should be thankful
God took him quicky, and did not make him suffer more than he did.

Can i add you as a friend ?
Thanks, Arlene