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At 1:25am on June 20, 2014, David, BERNIE's dad said…

Good-looking guy, your Cameron. Just noticed you liking my profile.

Many thanks, Lauree. Sharing grief helps so much.

Dave.

At 2:43pm on May 19, 2014, David, BERNIE's dad said…

My heart is there with yours. Our losses are so unbelievable. I wish you courage and strength.

At 11:27pm on April 4, 2011, CHERYL said…
Hi Lauree! Sorry it took so long to get back. The anniversary of my son's death was March 1. I had so much I wanted to do for Jeremy that day and the phone would not stop ringing. Finally when I was able to leave, I twisted my ankle going down the stairs. My ankles are weak, after my son's death, I dropped 20 lbs., I am sure I lost alot of muscle. I used to walk everyday and was very active, now I hardly get out. Still I wasn't going to let it stop me from what I wanted to do for Jeremy (my son) So I wraped it with an ace bandage and my husband helped me to the car. I think the anniversary of the burial was harder for me and my husband. My husband's niece was married on that day in the same church that Jeremy was passed through on his burial, we did not go, too painful, but the rest of the family went, although they did not want to go. I told them not to miss out because of us. My husband was really hurt that they picked that day, he took it harder because it was his family. I thought it was very insensative. Many things have happened since. The officer that investigated assured us that the girl that provided the pills, then watched him die should get 2nd degree murder. She got a slap on the wrist and rehab. Oh ,did I tell you that 7 mths after she killed my son she was busted with a bag full of drugs all bagged up with people's names on them that she was selling to. And also a book with everyone she sold to and a confession in her own hand writing that it was her pills that killed Jeremy. She never even went to court, never been in the paper. We have to see her at our local store and all over the place. Our justice sucks! I think I am more upset right now with the dirty people who let her get away with it! I pray that God would let them feel my pain. When my son died, I lost half of my heart. These corupt people who are covering it up are stabing me in what is left of my heart and twisting the sword in my wound. I pray that you have a better day.
At 11:27pm on April 4, 2011, CHERYL said…
Hi Lauree! Sorry it took so long to get back. The anniversary of my son's death was March 1. I had so much I wanted to do for Jeremy that day and the phone would not stop ringing. Finally when I was able to leave, I twisted my ankle going down the stairs. My ankles are weak, after my son's death, I dropped 20 lbs., I am sure I lost alot of muscle. I used to walk everyday and was very active, now I hardly get out. Still I wasn't going to let it stop me from what I wanted to do for Jeremy (my son) So I wraped it with an ace bandage and my husband helped me to the car. I think the anniversary of the burial was harder for me and my husband. My husband's niece was married on that day in the same church that Jeremy was passed through on his burial, we did not go, too painful, but the rest of the family went, although they did not want to go. I told them not to miss out because of us. My husband was really hurt that they picked that day, he took it harder because it was his family. I thought it was very insensative. Many things have happened since. The officer that investigated assured us that the girl that provided the pills, then watched him die should get 2nd degree murder. She got a slap on the wrist and rehab. Oh ,did I tell you that 7 mths after she killed my son she was busted with a bag full of drugs all bagged up with people's names on them that she was selling to. And also a book with everyone she sold to and a confession in her own hand writing that it was her pills that killed Jeremy. She never even went to court, never been in the paper. We have to see her at our local store and all over the place. Our justice sucks! I think I am more upset right now with the dirty people who let her get away with it! I pray that God would let them feel my pain. When my son died, I lost half of my heart. These corupt people who are covering it up are stabing me in what is left of my heart and twisting the sword in my wound. I pray that you have a better day.
At 11:23pm on April 4, 2011, CHERYL said…
Hi Lauree! Sorry it took so long to get back, I know I have been gone a while. The anniversary of my son's death was March 1. I had so much I wanted to do for Jeremy that day and the phone would not stop ringing. Finally when I was able to leave, I twisted my ankle going down the stairs. My ankles are weak, after my son's death, I dropped 20 lbs., I am sure I lost alot of muscle. I used to walk everyday and was very active, now I hardly get out. Still I wasn't going to let it stop me from what I wanted to do for Jeremy (my son) So I wraped it with an ace bandage and my husband helped me to the car. I think the anniversary of the burial was harder for me and my husband. My husbands niece was married on that day in the same church that Jeremy was passed through on his burial, we did not go, too painful, but the rest of the family went, although they did not want to go. I told them not to miss out because of us. My husband was really hurt that they picked that day, he took it harder because it was his family. I thought it was very insensative. Many things have happened since. The officer that investigated assured us that the girl that provided the pills, then watched him die should get 2nd degree murder. She got a slap on the wrist and rehab. Oh ,did I tell you that 7 mths after she killed my son she was busted with a bag full of drugs all bagged up with people's names on them that see was selling to. And also a book with everyone she sold to and a confession in her own hand writing that it was her pills that killed Jeremy. She never even went to court, never been in the paper. We have to see her at our local store and all over the place. Our justice sucks! I think I am more upset right now with the dirty people who let her get away with it! I pray that God would let them feel my pain. When my son died, I lost half of my heart. These corupt people who are covering it up are stabing me in what is left of my heart and twisting the sword in my wound. I pray that you have
At 5:34pm on March 24, 2011, Bobbys mom said…

Hi Lauree,

what a beautiful boy. My son was also a BMX kid he loved it. He was killed while working in Florida on 11/9/09 he was 24 and my oldest son. I know he is gone but I honestly don't think I believe that he is never really ever coming back. Everyone says it will get easier, but I sure have not felt it. I hope you are doing better than I am. I will include you in my prayers. Bobbys mom Michelle

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

At 2:15pm on March 4, 2011, shannon churchill said…

Just wanted to check in and say you are in my prayers. God bless you. 

Shannon

At 11:27pm on March 1, 2011, Jackie Jones said…
thank you for your words.  my son liked to wakeboard and snowboard as well.  everyone talks about his sense of humor.  dam this is so hard we should not have to be going through this.  so not fair.  its been a month today that he died.  i am waiting for autopsy results still to get answer on to exactly why.  i can only go by rumors until then. which is they think he got confused with his prescription medication and overdosed. 
At 10:46pm on February 26, 2011, Jeff Justus said…

Lauree, My wife and I went to two meetings and have never went back. There were no others that had lost a child. There were two that lost their spouse ..... and one that was griefing her friend's loss of a husband. I guess grieving is grieving but from my stand point. I lost my father, my sister and then my son. By far losing my son was the hardest situation to deal with. I guess losing a child puts other things in perspective.

Your son Cameron is such a good looking young man. I can tell what a joy he was in your life. This is why our situations are so difficult. We had wonderful children that didn't deserve the fate that was dealt to them.

At 10:46pm on February 26, 2011, Jeff Justus said…

Lauree, My wife and I went to two meetings and have never went back. There were no others that had lost a child. There were two that lost their spouse ..... and one that was griefing her friend's loss of a husband. I guess grieving is grieving but from my stand point. I lost my father, my sister and then my son. By far losing my son was the hardest situation to deal with. I guess losing a child puts other things in perspective.

Your son Cameron is such a good looking young man. I can tell what a joy he was in your life. This is why our situations are so difficult. We had wonderful children that didn't deserve the fate that was dealt to them.

At 6:39am on February 26, 2011, Carrie L said…
Hi Lauree I am doing ok. as ok as to be expected as teh months have rolled by and now the year mark is next week. It is especially sad. and forever sad. I let my son down and feel really responsible for his death. we moved here and I didn't do anything for him. I will regret that for the rest of my life. Moving here has become a nightmare.
At 3:16pm on February 1, 2011, CHERYL said…
Hi Lauree, sorry I haven't written to you before now. My heart goes out to you and I cry for you as well as myself and everyone on this site. I live with a broken heart. I wish I could have a dream about my son or see him like some do. I, like everyone else only want to know that my child is safe and happy, that is all I really ever wanted for him. I did go to his college graduation this month and accepted his certificate, it was very hard, but I had to do it. I too wish that I could have been with my son when he died, well if I were there he wouldn't have died. I'm sorry, don't want to go there now, just too painful. I pray that God would give me a revelation of what happened to my son and where he is now. So many people tell you things you want to hear, but I need to hear it from God, then I know it will be the truth. It just doesn't seem fair does it, why our children, not that I would wish this on anyone else. I thought things like this happened to other people not to me, because I lived my life for my son, and tried to protect him every way I possibly could. That is all for now. Jeremy's Mom forever, Cheryl
At 6:59am on January 30, 2011, Carrie L said…
Dear Laurie Hello my dear friend. I am writing because your sons photo is very happy .. I have been on this site. Trying to connect with other people like me. and it has worked I call a couple of people. and write. Every morning is especially hard. And I imagine life will never be the same. Forever changed. I have thought about having other children. But I believe I am too old. I never thought they would precede me in death. I was a little afraid of death but for me not for them. I still do not believe he is gone though I know he is ...Well thinking of you and us. and all of us. I hope your day is ok and the love that he touched you with shines. For My son surely did that also. carrie L
At 3:01pm on January 13, 2011, Jeff Justus said…
Hi Lauree, thanks for the information. This class that my wife and I are attending is six sessions long. we attend every other week and this cuurent class wraps up on March 23. This class is hosted by our local Hospice. At the completion of these sessions, my wife and I will be attending on going sessions with other parents that have lost children. I guess that meeting has many parents involved but at different levels of duration. My counselor thinks it would be beneficial to complete these first 6 sessions before going to these on going sessions.
At 12:48am on January 13, 2011, JOYCE MASHER, 4 Amy 5158791808 said…

Hi Lauree,

I know what you are going through, as we all say here. I cant say I will be much support, because after 2 yrs 3 mnths or so, I find it harder at times. I dont work, and I am home alone a  lot just waiting for my hubby to come home from work. I used to wait for my Amy too. I did more with her while she was doing college and part time work while hubby worked out of town. I just miss her so much and just like you, cant seem to move on. I think the sudden loss is so hard to deal with. We had her in ICU from the 13th to the 18th. We all were so optimistic but now after the fact, I realized the nurses and doctors just went with the flow of waiting. she had closed head injuries and we were told the oulook was grimm. I didnt hear those words because I never in my wildest dreams thought she wouldnt wake up. We didnt get that choice. I will never understand it. I go over and over it in my head.

I dont want to make it worse for you or anyone else, because it does change. You will have really bad days and then some good days. Then the holidays or birthdays come around. Mothers day, fathers day, etc. I dont even want to celebrate them anymore. I get mad because society says we have to. Maybe that is why we have memories of good times. I dont know, I just think too much and all the hype.  .

I hope I am not making you worse, I am not trying to. And I must say, what ever makes  you feel better and make you happy, do it. Give yourself more time. I still cry a lot. It does make me feel better after. I talk to her and yell at her. the only thing I dont like is, everyone else gets to visit her grave more than me. I dont have a car. I just hope she knows that. and I also wonder if I did have a car, would I have over done it and gone there every day? Maybe it would have helped make me be more at ease with it all. We are all going thru a big transition in our lives. We dont like it. But we have no choice.hugs to you and all in this group..

At 7:07pm on January 6, 2011, Susan - Donny's Mom said…

Maybe I will try another group.  The first one was an ongoing and there were people in there 3yrs after losing their person.  That freaked me out.  I thought at the time that they should not be in there after that long.  Little did I know at the time that this is a lifetime of adjustment....I think it was just too soon after Donny left us.

At my church they had a 12 wk class but I couldn't go on the night they offered it.  I will keep trying and glad you are finding peace in dealing with your loss.

Thanks for getting back to me.

At 7:07pm on January 6, 2011, Susan - Donny's Mom said…

Maybe I will try another group.  The first one was an ongoing and there were people in there 3yrs after losing their person.  That freaked me out.  I thought at the time that they should not be in there after that long.  Little did I know at the time that this is a lifetime of adjustment....I think it was just too soon after Donny left us.

At my church they had a 12 wk class but I couldn't go on the night they offered it.  I will keep trying and glad you are finding peace in dealing with your loss.

Thanks for getting back to me.

At 6:11pm on January 6, 2011, Susan - Donny's Mom said…

Hi Lauree....tell me about your class.  I tried a class in the beginning but I felt very uncomfortable, haven't tried again.  Luckily I have a big network of friends/family who have helped me every step of the way.  Plus this wonderful website that I feel very comfortable in.

Glad you found a good place to try and heal...

At 8:16am on December 22, 2010, Carrie L said…

Hi Lauree

you are so lucky to get away. we will do the same family get together. It is not my family they are split up. but I know i will be thinking of them and vice versa. i have a hard time being settled and happy. but that is my lot with this happening. we got away last week and it was pretty awesome the weather was cold but the last day was pretty nice. got to see the new harry potter exibit at universal in florida that kind of gets you out of your mind know how morgan would have liked it...... happy holidays.... i can't believe our strife... still every morning it hits me like a ton of bricks.  i hope we'll all find some peace eventually.. carrie L

At 4:13pm on November 19, 2010, Denise Ritchie said…
Hi Lauree,
My name is Denise,and i am Shaynes mom.This last year i have been in hell as has every other person
who has lost a child.The 1st anniversary Dec 8th is fast approaching and i am really stressing out.
she left us with a gift in our 5 year old grandson.He wanted a birthday party for her,so we had family and had a picnic and let go of 31 balloons.I thought I made it thru it but woke up the next day in a phyc.hospital.I guess i had a mental breakdown,i dont remember anything,except they told me everyone had left,so noone had to know or witness it.I am afraid the same thing will happen again.I have absoutly no control over my emotons and i dread everyday.I have a wonderful family that backs me and a husband sent from heaven,what acn i do?

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