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At 12:09pm on July 21, 2012, Terri - Autumn's Mom said…

Hi Pam,

I was just reading through my own blog and realized you had written on it a long time ago. 

How are you doing??  I hope you're getting to see your grandchildren and spending time with them.

Luckily this year has been pretty busy for me with my 18 year old son graduating high school and all the activities that entailed.  He'll be leaving in less than a month for college.  It's really time for him to go, but it will be so lonely with him gone.  Luckily he'll only be an hour and a half away, so if I really miss him, I can go visit.

Anyway, not sure you're still using this site or not, just wanted you to know you are in my thoughts as well as your beautiful daughter Brittany. 

Hugs!

At 3:18pm on May 8, 2011, Pam Brooks said…
So sorry I didn't get a chance to tell you happy birthday yesterday on this site because you are so special and dear to me.  I miss you always.  It didn't feel right that it was your birthday on Saturday and today is Mother's Day and the only person who came to see you was me to bring your birthday cake to you.  The grandchildren and your husband were away so it was a really rough day....I cried so much, sometimes I don't think I can make it.  I still stomp the floor and cover my eyes while crying like a baby. Why, why, why?????
At 5:11pm on May 7, 2011, Janice said…

HI PAM,

GOOD FOR YOU..YOU HAVE EVERY RIGHT TO DO WHATEVER YOU WANT FOR YOU GRAND-KIDS..THEY ARE STILL YOUR FAMILY!!! HOW DID EASTER GO FOR YOU. SORRY I HAVEN'T BEEN AROUND. I FOUND A JOB, BEEN THERE ABOUT A MONTH....JUST SOMETHING TO KEEP ME BUSY...I NEEDED THAT. SO DON'T PANIC IF I DON'T RESPOND RIGHT AWAY...I WILL STAY IN TOUCH. YOU TAKE CARE AND I SENDING YOU A HUG AND MY LOVE,

JANICE

At 5:37pm on May 1, 2011, JOYCE MASHER, 4 Amy 5158791808 said…

Hi Pam, sorry it took me a while to get back to your request. Sometimes I cant keep up with the sites I go to!!! Plus I have been working on my pc and a few others.

I will make this short for now. Just glad we can be friends. I see some of the same names all the time and it just hurts to know some of us are still dealing with our loses even yrs later. I have been down a lot myself thru the last holiday. May is a bad month for us. We have 3 birthdays, my Amy on the 15th, my hubby, the 17th and my son, Mike on the 23rd. Of course mothers day and  memorial day. Not looking forward to any of them. I like to just pass over them all. None are the same anymore.

I see others have been talking about books they read, and I too, have read a lot of them. I got thru as best I could reading and then a few months later, I would go backwards in my thoughts of it all. It still sucks no matter what.

Keep your self busy they say, and I just cant do that either.

Hope all is going ok for now. I think we just wait for time to go on for whatever else we are given to deal with. I dont plan anything anymore.

Sorry I am so glum, and again, sorry that we are going thru this.

later

joyce, hugs to all

 

At 5:37pm on May 1, 2011, JOYCE MASHER, 4 Amy 5158791808 said…

Hi Pam, sorry it took me a while to get back to your request. Sometimes I cant keep up with the sites I go to!!! Plus I have been working on my pc and a few others.

I will make this short for now. Just glad we can be friends. I see some of the same names all the time and it just hurts to know some of us are still dealing with our loses even yrs later. I have been down a lot myself thru the last holiday. May is a bad month for us. We have 3 birthdays, my Amy on the 15th, my hubby, the 17th and my son, Mike on the 23rd. Of course mothers day and  memorial day. Not looking forward to any of them. I like to just pass over them all. None are the same anymore.

I see others have been talking about books they read, and I too, have read a lot of them. I got thru as best I could reading and then a few months later, I would go backwards in my thoughts of it all. It still sucks no matter what.

Keep your self busy they say, and I just cant do that either.

Hope all is going ok for now. I think we just wait for time to go on for whatever else we are given to deal with. I dont plan anything anymore.

Sorry I am so glum, and again, sorry that we are going thru this.

later

joyce, hugs to all

 

At 8:54am on April 22, 2011, Terri - Autumn's Mom said…

Pam,

I'm so sorry for the loss of your daughter, what a horrible way to find out.

You commented on the book I'm reading, I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye.

I really needed some answers and to validate what I'm feeling and so far it's been a tremendous help.  Have you read it?

I'm sure one of these days we'll dream of our girls.  I guess when we're ready emotionally??? 

I read what Janice put on your post.  I can't agree with her more.  My kids have always gotten three baskets for Easter (sometimes more), one from the Easter Bunny, my mom and my mother-in-law.  As far as kids are concerned, they can never have too much candy. 

Those kids are your daughters children, no one can take that away from you.  You will always be their grandma!  I hope you get it all worked out.

I'm sending hugs your way!!

At 6:57am on April 10, 2011, Janice said…

Hello Pam, I am so sorry about the lost of your daughter and the pain your going through because of it, then adding insult to injury the mother--in law. Shame on her for not being my sensitive. Her child is still alive so I'm sure she does not know the living hell we as parents who has lost a child go through and shame on your son-in-law for not supporting you. If she just has to show off using the children at least she could do it every other year but, since being fair doesn't seem to be her strong suit go ahead and take matters into your own hands. Who says the children can only have one Easter basket.....no one..so Pam, go ahead and make your babies their basket from grammy Pam, I'm sure they will love it. I to have a daughter-in-law in my life who's parents are around but, we all get along great and on holidays we all buy the grand kids whatever it is we feel like we want to get them Easter included. SO, Pam I say to you make those darn basket and don't worry about what son-in-law or his mother has to say, they are your grand-kids to. I will keep you in my heart and pray...all my love,

Janice 

At 8:19pm on April 3, 2011, francine l dalton said…
hi pam. i lost my eldest daugher nicole this past 4th of july. i understand completely about the grand daughter. my eldest granddaughter by her is 10. she hates night time and sleeps with me because she cant handle being alone because she misses her mom most then. she still has crying bouts and it kills me when she does because all i can do is hug her while she lets it out. i too dont know what to do for her otherwise. i understand also how you feel about your daughters passing. my nicole died from pneumonia(she got it from inhaling charcoal and inflammed wind pipe from the vent) four days earlier from taking too many of her meds while on ambien. she slept walked and went to her backpack and grabbed handfuls of her meds. she woke up in the hospital and didnt know she did this but the damage was done. if she hadnt died in her sleep, she would have died shortly of kidney and liver failure from too many lortabs over 5 years of taking them for back pain. im sure your granddaughter is grateful in having you around to console her. going back to work will come when you feel you should go back. i went back 3 days afterwards only to keep busy and i couldnt handle my ex husband in the house driving me bonkers. so take your time. there are no set rules for this awful experience we are all sharing. i and my granddaughter will pray for you and your granddaughter. lots of hugs your way...fran
At 1:41am on April 3, 2011, Linda Sacquety said…
Hi Pam,  Im so sorry for the loss of your daughter.  I know what you are going through and each day it is so difficult to just put one foot in front of the other and get though our days.  I lost my precious daughter, Darline, to cancer.  She suffered with surgeries, treatments etc for 16 months and NOTHING worked.  It will be 2 years June 17 and I still have trouble focusing on the wonderful things about her life and getting away from the last months of so much pain for all of us.  Im glad you have your grandchildren.  You can see your daughter through them and help them grieve.  You are such an important person to them and need to be strong for them.  Your daughter would "want you to help them" more than anything else.  Please contact me if you want to talk.  Our daughters were our "Life"....now what?  we will help each other.
At 10:34am on March 31, 2011, Kelly Mitchell said…
He was 28 years old when his nightmare began. He showed no signs or symptoms until one night he had 2 seizures, which is when they discovered he had a tumor in his brain. They were able to operate only to discover that the kind of cancer was melanoma one of the deadliest types. He fought 20 months, in that type he got married and headed out West for 3 months with his wife. He packed alot of life into those 3 months. He was so brave and strong. Even at the very end he didn't complain and you could just see how much pain he was in. Today is a hard day it would have been his 31st birthday. I miss him so much. I did get to say goodbye. I just can't even fathom what you are going through right now. I know that living through my Fathers grief of losing a child I do understand the pain... Big big hug to you.
At 3:16pm on March 30, 2011, Kelly Mitchell said…
I am so so sorry for your loss.. I hope you get some answers. Either way it isn't going to be an easy road for you..
At 9:42am on March 29, 2011, Susan - Donny's Mom said…

Honored to be your friend.  So wish it wasn't under these circumstances but at least we can all give each other comfort.

May you have some peace and comfort today.

Susan

At 7:45pm on March 27, 2011, Melinda Ellen Guinn said…
Pam , I am so sorry to hear that. You have my condolences. My daughter, Canace Rae Watson had just turned 30 yrs old. Her and her husband, Mike, have 3 little girls. They were 8, 7 and 2 yrs old when she passed on April 9th, '10. Her one year anniversary is soon uproaching. I dread it. I used to count hours, then days, weeks, months. Now
 it'll be YEARS!   Her cause of death is "acute multiple drug intoxoication", which is beer and Loritabs. They were having a b-b-q and having a good time while enjoying some beers. Later in the afternoon an arguement ensued. So her husband took their 3 little girls and went to his parents home. While he was gone she played a video game and took the Loritabs. When he came home the next morning about 6:00 am she was passed out in front of the tv, w/game controllers in her hands. He nudged her as he walked by. No response. Rigor mortis was setting in and she was discolred. He tried mouth to mouth(after he got the throw-up out) He tried cpr. My only child, turned 30 yr old Baby was gone!! I plan on having a b-b-q to celebrate my Baby's too-short life. I want to buy water balloons and squirt guns for the kids. Have a balloon toss and sack race. My Baby's girl will NEVER forget their Mom while I'm stil here. This will be the first anniversary. I believe in a higher being, whether  it be God or ?. She must be in a better place; although I hear her crying for her girls. I hope I haven't lost it. 
At 5:58pm on March 27, 2011, Ronda Johnston said…
Hi Pam, Just wanted to say hello friend..... I hope your doing well, Me? I'm just about the same.... Missing my son Terribly!!!!!  I can't believe it's gonna be 10 months soon, wow I hate living without him!!!!! Sending u a hug.  God Bless You.  Love , Ronda
At 3:23pm on March 26, 2011, Connie Citrola said…
I want you to know that you are not alone.  I know how it is to lose a daughter.  I lost my first one, Mary at birth, she only lived 4 hours almost 34 years ago.  I lost my second daughter, Melissa at 30 years old, she had a brain aneurysm in Nov. 2008.  I know how low you can go but please know that it does get somewhat better.  After 2 years, 4 months I am in a better place.  Sure I still cry almost everyday but my heart is not as heavy as it was in the beginning.  I've been going to therapy for 2 years now and I think that helps too.  This past summer I hit the wall though.  I completely fell apart-got depressed and isolated myself.  My therapist and dr. thought I should try some medication so now I'm on Celexa.  It helps by not making me as weepy as I was.  I still get sad but not as often.  I refused to take it in the beginning which was a good thing because you have to go through the grieving part before you can feel better.  At a bereavement conference last week, some woman told me she was put on medication right away and never really got to grieve.  She is 5 years into her journey and is just starting to grieve since she stopped the medication.  Everybody's situation is different and each person grieves differently also.    If you need to talk just drop me a line.  My tag name is connilla.  I wish you peace and hugs, Connie
At 1:30pm on March 26, 2011, Susan - Donny's Mom said…

Thinking of you and your family today.  May you find some comfort and peace today.

Hugs

Susan Donny's Mom

At 1:24pm on March 26, 2011, JoAnn Brozowski said…

Pam - I will be thinking of you and praying for you today!

Love - JoAnn

At 9:32pm on March 19, 2011, Anita Chavez-Daveys mom said…
Thank you Pam for your nice words about Davey's slideshow.  My wonderful sister in law did that for us.  It took hours but it was good therapy for all of us.  We played it at his memorial.  He was an awesome son and I miss him more and more everyday. I thought as the days go by it would get somewhat easier but it is getting harder and harder.  Sometimes I can not breathe when I think about him.  I am so sorry about your daughter. What a horrible way to find out.  No parent should have to go through what we are.  It isn't fair.  We didn't sign up for this nor did we ever think it would happen to us.  It happens to others.  We have to stay strong (I don't know how but that is what they say).  I come to this site everyday but don't post much, just read.  It is safer for me that way.  Keep in touch and I will pray for you as well.xoxoxoxoxoox
At 10:45am on March 10, 2011, shannon churchill said…

"Peace I leave with you, my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid." (John 14:27)

This is a very comforting passage in the bible.   We are afraid of the life we must live without them not being able to give them our love and protect them...  They have the greatest protector we could ever dream for them to have.   God bless you today, and know they are HAPPY.   When we can learn this and accept it.... we will hurt less.   

At 5:39am on March 8, 2011, kathy said…

Pam

There are people who care about you. You might think of your grandchildren, and your friends. But there are more. In your congregation, you can find mature Christians who are interested in you, who will hear you out, and who will pray with you and for you. And even if every imperfect human were to fail you, there is One who will never leave you. King David of old said: “In case my own father and my own mother did leave me, even God himself would take me up.” (Psalm 27:10) Yes, Jehovah God “cares for you.” (1 Peter 5:7) Never forget that you are precious in God’s eyes. Pam life is a gift from God. Granted, at times life may feel more like a burden than a gift. Can you imagine, though, how you would feel if you were to bestow a valuable gift on someone who then threw it away before really putting it to use? We imperfect humans have barely begun to use the gift of life. In fact, the Bible indicates that the life we live right now is not even “the real life” in God’s eyes. (1 Timothy 6:19) Yes, in the near future our life will be far fuller, richer, and happier. How so? The Bible says: “[God] will wipe out every tear from their eyes, and death will be no more, neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore. The former things have passed away.” (Revelation 21:3, 4) Try to picture what your life will be like when those words are fulfilled. Take your time. Try to create a full, colorful mental picture. That picture is no empty fantasy. Jehovah will give you the strength you need. He will teach you that life is worth living.—Isaiah 40:29 please read the scriptures this will also help.

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