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At 7:29am on December 14, 2012, Dixie Olson said…: My husband to found a dog on the canal, its a female pit-bull, big, after Don died she would not come in the house for 5 yrs, she kept waiting for him, I didnt have the heart to give her away, during a bad rain storm she came in the house I got her a towel and got her dry, an a dog blanket, now she's a house dog, lol an rules the roost, I have 2 other dogs(weenie dogs) an my husband' turtle he found so it's a zoo here but they are loved. My youngest son just moved back home with me as he was always worried after i fell and broke my arm, so he's a GOD* send, and Im not alone now altho sometimes I miss the quiet. My oldest son lives 4 houses down w/ his wife an my gr-kids but we have problems o well. Im not going to dwell on it. it's there loss.

At 5:56pm on April 19, 2011, ginny lee weger said…: Dear BC,

Thank you for accepting me as a friend.

Yours was such a traumatic experience and so sudden. As months go by friends go on living their lives and we are left with so many little memories of things our husbands did for us that bring it all back and it is a very lonely feeling.So many things I did not realize I would miss so much. When I would read and fall asleep, he would take my book and my glasses and put them away. Every day I remember so much that I miss about him. His smile and laugh was so

contagious that during a tour of a castle, the tour guide stopped everything and

spoke to my husband about his wonderful smile. He made his long illness bearable beause he joked, smiled and laughed every day. He was heartbroken when he had to retire at barely 46, but he managed to not take it out on me or

his family. With many surgeries and three defibrillators he lived many more years. Surgeons told us he was amazing, and he was. I am sure your husband

was just as dear.

GW

My husband died on April 2, 2010. His death has not gotten easier.

At 8:36pm on December 24, 2010, Ellen Brant said…

At 9:57pm on December 10, 2010, Ellen Brant said…: Barb wanted to stop by with a hug and let you know Brad's star is out there winking down over you. HUGS from Brad too. Ellen~

At 9:36pm on December 8, 2010, Ellen Brant said…: BRAD HUGS BIG TIME!!!

At 12:03am on November 21, 2010, Susan Mayer said…: Hi Barb - How are you doing? Just wanted you to know I'm thinking about you and sending a hug. - Susan

At 6:40pm on November 17, 2010, Marsha Thompson said…: Oh Barb! I wish I could just give you a huge hug right now, I will pray for you that you'd be comforted by God's love and feel Brad's presence with you!

At 10:18pm on November 16, 2010, Marsha Thompson said…: How are you doing Barb? Was just thinking about you...

At 10:18pm on November 16, 2010, Marsha Thompson said…: How are you doing Barb? Was just thinking about you...

At 1:53pm on November 10, 2010, Ellen Brant said…: Barb, Thank you so much for the post on my page. It truly means a great deal to me. I am forever grateful to have read and copied the poem you posted. That truly touched my heart. I JUST received a call from the funeral home telling me Doug's "REMAINS" are ready to be picked up. I have never cried before at the thought of Doug coming home but this is just so OBSCURE to me.
Thanks for listening and being here. HUGS.

At 1:53pm on November 10, 2010, Ellen Brant said…: Barb, Thank you so much for the post on my page. It truly means a great deal to me. I am forever grateful to have read and copied the poem you posted. That truly touched my heart. I JUST received a call from the funeral home telling me Doug's "REMAINS" are ready to be picked up. I have never cried before at the thought of Doug coming home but this is just so OBSCURE to me.
Thanks for listening and being here. HUGS.

At 11:27pm on November 9, 2010, Ellen Brant said…: Barb, I read the poem Letter from Heaven and cried gut wrenching sobs. It was beautiful and I hope that you don't mind. My soulmate is gone almost 6 weeks and the loniless and pain is so incredible. I am so grateful for folks like you that are sharing and have and are where I am to help me. Tearful HUGS.

At 5:20pm on November 9, 2010, Kathy King Kates said…: Hi Barb, wanted to say hi and hope you are doing okay. i know you are having a rough time and just wanted you to know hugs are coming your way. Take care of yourself. lots of hugs

At 11:16pm on November 5, 2010, Susan Mayer said…: I tried the email address, but the message came back. There's a second "dot" in the domain name as shown; maybe that's the problem?

At 11:04pm on November 5, 2010, Susan Mayer said…: Barb, I put a Facebook friend request in - I hope I got the right person. The picture showed a woman with a couple of younger women, all wearing purple tops. The location information filtered everyone out, but I've had that problem with Facebook before, as have others. If I didn't get the right person, you can search for me. My name and profile photo are the same as the ones I use here. I live in Chicago. Not far from you perhaps. Steve and I often vacationed in Wisconsin; in fact, we had a trip planned to Door County for the week after he died. We never made it.

I certainly hope tears are healing; I've cried everyday since Steve died. Not that there haven't been some reasonably decent days (considering the circumstances), but tears are always a part of even the better ones. Other people I know who've lost a spouse or life partner tell me similar things: It gets easier, but the pain of the loss never disappears entirely. I believe that. Although I can imagine - even catch fleeting glimpses of it, now and then - a reasonably contented life for myself from here on, I can't imagine ever not missing Steve. Like you, I find it hard to believe I'll never see him again, never hear him come through the front door, never look into his twinkling blue eyes again.

Like Brad would feel about you, Steve would never want me to suffer. He hated to see me sad. He'd want me to keep moving, take pride in my work, have a good relationship with his kids (all grown up, in their 40s), enjoy our granddaughter (nearly 2 years old) and build a good life for myself. A more generous man I've never known; I miss him terribly.

At 8:03pm on November 5, 2010, Susan Mayer said…: Hi Barb - I'm thinking of you today. Another horrible anniversary date - calendar's littered with them isn't it? Two months for me. Steve was killed Sept. 5, 2010. Also a sudden death (struck by a car while riding his bicycle). And today is a Friday, the loneliest evening of the week. I always looked forward to weekend with Steve, even if we were just doing chores and hanging around the house. Just wanted to check in and say that your loneliness is shared by us all.

At 8:42pm on October 30, 2010, Randolph L. Schrader said…: Hi Barb, am always thinking of you too. I hope all the best for you, you know.I know how things are, but try to enjoy the day never the less. Smiling is hard for me but I'll try. Hugs to you. Hugs are good.

At 4:11pm on October 9, 2010, Gregory C Williams said…: Hi Barb,i`ts Greg how are you doing today. Sorry I haven`t got back with you been busy with my volunteering for The Hospice of Dayton. I have about 10 patients a week to visit.

At 4:11pm on October 9, 2010, Gregory C Williams said…: Hi Barb,i`ts Greg how are you doing today. Sorry I haven`t got back with you been busy with my volunteering for The Hospice of Dayton. I have about 10 patients a week to visit.

At 1:48pm on October 4, 2010, Gregory C Williams said…: Hi Barb it`s Greg, we all lost our soul mates and it`s hard to move on, and not fair that they went early. Life`s not fair either. I love my wife very much too, and I have learned that there`s only one person who know`s when it`s our time to go. It took me some time to realize that there is nothing that we can do about it. I`m very sorry to here about your loss i know it`s hard, but over time it does get better.