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At 3:03pm on September 9, 2010, Wade Graunke said…
Barb-I lost my wife 1 week ago after a long battle with cancer. We csn't replace what we had. i hope it helps to know the lonely feelings are shared.
At 12:08am on August 15, 2010, Randolph L. Schrader said…
Thank you Barb. Yes, things are coming down on me left and right I guess I have a strong heart cause I should be dead by now. I died when LouAnn died and my empty world is getting emptier. Am just waiting to be with her for I am no good alone without her. I have been cranky lately for some reason. I have all of the other things but the cranky is new now. I just want to make things bad that are kinda building up inside of me.I hate being alone, without support. Hugs to you.Hugs are good.
At 2:13pm on August 4, 2010, Melissa said…
Hello Barb: My name is Melissa and I lost my husband, Jerry on July 14, 2009. Jerry passed under the same conditons as your Brad. Jerry was not in a car, but in our home. I know tomorrow is your 1 year without Brad. I wanted you to know that I am thinking of you today and tomorrow. On my husband's 1 year mark... I went to work as normal, met up with my 3 grown children and their significant others at the cemetary around 6PM... we did a balloon release individually. We all spoke to Jerry as we released our balloons than we went out for diner. Tis will be a tradition for our family God Bless you. I would love to chat with you ...I can be reached via facebook.. Melissa Hayes - St. Louis MO. God Bless you.
At 2:13pm on August 4, 2010, Melissa said…
Hello Barb: My name is Melissa and I lost my husband, Jerry on July 14, 2009. Jerry passed under the same conditons as your Brad. Jerry was not in a car, but in our home. I know tomorrow is your 1 year without Brad. I wanted you to know that I am thinking of you today and tomorrow. On my husband's 1 year mark... I went to work as normal, met up with my 3 grown children and their significant others at the cemetary around 6PM... we did a balloon release individually. We all spoke to Jerry as we released our balloons than we went out for diner. Tis will be a tradition for our family God Bless you. I would love to chat with you ...I can be reached via facebook.. Melissa Hayes - St. Louis MO. God Bless you.
At 12:32am on August 1, 2010, deborah diggs said…
Thanks Barb,I will be in touch on your email, Thank you.
At 9:39am on July 28, 2010, Virginia said…
Hi Barb, sorry I missed you this morning was having problems with this stupid computer if it isn't one thing it's another I had to swich towers and put a old one on for now as i don't have the money to get a new one I have ordered mike and my headstone finally and need to watch how i spend because in oct. I need to go see mikes mom in vegas for her b-day she will be 76 and lives alone but i might have to put it off till nov. will see. enough about that i hope you are feeling a little better todayi know what you mean about those bad days lol not many good ones. i think you asked if i'm central time no i'm eastern time. ok hope to catch up to you later god bless
At 10:52am on July 27, 2010, Yvonne said…
Good Morning Barb
I guess you are also not having a good day. I have been on the verge of tears for the last week. I have to put on the brave face for the guests, staff etc but I hate my life. I am so lonely, I miss Larry so much.
Every year during the first 2 weeks of August we do what is called Lions Wilderness Experience. Lions clubs from Saskatchewan, Manitoba and North Dakota sponsor a disabled child or adult, their family or caregiver for a 3 night stay and 2 days fishing at our lodge. It is a very rewarding time at the lodge. This year I am really not looking forward to it. Larry passed away at the lodge last year during Lions wilderness. I know I have good friends in the Lions...they are wonderful people, but I guess I am afraid of all the reminders that are associated with it. I don't know if I can carry it off this year.
I am thinking of you too with your anniversary of Brad's passing coming up. We are 2 women with broken hearts that don't know where to go or what to do. I still feel so lost. I go through the motions and do what I have to but my heart really isn't in it. After almost a year I still don't want to believe he is gone. This is the sad reality of my life.
I am sorry for dumping this on you today. I know you have your own thoughts to deal with. I hope we both can find better days ahead.
Take care love Yvonne
At 11:44pm on July 23, 2010, Randolph L. Schrader said…
Hi Barb, had a long boring day but a good nite. Cook out at one of my daughters. Not the same without your spouse. Nothing to talk about.. You know. "hows it going" kinda talk.Have to babysit 4-year old g-daughter Saturday all day. Did I ever show you her picture from Halloween? She and my 15 year old g-son stayed home to trick or treat as they both were sick. Great pictures if you hadnt already seen them, I couls e-mail to you. You are so kind. I hope we can get a grip on our lives without our spouses.Hugs to you. Hugs are good.
At 6:56am on July 18, 2010, Dixie Olson said…
Barb: Im sorry for your loss of brad, my husband had a heart attack in my arms on my kitchen floor, that film of that played over in my mind so many times, you are trying to be brave for your girls, maybe you should sit down at the kitchen table and let everyone talk about there feelings, in loss we tend not to talk about it, and family and friends might wig out if you were to let your feelings out. In this site Barb your free to share your feelings, even if your mad enough to spit blood. My prayers go out to you and your girls barb.it;s one day at a time, and I know your lonely, see if you can find a hobby you might enjoy.I went to the pet shelter and got 2 weenie dogs who were the best medicne for me. Take care Barb, we are here for you
At 10:09am on July 16, 2010, Sharon said…
Barb, yes I am on Facebook feel free to send a friend invitation. Sounds like your situation is similar to mine. I lost Dan on Oct 1, 2009. We were making supper and he was in his chair on the computer when he had a stroke. By time the paramedics arrived his heart had stopped and they tried to revive for at least 30 minutes before transporting him. My son was here by then and being in the medical field he took me to the side before we went to the hospital to tell me he was gone. Getting to the hospital I went through the same thing being "put in that room" that I knew was not a good sign. While we never got to say good-bye I do have that consolation that I was the last person he saw. I thought it would get easier as time went on but there are days I swear it is getting worse. My heart aches for you in what you had to experience. No matter how many friends and family I have around I may never be alone but will forever be lonely. My faith has been a big part in making it through one day at a time. I accept the past, know the future is in God's hands and try to make the most out of each day. Keep in touch. Hugs---Sharon
At 3:42am on July 15, 2010, Connie H. said…
(((Barb))) I am on Eastern time, but call anytime. It is 6 am and like many nights I just can't sleep. I will nap later. My e-mail is florex777@yahoo.com. Sorry it took a while to answer your post to me. I had to go to a memorial service earlier. My son went with me. Soon as the music started the tears started. Took all i had to gain some control. The pain we feel is so horrible. Fondly, Connie
At 8:06pm on July 14, 2010, Sandra said…
Barb,
Yes, I am on FACEBOOK! My name on there is: Sandra Jones Robrock. Send me a friends request! Barb if there is anything I can help u with, I would certainly do my best to help you! Please, I know what going to the "edge" feels like and it scares me and just know evryone on here feels as you do and we want to help each other.....please, connect with me on FACEBOOK!
With Gods love,
Sandi
At 1:53pm on July 14, 2010, Connie said…
Barb, My e-mail address is : jpspop.pjr@verizon.net and my phone numbers are: Home: 732-985-9544, Cell: 732-841-2433. Please feel free to e-mail me or call me whenever you need someone to listen.
At 8:29am on July 14, 2010, Randolph L. Schrader said…
Hi again Barb, just checking in with you. My wife and I were 24/7 also. I have so much sadness going on in my life with death and dying, I hope that I dont turn you off.At least we understand and share in the grief. Somehow maybe we can ease the pain we are going thru. But we truly understand that it exists.Nobody else REALLY does. I have the absentmindedness like you wouldnt believe. I do crazy,silly,stupid little things.Its hell to lose your heart,soul and spirit. I just dont fit in anymore.You will hear the word zombie, thats me now. I just go thru the motions that have no meaning to me.I am tired,worn out,beat up and heavily scarred. It will be 17 months in two days and I dont feel any better about things. Hang in there girl. Hugs to you. Hugs are good.
At 8:14am on July 14, 2010, Virginia said…
Hi Barb, I'm sorry you are going thru this we will help each other get thru this unwanted process. you said you took a job in baltimore, that is only 2 hours from me i took my nephew and his wife there to go on a cruise. and i also go to n c as much as i can my best friend lives in gastonia and i love the mountians in the ashville area maybe one day we will get together there are a few that live within a few hours of each other it would be nice i put my e-mail on facebook and am pytting it on here also
At 10:56pm on July 13, 2010, Randolph L. Schrader said…
Hi again Barb. Was reading the postings to you and saw one from Mary D on how to get online chat. Can you tell her that I tried that and got on facebook but it came on as my grandson who has facebook.I dont have facebook. So does that mean I cant get on then?
I will always be ready to listen and talk with you and the others anytime. For now,I guess, its this way of chatting.I am trying to give everyone my phone number who has unlimited calling.Its 574-457-3532 in Syracuse,IN. I sleep 4 feet away from the phone in a recliner.I dont sleep good, bad back and a wife that died.Am pretty much always home,so anytime. Hugs to you.Hugs are good.
At 10:01pm on July 13, 2010, Randolph L. Schrader said…
Hi Barb, glad to meet you too. It will be 17 months soon for me and I still have all the symptoms of the loss of my wife.We will never be the same again. My life ended when she died. We on this site do care and share. Look forward to chatting again. Hugs to you. Hugs are good.
At 8:08pm on July 13, 2010, Mary said…
Barb,
I have been playing around and found a much easier way to find us on facebook. Just go to your home page on facebook. and where it has the search box, just start typing bereaved spouses, a drop down box should appear and click on the site. You are there and then join. Soooo--much easier. See you there.
At 6:08pm on July 13, 2010, Brigitte said…
Thank you, Barb!

Douglas's birthday was June 28th, then July 4th, then our anniversary on July 9th and now July 17th -- first year of his death. Like you I had no one to talk to when all of the other "Firsts" without this wonderful man came up. His family who lives in WA have gone on with their lives like Douglas never existed. My heart is broken about that. He loved his family unconditionally and would NEVER behave like they have. But that is their loss and I have had to walk away from the situation. My job recently transferred me to Baltimore, MD and our daughter lives in Charlotte, NC so now I am closer to MY family. She has been such a help (plus my son in law and 2 beautiful granddaughters). I was offered the opportunity to extend my 120 day detail at work to 2 years and I accepted. It is time for ME now. I still cry and my heart hurts. It will take time to go through one full day without feeling sad, lonely or lost. The site and all of the folks on it are helpful, family and friends. Thank you for your kind and supportive words. They mean so much to me -- and others as well. I am here as well for anyone who needs to "scream" -- and we have all done that once or twice!!

In peace,

Brigitte
At 5:36pm on July 13, 2010, Mary said…
Hi Barb,
Let's see if I can help you. Do you have a regular face book page? You don't have to (I don't think). For now, on Legacy/Breaved spouses go up to the discussion forum section. In the bottom right corner of that section (see--view all) and click on it. Find the discussion ONLINE CHAT and click on that. Now, scroll down to one of "Hurting's" responses and you will find the link you need to the facebook page and click on that. You should be where you want to be. At the top of the page click on the "JOIN" button and you are with us.

For future times,if you don't have a regular facebook page, you will want to mark this as one of your favorites to get back here easily again. If you have FB, when you log in to it, on the left side of your page look for the group application, click on it and then on Breaved spouses and you are back.

Hope this isn't too complex. If you have problems just holler back at me, or call me at 517-321-1666, that's my home number and I will be glad to help you. Hope to see you on FB soon. Hugs to yi\ou.

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