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At 10:21pm on February 7, 2011, Linda Sacquety said…: I am so sorry for the loss of your daughters. We seem to have a lot in common. I lost my daughter to cancer also at the same time and we both live close to each other. I would love to talk to you but know my thoughts are with you and I do know what you are going through. Take each minute at a time (each day, is too much). Remember happy memories

At 12:16pm on January 25, 2011, Terri - Autumn's Mom said…: Shirley,

Sorry seems too small of a word to use for the loss of your daughters. Please accept my sympathy. I can not even begin to imagine. . .

Thank you for your response to my posting on the main page. As I read from your blog, you seem to have a very good attitude and have offered a lot of encouragement. I really appreciate that.

I have been crying a lot lately. Autumn died on December 6, 2010 and with the holidays, snow days, etc . . . I am finally alone and able to grieve as loudly and as long as I need to. I don't know that it helps, but I can feel I need to allow myself to do that.

I am sorry I met you in this way, but do appreciate your encouragement.

At 2:16pm on January 11, 2011, Phil's Mamama said…: I am so sorry about the loss of your daughters. It will be two years for us this coming Sunday. . . two years without precious son.

I want to tell you again just how sorry I am.

Phils Mamma in NC

Diane Dillon

At 12:01pm on December 29, 2010, Roseann McPherson said…: Thank You Shirley and I am very sorry for your loss.

At 8:20am on December 25, 2010, Debra said…: Shirley, I have to commend you on your beautiful outlook and perspective. It is true that I am grateful to have had the time I did have with Travis. It helps me to honor his memory. Thank you for sharing.

At 7:56pm on December 18, 2010, mary mello said…: thank you so much it was so nice of you to comment of my son

At 3:23pm on December 11, 2010, valerie moore said…: shirley, life has dealt you an awful blow, losing 2 beautiful daughters. i cannot imagine how i would or could handle that. i just dont understand- when i read all the post here, i just sit and wonder why all our children are gone and we , as parents are left hear to survive the worst possible pain, life etc....

love and hugs, valerie

At 5:51pm on December 9, 2010, Gaynell Leath said…: Shirley,I do know the pain we share losing two children.I have said many times.Nothing can hurt me now.I have already been through the worst pain of my life.my heart goes out to you.I also pray for each and everyone on this site.The death of your child or children is something no one except us can really understand.I would not want another soul to have to live this life. If I could change things I would.It even hurts when I see so many on here.Just feeling the pain I know they are feeling.May God Bless each one of us.I know mine are 4ever with me .That is how I go on.Steven and Jasons mom Gaynell~~Always here

At 8:27pm on November 27, 2010, tina foley said…: Thank you for your kind message.I understand,my daughter Elizabeth was on life support, I had to agree when the plug would be pulled. I wanted to go with her or if I could go in her place. Her sister played her violin in the room untill Elizabeth closed her eyes. A numness came over me that lasted for over 12 hrs, after we left the room. I won,t say anymore. God knows Tina

At 7:20pm on November 22, 2010, Colleen Pasay said…: Shirley I am so very sorry for your loss. To lose 1 child is horrific but 2 children I don't know how you cope you must be a pretty strong woman and your faith must be phenomenal because I know in my heart I wouldn't have your strength. Someone said that god never gives us more than we can bear and that we all carry crosses. I am not religious but my reply to them was that this time my cross won't budge. Today was his birthday a very hard day and you are so right with the holidays coming I don't know what I will do....
Hugs
Colleen

At 10:17pm on November 11, 2010, Susan - Donny's Mom said…: Thanks for your posting today on my page. I know it is hard for a lot of people to know what to say or what not to say. Luckily I haven't experienced anyone saying the wrong thing to me. Sometimes just a warm hug is all we need and that person doesn't even need to say a thing.
I was at a wedding in October and don't know what set me off but at the dinner table after the wedding I started with tears and couldn't stop. I was among good friends and one of my lady friends (who had lost her brother a couple of years ago in an auto accident) just came over next to me and just gave me a hug. It was exactly what I needed, no words, and after awhile I gained my composure again. I think in the back of my mind I knew the groom was the same age that Donny was when he left us and it just hit me at that moment. I do feel somewhat fortunate as we got to see him marry, have 3 children, become respected on his job, and have many special times together. So that gives me some comfort when I read the posts of moms who have lost their children so young.
The song she sang on the show was so beautiful.....
Hugs back to you today.

At 4:21pm on October 25, 2010, Nelda Velasquez said…: Hi, Shirley ... thank you so much for your message. I'm so sorry for your losses also ... I can't even imagine going through this a second time. I think I would lose my mind ... literally. It's been 2 months today since my son passed. I'm still waiting on autopsy results. I feel like everyday I wake up waiting for something to happen to fix this. Like it just can't be true. It's good to hear from people going through the same thing. Family and friends try to help ... and I really appreciate their efforts, but it's different coming from someone who understands what I'm going through. thank you so much!

At 11:50am on October 21, 2010, Sharon Brown said…: Good morning,

Thank you Shirley for your comment. I am so grateful to have the support from you all. My days get better and better. Like I stated yesterday, I am so glad to have found people lke you. Hugs and kisses.

Love, Sharon

At 8:36am on October 3, 2010, Lorie said…: Shirley, I read everyones comments daily. Some lift my spirits and give me hope and others make me realize that it will take a long time to get throught his pain. How does one live day by day in so much pain and sorrow and survive? The stress has taken a toll on me, on my body, my mind, my spirit. The doctor tells me stress is a slow killer. (just what i didnt want to hear) I try everyday to be so positive and uplifting. I get confused by what to say and how to say what I feel, because God says to think positive, dont speak negative, well my feellings seem negative. I dont know which way to go anymore. It seems as though everyone but my daughter and I have went on with life, and the two of us are the only ones still being so torn. We miss Kristy so much, I just want my life to evolve around her and nothing else. I have my grandaughter this weeken, which is Kristys daughter. She just brings my life so much joy, it is like having a part of Kristy here with me which soothes my mind and heart. She goes back to her dads tonight, that is when I fall apart again. Thank you for letting me vent, I just dont know how to do this. I would give my life, my home or anything to bring her back here so she could be with her daughter.

At 11:13am on July 13, 2010, Shirley Gutierrez said…: I have been grieving the loss of 2 of my 3 daughters in the last 11 months, both of cancer. I am doing OK for the most part, however frequently it comes over me again like a tidal wave with the same intensity as if it had just happened. I believe it is because there are 2 holes left in me now where my daughters used to reside and I am not whole anymore. I have accepted the fact that I probably never will be again.

At 8:59am on July 4, 2010, CANDACE BRIGHTWELL said…: Shirley, I made it thru Glenn's birthday I took the day off and it was a good decision as I was a mess all day . I was very weepy and depressed. I wished I could get over the depressed feeling but when I think of him and all he is missing and all we are missing I can hardly bear it. His boys keep me going they remind me so much of him one even has his one dimple. How do mothers get on with life? I try then all of a sudden it hits me. I think of the ones tha that have missing children or ones that have been murdered and my heart breaks. I never put my self in their shoes before but I now can have sympathy for them.I cry for them with love Candace

At 6:06pm on June 17, 2010, tina foley said…: Thanks for sharing. I understand your grief. As I lost my daughter Liz, my life will never be the same. However I am looking for the time I will meet her in heaven. We cannot understand the ways of God now, someday we will know, this is not paradise yet. Bless you. Love Tina

At 1:41pm on June 17, 2010, CANDACE BRIGHTWELL said…: Glenn's birthday is June 25th his two small sons wnat to go and celebrate at the cemetary send up ballonns so I guess we will do that

At 11:58am on June 17, 2010, CANDACE BRIGHTWELL said…: I too just lost a son I can't imagine your loss, I can hardly breathe some days this is the most difficult thing I've ever gone thru, my son had a sudden heart attack then fell into a pond he had a pacemaker and needed to have wires replaced was was going to that week. I am so sorry for your loss I keep remembering i'm not the only one going thru this there are others I try to give my sympathy over to them it would be what Glenn would want me to do
Candace

At 6:33pm on June 13, 2010, Betty Burch said…: Hi Shirley,
I'm very sorry to hear about your loss. I also loss my daughter to cancer December 3,2008, there is no words to explain this type pain. All parents feel that their children will out live them. I prayer that God will give you peace.