Shirley, your words touch my heart. I have no answers for you ... for any of us. I never knew such pain existed until it touched my life when I lost my treasured son, Chad, age 18 and loving life, to a car accident on 9/4/09. Talked with him at 5pm at 5:43pm the call came in of an accident. Chad never had a chance and was gone when help arrived. He was not speeding, drinking or doing drugs. I just don't have an answer.

I can't imagine losing one of my three other children; I just can't. I am so very sorry that you have lost two children.

I want to believe, as Tammy said, that we will be reunited with our children after our lives here are done. I pray to God and I pray to Chad. My 96 year old grandmother says "the power of prayer is strong".

I am so sorry for your pain, Shirley. We all need our babies. I talk with Chad everyday over and over again.

Don't really know what else you can do. If I can't have a physical relationship with Chad, then I will have a spiritual one.

My sadness is secondary for myself though. I just know that boy and he wanted to marry someday, he wanted to be a father, I wanted to see that happen for him; I wanted to see his life unfold. I wanted to meet those grandchildren and that daughter in law. I wanted him to buy his first puppy and the truck he was saving for.

I have no answers and the glitter is off my life. Still I thank God for the gift of Chad who I will love forever and ever with no bounds.

Take care of yourself the best you can.
Lisa (Chad's mom)

shirley, there are no words for losing a child or children..please know that i am truly sorry for the loss of your daughters. i don't even know what to say to you..usually here on legacy we know how each of us is feeling we just all grieve in different ways. some of us are total basket cases like me, some learn to live with the pain, but it never goes away.. i guess the only thing that keeps me going is knowing i will see him again someday, at least i hope i will. there just has to be a heaven...i fear that maybe there isn't, and then i cry even more...please keep talking to us because we do care about you, and how you are coping or getting through each day...take care, and bless you every day...tammy E