Hello. The question why will be one you always ask. We all do. Be gentle and kind and allow yourself anything and everything that feeds your soul right now. Grief is tricky and hard. I am so sorry for your loss. Know that all of us understand your pain and this is a place you can always come for support.
Hi Elyse, When I reached out to some new members from different groups I also saw the name tidiane ndiaye. I notice the same message was posted to the different individuals that are new. I have reached out but received only one response from the few I attemted to connect with and speak with to give support. I thought at first it was the person that was posting religious messages. However, I don't recall the name of that person. Who knows what this guys game is or if he is trying to help.I don't like when someone pushes their email on someone that they haven't connected with just with a cold message. Okay have to go. Keep me in the loop. You're doing good reaching out to new people. I've been here awhile now and your right. There is always sadness when losing a brother or any other loved one. It's particularly hard to lose a child and mother for me. We just need to keep busy and it still doesn't change our heart the pain will alway remain. I've opened my heart to love others that I know and I tell them so. Warm Regards, Barbara
Thank you so much for your support! Forgive the late reply - I have been taking a few steps back to just see where I am headed and to try to take better care of my health and my emotional well being. This group is so supportive and it gives insight as to how to help others during their time of loss. We learn the power of love as we move forward in our lives. It is amazing how we come full circle with the teaching of the Bible - "love cures all thing." Again, Thank you.
Forgive me. I can not clearly see the message when I type it because it does not come out in dark print until it's sent for some reason do when I re read it I can't clearly see but I'll try to be more careful. I wish the typo is take could be erased. I'm sorry. Please I hope you understand else
Elyse I think I'm posting on your wall. It will take me just a little time to get use to the site
I can relate to your having many questions that need to be answered. So many people say just pray and it will be ok or God took this person but this just does not answer our questions nor instil hope in us and hope is essential to our strength. When I loss my loved ones one of the greatest things that helped me cope was the answers to my questions and the hope that is given to us for our loved ones that we've loss on death. Death is not a normal thing It's not why we were created we were given life as a gift not death but the question that needs to be answered is why do we die and is there hope for the dead The answers to these questions and any other question is clearly found in the Bible. Once we come to learn this we are comforted with the truth
Hello elyse. It's Denise. I'm so sorry to hear about your brother. I too loss my brother in a very very tragic way
One thing that helps me cope are fond memories. My husband told me something that helps also. He said do not allow your mind to go to the tragedy but immediately switch that thought and think of fond memories of him as this will help me grieve in a healthy way and you know... He was right
It helps. I never allow the tragedy in my mind but I do realize he passed and I miss him very much. I have allowed myself to go thru the grieving process and it is definently a process but each phase of it is important as it has allowed fond cherished memories to flow
I lost my grandmother Sept 23. I was in the room with her alone when she passed. My grandparents raised me and the relationship I had with them was beyond words. She had fallen twice and when I saw her her face was literally purple...like one huge bruise. I held her and and told her she could go and to tell my grandpa hello for me when she was still breathing. A nurse came in and asked about to give her another dose of morphine but stopped short. I had been sitting in my grams chair at the time. I looked at the nurse and asked is she gone? She said yes. My world instantly crashed down. I held her hand again ran my fingers through her hair out my hand on her heart and told her I loved her. I could write a story about what happened and how I felt but I won't bore people. All I can say is I feel my childhood has disappeared and my heart is shattered. I still deal with losing my grandpa to this day and that was Jan 3, 1998. Ironically however he passed at 3am. Judging from the touch of my grams, she passed around the same time, 3am.
I used to say when I loss my parents that we were orphans. And my brother would say Hey they are still with us Now and forever just be a good girl lol. To lose my sister at 46 and my brother at 56 I am forever changed. The only ones that knew me better than they did were my parents. But I truly believe God only wants angels and I thank him for giving me two of the best besides my parents.
Elyse Thank You I can't tell you the pain I feel when I think about losing him I just lost him in June 2017 but I also lost my oldest sister at 46 to a fatal heart attack 10 years ago 1 year after losing my mother to COPD and 4 years after losing my father to a fatal heart attack. I feel like At times I am drowning and just when I get my head alittle above the water I get pushed back under.The effect it has had on my life is incredible. Silent pain, Am I next? Can I go on? That's it for my immediate family I have a baby sister and a daughter that I am holding on for dear life almost smothering. The struggle is real the fear is paralzying. My brother brought it all back I NEVER imagine not growing old with my siblings, them not seeing my child get married. He was to walk my only child down the aisle. I try too stay strong my daughter has seen the same amount of death as I have in much less time. Adding her friends and her Only Aunt on her dad's side to suicide. My faith in God and the thought that I will see them all again keeps me going but knowing I am not alone helps even more. So Thank you.
Thank you Elyse, great idea, I don't come here often anymore, it has taken a course that wasn't intended... if you would like to post this to the main wall I would appreciate it, if you get any backlash, please contact me, I will take care of it. I have been on the verge of closing the site down because it has become a chat room with about 4 people only being the ones that ever contribute. Thank you for reaching out.
Elyse, I was just reading the comments on your walls looking for just words of encouragement for the lost of our love one. I miss my brother so much and he is the last brother - that was alive. I lost my younger brother and now I have lost my older brother. I read how you miss your brother and what a kind person he was and how he was truly cherished by his family. I hope you are able to find comfort in your heart with the love you shared with your brother.
I just lost my last only living brother in July 2017, and I can't state how much it pained me to know that he is no more. I feel like it was just a bad dream- a dream that seems unreal. I long to hear his voice again. He was so loving yet while alive I wish everyone would have seen the beauty in his heart. He gave and often receive little in return in respects to the love he gave to others. People always assume you will always be there - yet not knowing when it will be your last day here on earth.
I miss his voice - just miss knowing he was alive and well. Miss knowing that he loved me. I look forward to seeing him again as promised in the Bible at Revelation 21:3,4.
Elyse, Thank you for thinking of me! You have a heart of gold...I'm so dang sad!!! Going through too much all at one time and just don't have the courage to keep reliving the past three years...so much and then my dad died...which triggered everything! Thanks again. You are,so special...I feel as if I know you. Talk soon. Cherish
Thank you for your support.I know died to me seems harsh. So I usually just say passed. I'm sorry for your loss. To me it just gets harder and harder each day. People say oh it gets better over time,but I told my mom not for me. She said yeah I know. He was her baby the youngest. We still wait for his call around 2:00am after last call to pick him up at the casino. We live on a reservation and have a casino. I never realized that he was a big part of our lives.
I hold onto the many beautiful thoughts I have of my Brother. He was overworked and tired - when he was found in his vehicle. He had such a beautiful spirit about himself. You too, Elyse - hold onto the many cherished moments you shared with your brother; knowing that all of the pain we are feeling now - will soon be a thing of the past, according to Revelation 21:3,4. Hold onto the hope you find in your Bible. Just knowing, that our Heavenly Father will re-unite us in the near future brings me so much joy in my heart with that hope that lives within me. (John 5:28, 29)
Hello, Elyse - feel free to scroll through any of my posting. Yes, I do have a strong spiritual belief and it is what keep me in a healthy frame of mind with all of the promises given to us by our Heavenly Father. So, I am happy to know that I was able to offer you some sort of comfort. If you have any additional questions - feel free to message me. I am still learning how to navigate on this site.
Elyse, thank you for you nice message. I was going to respond but was unable to do that and therefore had to become friends. I thought we were friends. Maybe I'm thinking of you being in the many friends I had but lost due to my re-registering for a second time. I didn't have to do that but didn't realize until too late.
Yesterday I was doing some experimental cooking. It is like meditation for me. Then at night I went to the concert in the park. Every week there is a band with great musicians singing. I like to dance and feel like 17 with a small group of people that attend every week too. If it rains or is too humid the concert is held at the senior center. I told my husband the other day that we were going to celebrate our son Joe's birthday by going out to dinner. Now with my staying up to late and all that I have to do but can't due to a headache I can't concentrate on what I need to do. I decided we will stay home instead. We celebrate his life every day by talking about Joe and sending our love to him. That's all anyone can do as that is all anyone can take when they go into another dimension. I like to use my imagination to get through life. Thank you so much I appreciate y6ur reaching out to me with your kind words.