Thank you for your support.I know died to me seems harsh. So I usually just say passed. I'm sorry for your loss. To me it just gets harder and harder each day. People say oh it gets better over time,but I told my mom not for me. She said yeah I know. He was her baby the youngest. We still wait for his call around 2:00am after last call to pick him up at the casino. We live on a reservation and have a casino. I never realized that he was a big part of our lives.
I hold onto the many beautiful thoughts I have of my Brother. He was overworked and tired - when he was found in his vehicle. He had such a beautiful spirit about himself. You too, Elyse - hold onto the many cherished moments you shared with your brother; knowing that all of the pain we are feeling now - will soon be a thing of the past, according to Revelation 21:3,4. Hold onto the hope you find in your Bible. Just knowing, that our Heavenly Father will re-unite us in the near future brings me so much joy in my heart with that hope that lives within me. (John 5:28, 29)
Hello, Elyse - feel free to scroll through any of my posting. Yes, I do have a strong spiritual belief and it is what keep me in a healthy frame of mind with all of the promises given to us by our Heavenly Father. So, I am happy to know that I was able to offer you some sort of comfort. If you have any additional questions - feel free to message me. I am still learning how to navigate on this site.
At 10:18am on September 20, 2016, Rich Rojas said…
Elyse, thank you for you nice message. I was going to respond but was unable to do that and therefore had to become friends. I thought we were friends. Maybe I'm thinking of you being in the many friends I had but lost due to my re-registering for a second time. I didn't have to do that but didn't realize until too late.
Yesterday I was doing some experimental cooking. It is like meditation for me. Then at night I went to the concert in the park. Every week there is a band with great musicians singing. I like to dance and feel like 17 with a small group of people that attend every week too. If it rains or is too humid the concert is held at the senior center. I told my husband the other day that we were going to celebrate our son Joe's birthday by going out to dinner. Now with my staying up to late and all that I have to do but can't due to a headache I can't concentrate on what I need to do. I decided we will stay home instead. We celebrate his life every day by talking about Joe and sending our love to him. That's all anyone can do as that is all anyone can take when they go into another dimension. I like to use my imagination to get through life. Thank you so much I appreciate y6ur reaching out to me with your kind words.
My son was killed in a car accident in Paducah, Ky on Dec 21, 2015. He was 23. His funeral was on Christmas Eve. My son was one of those young men who everyone liked. For several days and weeks after his death, people would post things on his facebook page. I know that life goes on, but it's hard knowing that my son is not. I don't talk a lot about him, but when I do, it's like people expect me to move on to other areas. I don't want for him to be forgotten. He lived, he laughed and he loved. I miss the calls late at night, talking about life and what was going on in his life. Will I ever get peace?
Hi...thank you for your condolences. I am very sorry for your loss of your brother and your dad. My dad's death has just made everything worse because I have already been dealing with a lot of stress and pain for the past two and a half years. I hope this group will help also. You are welcome for my sharing of your post. I really liked it! I appreciate your help on being on this website and contacting me! Thank you!
Thank you for your acknowledgement of my loss & I am so sorry for the loss of your brother. Although this group through Legacy connect is wonderful, I'm on Facebook, Grief the Unspoken & it is MUCH easier to post in those groups & they're closed so no one else can see what you post/comment except the members - it's more private. I'm in Loss of Parent group, but they have sibling, spouse, even suicide groups. Thank you again for letting me know & again, I am so deeply sorry for your loss...
Thank you, next month there will be a first born son of on of his men in his platoon that will share my son's name, that will be the 5th first born son from his buddies at Fort Hood,,it seams he left a good impression on quite a few men in 1st Cavalry, thanks again.
My husband worked with a man named Gregg he had 2 sons. The night before Thanksgiving the one son who didn't live with them didn't feel well and left early to go to his apartment. The next day he didn't arrive for the Thanksgiving celebration. He passed in his bed. The man was rather young maybe 30 or 40's not sure. They didn't have an autopsy not even a viewing. They felt it wasn't going to change the end result so they didn't do anything more. The husband and wife came to my son's viewing and the husband came in the morning before we went to mass. I don't know if he was in the church. He had suggested to my husband that we go to dinner with them. The wife had wiped some tears as I believe she was thinking of her son who passed. I had invited the wife MaryAnn to come as a guest to my garden club when I was the auctioneer for the evening at my club. She declined by computer and that was the end of any further communication. My husband thought Gregg was nice and so did I but we never went to dinner with them. I don't know if this gives you any insight about people that let it go. But of course still mourn the loss of a precious child. I still feel the great loss of my brother in 1995. I suggest you go to a bereavement group on your own.
Elyse, any time you see something you like posted you can run your cursor over it and it will be highlighted. Then click on mouse and use copy then paste wherever you want. That's what just did on Loss of a Child where I placed the poem earlier.
God looked around his garden And He found an empty place. Then He looked down upon the earth, And saw your tired face. He put His arms around you, And lifted you to rest. God's garden must be beautiful, He always takes the best. He knew that you were suffering, He knew you were in pain, He knew that you would never Get well on earth again. He saw the road was getting rough, And the hills were hard to climb, So He closed your weary eyelids, And whispered "Peace be thine." It broke our hearts to lose you. But you didn't go alone, For part of us went with you, The day God called you home.