Hi, Debbie. Thanks for the message. I know that the upcoming holidays are going to be especially hard for you and your family!! They will be the second holidays I have been through without my hubby...they will still be hard for me as well. You have been in my prayers. I hope that things are going better for you and your family. Take care of yourself. I'm here any time you need or want to talk! I understand exactly how you feel, Deb.
I am sorry - losing your husband is bad enough, without family being so tough! Monday was my Junior's birthday, so it has been a hard week for me, too. Please take care of yourself. Know that you are in my thoughts and prayers.
things have,nt been good for me i am trying to move ahead but its hard without him his family done everythi ng to make my life hard my oldest daughter has wished me dead we had a fist fight she called me names today hes been gone 3 months i live in a motel me and our 14yr old addopted its a night mmare
Its been this past days, last friday was 4 months since my husband died and i have been in tears since.
i can't seem to get past anything long enough to find a little bit of joy. i know exactly how you feel, people that you knew somehow just stop calling and you find yourself even lonelier. everyone around us is going on with their lives and we are at a standstill.
I am sorry to hear you had surgury, are you doing ok? I am doing the best i can, i spend alot of time thinking about my husband. i miss him so much, everyday is a struggle. we will get through it, it just takes time and only those who have gone through something like this know that.
Debbie, Debbie, Debbie
How old are your kids? Tell them your a big girl now and do not need their permission to live your own life. My kids would never think of telling me what to do. That would just be the end of it. I ahve a b rother that live down south. He has a daughter 8 yrs old. For one reason or another he thinks she should come and live with me WRONG I told him I raised my kids. I work everyday and usually get as much overtime as I can just to keep busy. Im dealing with enough right now this is the last thing I need. Thanks for your email address. What state do you live in? Im trying to get my daughter to put my pic on here. Hasnt happened yet well must go for noe take care hope to hear from you soon Dotti
I completly understand. Tell yourself how would he handle a certain situation? I found this really helps alot. What was your husbands name? Donnie did everything and I mean everything the only thing I did was fold clothes and do dinner dishes. I never even put gas in my car. He just handled it all. Now I have to do all this stuff. this is no joke. I have to take my car to a mecahnic cause Im out of windshield washer fluid. I dont know where it goes. And if I tell anyone they will laugh at me. God how I wish he would have shown me things. I never paid a bill, did any banking or even grocery shopping.. I went to work and he took care of everything else. I had to have my kids show me how to pay bills. We all have the same feelings you have. its not easy being alone. I have a daughter that lives with me but she not home most of the time. do you work?
I too lost my husband on 2/27/10. What a God awful day. You will experience so my different emotions and feelings. At first I was mad at the world, then at him,he didnt want to die but all I thought was "how could you leave me?" I thought he knew he was sick and didnt tell me. I found out from his Dr. that he didnt know. He was diagnosed with liver cancer on 2/2/10 and died just 3 weeks later. You will get good days then bad. Its all part of the grieving process. I have learned alot in just 8 weeks. Tell yourself How would my husband want me to feel? This has helped me alot. I know in my heart that Donnie would want me to be happy. I even thought of taking my own life to be with him but I know God has plans for me down here yet. Hes not ready for me. At least to my knowledge. I work days but Im usually online by about 6:30pm. I ck my emailes daily firstname.lastname@example.org and my # is 440-725-1785 I will always return a call or email. Im 56 yrs old and we were married 38 yrs. As a matter of fact Donnie died 1 week after our anniversary. Take care hope to hear from you Dotti