you're welcome...anytime I can ease the pain for just one moment for someone else then I'm happy, we're all here for each other, if it's to offer words of comfort, encouragement or just to listen...it means so much to me to know that I'm not alone in this awful struggle of life without my baby and that you all are willing to listen to me as well....Mary stay strong and call on me anytime night/day.....hugs to you as well.
Hello Mary, first let me say how sorry I am for the lost of your son. I lost my son Mark A.Ashley at the hands of another on March 30, 2009 and it's been a long hard road. I want to thank you for the words of encouragement, they mean a lot. I was just reading your profile and am sorry that your family feel you should be over your grief by know. I hear a lot of that from our friends on this site and as hurtful as it is that's what they believe. What some family and friends don't understand and will never understand is that we as parents who have lost a child/children will never get over grieving for them. They have not experience the heartache, pain, sorrow, misery, etc, we face each and every day of our lives without our precious babies. They don't understand we've lost apart of our very soul a void which can never be filled, this will never go away. So Mary, when you need to talk about your baby don't hesitate to call on me or anyone of your Legacy family members. May God bless you and give you the strength to get through each day. I will keep you in my heart and prayers. Mary, I want you to put your hands around yourself and squeeze real tight....you have just been hugged by me.
Hi Mary,I'm thankful to share with all that grace this site for the hearts that bear the pains we share are special for many would never breathe a word and suffer in silence but God has not left us alone to suffer but to lift each other up in every way possible and my job it is to send every word of joy to any rhat will listen your son looks so great as the strength of a young warrior and I know that is what you see him as not saw but see because he's still right in your heart and life may end but never does it vanish from our sight.I'm here a lot so just jot me a line and it won't be long and I'll answer.I love to hear the voice of the Lord in a person's heart it allows me to be very open.
Hello Mary,I'm quite pleased with your exhortation and it gives me great joy to have a heart like yours to render such comfort in the midst of all the pain that we suffer even though your's must be great I am hoping that your heart benefits from just seeing the many hearts that hunger for the love of compassionate people such as yourself,we all have lost and there are days no matter what mantle you wear it wears you down but just know that we're here to hear your cry at any hour of the night or day so keep your heart up and your head level.The Preacher!!!
Mary, your faith in God is beautiful! I can see in your comments to others that he has blessed you with a beautiful heart and wonderful words of encouragement. You are a wonderful example of faith and love. God be with you always!
Hi Mary I lost my son Sam 1 year ago Jan.15 th I still feel like my heart has been torn from me, I also read that book the Shack it helped me tremendously,It was a great book I also read 90 minutes in heaven another great book. these books have helped me a lot.
thank you. i am trying to not let those bad thoughts rule my mind but sometimes it is hard. they just seem to take over. i know it was just an accident but i cant help but think i could have saved him if only i knew. I would never change the relationship i had with John but i do wish the end was better. i wish i could have told him how much i loved him. i know he knew but i still wish i could have told him. sometimes i do feel like i am losing my mind.
i also did not want time to pass before now i sometimes wish it would go by really fast. i cant wait to see my john again. i want to watch my youngest grow up slowly but i also wish time would fly by. I also wish it was years down the road so i would be able to deal with the pain a little better. although i dont know that i ever will be able to deal with the pain.
I will continue...for losing my son was the most difficult walk through the fire I have ever experienced. He was my hero, he wanted to live so much for he had so much to live for but cancer was wicked and I have to say, he never complained or whined. He said: the day of his diagnosis, I want God glorified and he prayed for us...I will never forget that as long as I live...He prayed for us...we all prayed together as a family that day but he kept praying for us. When he and I were alone...he would tell me, Mom I want to live...I really believed he would be healed but now I know there were higher plans then I could comprehend. He welcomed my whole family into heaven and I am grateful he and my precious loved ones knew the Lord. Tami, my faith keeps me looking towards my time when I too will pass from this life into heaven. I am a church secretary in Vallejo...I am here for you and we can walk this path of loss together...thanks so much for your kindness and compassion. Mary
I just read your story, WOW, that is a lot of loss! I am so sorry, my father passed away almost exactly one year before my Son, My Father is my hero. I hope that you continue to post, It helps so much. I feel the same about writing and letting out those feelings, and I think it helps others, it lets them know that they arent going crazy with these emotions we all go through and the only person that will really understand is another Parent.
I thought I already signed in and joined the group. I am not sure how this works...I did write about losing my precious son 2 years this February 21st. Hmmm! I got through legacy.com...I own my son's guest book and use it as my journal. I write my hearts feelings and emotions...