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At 5:46am on March 18, 2011, david said…

glad you are finding ways to cope . yes major decisions too fast can be big mistakes but for me it was right thing to do . life too short to live somewhere because it makes financial sense . tried to talk  wife into moving to beach for past few years without success  . because of her declining health i was well aware her time was short. the car accident made it all the more shorter . she assumed she had 10 more years . today i am trying to live without taking tomorrow for granted even though it's human nature to do so when your health is good . it sounds like the right thing for you is stay where you are. everyone must do what works for them to hold on during these difficult days . what worked for me was moving away as soon as i could. car accident was 1 miles from previous residence on same road(rural setting . we had house 10 acres / horses/ dogs/ cats)  and there was no way i could continue living on that road or even in the same county.

 

peace

 

david 

At 3:17pm on March 17, 2011, david said…

the waves from the ocean are my peace on earth. glad you are in position to enjoy them too 

http://www.savannah-family-lawyer.com/

 

david 

At 3:13pm on March 17, 2011, david said…

HUGS TO YOU TO PAT. ABOUT TO WAL K TO BEACh with one of my  labs/ just had my 1st st. partictick day in savannah this morning . it wAS SO MUCH FUN MADE ME FEEL GOOD TO BE ALIVE .NOW I AM BACK HOME on tybee island .will write more after coming back from the beach . the beach / sun/ sand / good for my soul 

 

 

At 2:10pm on March 14, 2011, david said…

my 2 brothers and my son all live near you in northridge and west hollywood.

it will very soom be 1 year since my wife was killed . this board and grievement groups near where i use to live and some praying to avoid mental and emotional breakdown has helped me more than i can say.  bottom line top survive in a positive manner we must remember the glass is always half full not empty

At 11:12pm on March 13, 2011, Patricia Hill said…

Thanks Nancy, believe it or not, today is my birthday.  It's been very tough just like you said. I've had a good cry and a few glasses of wine. Deep down I still think he may come back, but then, one by one, anniversary goes by, Xmas goes by, and now my birthday and he's not here. He would never miss my birthday. He didn't want to go, I know God needed him more than I did. We had so many plans, retire this month and travel. Now I struggle working not knowing what the future will bring. Scary. I look forward to reading all that is posted here. We are all going thru a very difficult time and our support for eachother is so helpful.  Thank you

At 6:25pm on March 13, 2011, NANCY CHRISSE said…

I had my husband for 14 1/2 years too. And back in the 70's we dated. I know the if we stayed together back in the 70's it wouldn't have worked. We were too stubborn and wild back then. We remained friends all those years. I loved him with all my heart, he was my soul mate!! We had so many plans for the future. We lived in St Augustine fl when he passed away from a stroke. Then I moved back to Illinois to be by family. This was May 3rd 2010. What a year I have had. My dad passed away in Dec. so now I'm moving again about 45 miles south of where I'm at to be closer to my mom. It's not easy, in fact it's the hardest thing I've ever had to go through.

I pray that you will be ok, getting out with friends is the best medicine. Thank God for friends. I had a harder time getting through my birthday than I did getting through his. How funny is life. Take care and good talking to you

At 6:25pm on March 13, 2011, NANCY CHRISSE said…

I had my husband for 14 1/2 years too. And back in the 70's we dated. I know the if we stayed together back in the 70's it wouldn't have worked. We were too stubborn and wild back then. We remained friends all those years. I loved him with all my heart, he was my soul mate!! We had so many plans for the future. We lived in St Augustine fl when he passed away from a stroke. Then I moved back to Illinois to be by family. This was May 3rd 2010. What a year I have had. My dad passed away in Dec. so now I'm moving again about 45 miles south of where I'm at to be closer to my mom. It's not easy, in fact it's the hardest thing I've ever had to go through.

I pray that you will be ok, getting out with friends is the best medicine. Thank God for friends. I had a harder time getting through my birthday than I did getting through his. How funny is life. Take care and good talking to you

At 5:32pm on February 28, 2011, Marianne said…

Hi Patricia,

My husband passed away unexpectedly on July 10, 2011 of a massive heart attack.  If someone had ever told me that I would be the one to find him I never would have believed I could stay in the same house but I find it comforting to be surrounded by all the memories.  In a way, the grief seems worse at times now than it did during the first 6 months.  I guess the numbness has worn off a bit.  I look at other couples and find I'm starting to resent having Chris taken away so soon.  He was 56, I'm 55 and we would have celebrated 28 years of marriage on August 21.  He made me laugh every day and I miss him so much!  One thing that has really shocked me is a couple of my friends have asked me if I'll remarry.  Seriously??? What kind of question is that?

Anyway, I felt compelled to respond to your post.  Hang in there.

At 5:00pm on February 18, 2011, Patricia Hill said…
Hi all..I completely understand and feel what all of you are saying. John passed away 6 l/2 months ago and feel like yesterday. I also am surprised at some friends who hardly ever call. I would love it if they would call and say "we want to take you out for dinner Friday nite." That would be so nice to hear and something to look forward to. I have two very close friends who are there for me nite and day so those are the ones I surround myself with. And of course my family. Every day is so hard, cry and cry just won't stop. So here I am.  Thank you for the emails, I know I'm not alone. Patty
At 9:17pm on February 15, 2011, NANCY CHRISSE said…
I thought the same thing all day what's so darn happy about Valentine's day when were alone. It really sucks to watch the ads on TV about flowers and candy for your loved ones. Ya right. I lost my husband last May 3rd. Almost 10 months, and at times it feels like yesterday. God bless you and give you strenght.
At 9:17pm on February 15, 2011, NANCY CHRISSE said…
I thought the same thing all day what's so darn happy about Valentine's day when were alone. It really sucks to watch the ads on TV about flowers and candy for your loved ones. Ya right. I lost my husband last May 3rd. Almost 10 months, and at times it feels like yesterday. God bless you and give you strenght.
At 6:27pm on February 13, 2011, Patricia Hill said…

John and I were one. Had the same values, dreams, you name it we were on the same page. He was my rock, and soft place to fall. He took such good care of me, I needed that. I am stronger now but such an ache in my heart that is constant. I want to look forward to something... just something.

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