How are you doing Valerie? Hoping you are well...I know you have heard ppl say with time it will get better...and believe it, I didn't think that it would but with counseling it has helped...if you haven't received any counseling pls do so, I urge you to seek it. My God Bless Your Soul...Until next time...Angie
Valerie, My heart aches for you and your family. You are on a journey that will take you all thru many things & emotions. I believe it is a life long journey, walking with the loss of a child. I commend you for giving your son CPR. That had to be so unreal. It is amazing how strong we are when we must be! You are obviously very strong. There are so many emotions you are having/will have. I tell everyone to learn about grief because it explains much of what we question about ourselves, family, friends. Mayo Clinic.com is a good source. Then find comfort in the many ways you can: photos, music, memories, his favorite foods, just anything that gives you comfort. Treasure every detail you remember. One of the greatest healing tools for me is to journal or write things down. It is a release of pain and intense grief as I write, cry, even laugh while I put my inner thoughts/feelings to paper. Much of this is in the form of a letter to my son, Michael, who died Oct 13, 2008. When I stop, I always feel better somehow. Please continue to share within this group. In a strange way, it is so helpful. You are not alone and we do know how you feel. We are all helping one another. I will pray for you and your family. God Bless!
Hi Valerie,i'm so sorry on the loss of your son.I lost my son too, on Easter Sunday,March 23,2008.Also in a car accident.Paul was a passenger in his friends car,a senior in college.My only child.My shock and disbelief lasted a very long time,It will be two years soon,and things are pretty much the same.Every day is like walking on egg shells,trying not to lose it.Also I put on a good front,why I don't no,I think because it will help me too,to stay strong.I read all of our sad stories,here on our site,every day.My heart breaks.We all had so much to look forward to with our children,and then so abruptly taken away.Not even to say good-bye.Try and get thru one day at a time,when I looked ahead, when it first happened,I was so scared at the thought of Paul not being here with me,that's when i decided i won't look ahead anymore.One day at a time's challenge is enough to get thru.You our in my thoughts and prayers.Godspeed, Geri, Paul's mother always and forever!
Numb is a way to feel to get through such a horrible loss. I am so sorry about your son. My son died Jan.16th,2010-he was 37 and had a heart attack. I wish I could help you cope it is the most horrible pain I have ever imagined. I can't even look ahead because I just think of Holiday's and birthdays and anniversary's of his death. I have another son and 2 grandchildren and helps me to hang on. Get through each minute or hour at a time. Devastated- Linda Kohls
I am so sorry for your loss. i lost my 17 year old son on dec 19, 2009. i go to group therapy with his little brother and i go to therapy by myself. it does help i also have started to take medication for depression. i was so bad i cryed all day every day for weeks. there are also groups on yahoo which are of a great help to me. i talk to people daily on there. they are such a huge help to me. they understand my pain and i understand theirs. if you can join yahoo groups and search grief support. i will keep you in my thoughts.
((((hugs)))) to you from michigan
you can also look me up on facebook just send me a message and tell me you are from here so i will except you.
Hi Valerie, I'm so sorry for the loss of your David. We are all here for you. This is one group that none of us ever wanted to be a part of but a lot of us lean on a lot. You and your family will be in my prayers. I know you are new so you might not know that if you click on our pictures you will usually find our stories. We are here to be here for you and for each other. Hugs of Hope, Kathy
Hi hun, so so sorry for your and your families loss, I too lost my son just 7 months ago, in a car accident.I do understand what your going through,write me anytime firstname.lastname@example.org that is my personal email.. Prayers for comfort and peace. Tweedies mom
Hey Valerie, I'm so sorry for your loss of ur son...I know u will hear this a 1,000 times....you have to baby steps and one day at a time...i'm in grief counseling and that is helping alot...so in time when ur able to deal with it better, consider counseling. please contact me thru my e-mail address if ur would like to talk further.... email@example.com
My heart breaks for you. My son died from injuries 2 days after being thrown from a vehicle. I truly know how you feel by giving your son CPR as I was with my son every second in the hospital. Every doctor and nurse were telling me what to expect - his death. But he lived 2 days longer than anyone thought. My ear was upon his chest listening to his heart as it stopped. Oh my God!!! To know that you are experiencing the same grief that I and many others have been is difficult to comprehend. I have no other children here and my husband is at 1 1/2 days a week, as he is a W-Mart truck driver. I am thankful to know that you have other children with you, not stating that to take away any of the love for your son. I know that with family with you it will help you in your loss. Right now the only thing that I can say thast may help you and your family members is this: Whatever each one of you do for yourselves to help you grieve is RIGHT for you. There will be so many people to offer advice, tell you what to do and how to do it. Don't listen to anyone but your own heart. It will tell you what you need to do for yourself.
My heart is with you and your family.
We are also new to this site but it does give me comfort when I have a sad day reading through the postings and knowing we are not alone.
I am sorry for your loss and for the feelings you will be experiencing forever now. Sounds like you have a big family to give support to each other. That is how we are making through our family tragedy.
We lost our 39 yr old son on Christmas morning. He left behind 3 beautiful teenage grand daughters. We see them every week and have to be strong for them.
They have so much life left and miss their Dad so much. The family was separated by a horrible divorce but the girls live by and our interaction with them is intact.
I have been reading a couple of good books that have been helping me get through this grieving process and would be glad to offer the names. We all have to do this healing in our own personal way.
There is no right or wrong way.....