im so sorry why did your ex do that. how old was your son? my sons name is caden also. how have you made it 2 years? i dont no what to do with myself im lost lonely emty. i work a couple times out of the week and the rest i sit at home on the couch o and i go to church ever sunday so yes i believe in God but other than that i have no urge really to dso anyhting i was goin to school but took a leave of absence cuz i just cant focus and dont have the want to right now but i started goin for my son and do want to finish for him. i want t odie everyday i see no point in living he was my reason i feel like without him here what is the point in anything really i dont matter any more
your son is gorgeous jennifer, I can tell by the pictures he is truly loved. My son was a healthy boy who in a matter of 1 day lost his life to a rare sickness. I snuggled him up in bed with me on saturday after saying our prayer and then came sunday.. i rushed him to the hospital when he woke up... i could tell something was wrong. He passed away at 635pm while i held his hand and whispering i love you in his ear.. Time wont heal this pain in fact i struggle with my life everyday. I hope there is something more after this life for our children and for us. I dream of the day when i get to hold him again. god bless you and your family, im truly sorry that something so horrible had to happen to you. may you find peace tonite. Ill keep you in my thoughts.
There is nothing wrong with you, what has happen to you is aweful, I lost my daughter 3 years ago she was 18 freak accident, and my other daughter now lives out of state first year with out both of them I was a single mom, I am now married, but it was the three of us that made a whole circle we had each others back, and now i am not with both of them nor is my surviving child Shannon but she has two kids wich live 1500 miles from me, I cried on the holidays, and then laugh at memories, sometimes i think i am going crazy, but we have each other to remind us we are not, i will go to you site, and sign it
There is a lot of people mostly kids from texting they just put the name a road after a beautiful young lady died (not my daughter) from texting I am joining that pention too,, if you look there are a lot of children that lost there life like that it should be stop,, and I will support your you for you and your son, maybe it will wake up some people and save babies lives, GOD BLESS YOU.
Jennifer ive been reading some the stories on your page and i figured it out your child was murdered from his dad. Iam so sorry for that i guess iam pretty lucky in that way because i would of killed the son of a you know what the word is but my heart goes out to you. I lost my preciuos son Daniel 3 weeks of his 21st birthday and it was devastating he was killed in a car accident due to texting and driving. He didn't suffer he died enstantly a hit to the back of the head when God called him i beleive Daniel took his hand and followed him to heaven iam so lucky that my baby didn't feel any pain he was away in college in a different state. I know we all hurt as parents but you have to go threw trials after trials to get this monster be hind bars i know you need to get justice done for your baby boy i would do the same thing. My son use to work at a club in St. Louis MO and when i got that call that my son had died that is all that was running threw my head because he called me the night before his death to tell me mom I love you we talked everyday just to say i love you or just to hear each others voice. So that morming of Nov.16th 2008 that is all i thought that some one killed him but the detective told me no he has been in a car accident and i said he is dead right he said Lisa yes iam sorry i just flipped out i was at work when i got the news. Well i can't say be strong because iam not strong after 2yrs but all of us in this group is here for you if you need anything talk cry what ever you want to do. BIG HUGGS LISA DANIEL'S MOM
Jennifer, I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful son. My grief journey began 14 years ago with the death of my 17 year old son, Vinnie. 6 years later my 18 year old son Andrew was murdered. I miss them ever so much along with all the things I will never get to experience with them. Love and peace to you, Kathy
You are so right. Justice has to be served. I wish you all the best. I too, am fighting for my son's death to not go unnoticed. So often the system and even family and friends,just want it to all go away. As mothers,we need to make sure their memories are kept alive, and their lives mattered. More importantly for you and I..that the people who took them from us are put behind bars where they belong.
Keep me posted.
Your little guy is beautiful and truly an angel. I am so sorry for your loss. I must admit I did not see your posting about how your son died. Was he abused by his dad? I can tell you that it is a long and hard process to impliment a new law. Unfortunately,I have first hand knowledge as I am somewhat active with MADD and have contacted Senators to change dwi laws. I'll tell you what I was told. Start with your local Congressman. Call him,e-mail him,and show up at his office. It also depends if you are trying to push through a State or a National law. Starting at local level is usually the proper procedure for both types of Bills. Google how to get a law passed through congress,this will also be of help to you. It will take time, help and lots of energy.
I lost my son,it will be 8 months the day before Mothers Day. He was killed by a drunk driver.
If you need to talk contact me here.
Jennifer, thank you for taking the time to answer me. I was shocked to read your distressing news about the plea bargain. I guess I never thought about why they call it a bargain - the offender gets a good deal but at what price? Maybe those stories about prisons and how they treat child abusers are true and he will have to experience what he did to your precious baby.
well the man who killed my son pleaded guilty to 1st degree aggravated manslaughter and only got 13yrs for it..drug dealers get more time then child killers..there is got to be something i can do so that people like him get more time
Thank you so much for your kind words Jennifer. You are as courageous as you are strong. It means a lot to me that I have received so many replys to my post that I threw up there in a teary fit. I have talked about my situation the last week more than I have in the past 3-4 years. I am relieved to have input from so many rich personalities. Instead of my peers pat on the back saying, "you'll get over it." But I never knew how intricated every little trivial thing was to me, until I was already too late. I myself have a girlfriend whom I love and care for deeply as anyone. However I often feel my luggage that I carry on my shoulders sometimes is a burden for her. So I do nothing. In hopes to not ruin my intimate relationships and Anthonys new Father and baby Sister. In turn, my feelings are still torn. I've really done it THIS time, I often think. Just to be able to get that out makes me reflect on so much. Thank your for helping me help myself in this aspect of just gettin it outta my head. THANKYOU SO MUCH.
JENNIFER & ALL OTHER MOMS WHO HAVE LOST A CHILD--- ONE THO'T THAT HELPS ME THE MOST IS THE KNOWLEDGE THAT NOTHING NOR ANYONE CAN EVER HURT THEM EVER AGAIN -- & THAT SEEMS TO HELP ME A LOT . MY SON WAS BLIND IN HIS RITE EYE & HAD A BADDDD SIEZURE & HAD TERRIBLE DEPRESSION - WUD BE ON SIEZURE MEDS THE REST OF HIS LIFE- WAS NOT ABLE TO WORK ANYMORE & WAS SO UNHAPPY OVER LOSING HIS WIFE & KIDS & A NEW CAR, NEW TRUCK, NEW BOAT - HAD NOTHING LEFT BUT HIS CLOTHES & MEMORIES THAT ATE AT HIM LIKE AN ACID . HE WALKED THE FLOOR A LOT ! HE JUST CUD NOT FACE ALL THAT ANY MORE & TOOK HIS OWN LIFE - THAT CHANGED OUR LIVES FROM THAT DAY ON- FOREVER !! FINDING THIS SITE HAS BEEN A BIG HELP TO ME TO SHARE & WRITE DOWN MY THOT'S & FEELINGS WHEN YOU FEEL LIKE NO ONE IN THE WHOLE WORLD KNOWS THE AWFUL PAIN YOU ARE GOING THRU - PAIN THAT THERE IS NO RELIEF FOR !! TIME DOES HELP SOME BUT IT CAN HIT YOU A-FRESH ALL OVER AGAIN WHEN YOU LEAST EXPECT IT TOO .GOD HELP US ALL TO FIND PEACE IS MY PRAYER !!!
GOD BLESS YOU JENNIFER!! YOUR STORY IS SO TERRIBLE- WHEN I READ IT I SAID "OH DEAR GOD "!!--- LOSING A CHILD AT ANY AGE IS SO HORRIBLE , BUT THIS IS A BADDDD THING TO HAVE HAPPENED TO ANYONE > IS THE EX IN PRISON ?? - I PRAY SO ,- & GOD BLESS YOUR OTHER KIDS TOO ! I PRAY THEY DID NOT SEE IT HAPPEN - KNOWING IT MUST BE AWFUL FOR YOU & THEM TOO ! I LOST MY 31 YR OLD SON RYAN 8/26/2009 & THE LOSS IS UNDESCRIBABLY HORRIBLE ! I KNOW THE AWFUL PAIN YOU ARE FEELING--- THERE'S NO PAIN ANY WORSE THAN LOSING YOUR BABY NO MATTER WHAT AGE THEY ARE ! I'LL INCLUDE YOU & YOUR KIDS IN MY PRAYERS - SADLY THE LIST KEEPS GROWING !! YOU'RE NOT ALONE IN YOUR GRIEF ! I PRAY GOD GIVES ALL OF YOU PEACE SOMEHOW !! GOD BLESS ALL OF YOU !!!
My grandaughter was also abused and died, only we don't know who did it. She died Oct 9th 2009, so not to long ago. She had fractured ribs old and new, old and new head trauma and a detached retinal in one eye. I can't believe someone would hurt a child. I am still grieving. My husband and I have her big brother who is 17 months old now, he was not hurt. I am mad at everyone who was around her during that period and will probably always will until I know who did the abuse that killed this precious baby. I am so sorry for your lost, I can't imagine anything harder than having to lose a child. I will pray for you.
Jennifer, I read your earlier post about the thought of Caden just pops into your head and you wondered when this gets better. Truth is Caden will always just pop up into your thoughts. Perhaps a time will come when it is not so often but I can tell you after four years it still happens to me. My son Ryan was 18 when he was killed in a skateboarding accident. It's still hard but I have had no choice but to try and go on the best I can. I hope you find your way too with your angel Caden by your side. Peace.
Jennifer, I am so sorry for your loss of Caden... What a handsome boy! There are no words I can say to comfort you, just know that you are not alone. Please come to this site and write out your feelings, we can all try to help! How old was Caden? I lost my 18 year old Son in a motorcycle accident in June 09, it is such an undescibable loss, no one will understand except another parent that has been there. I am thinking of you and Caden.