I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful grand baby. It's just so hard to wrap your mind around why they are taken so young.
It will be one year on December 6 that I lost my oldest child and only daughter. I bought a candle to light on that day.
As a grandmother, I know my mom struggles a lot with losing my daughter. My mom lost my brother in 1982 and she has said losing my brother was the worst thing imaginable, until we lost Autumn. I'm assuming not wanting me to feel the pain she had felt when she lost my brother, plus she and Autumn were very close.
I think sometimes people focus so much on the parents of the child and the child's siblings, that they forget the grandparents.
I feel for you and the whole situation surrounding losing your little Skylie.
I'm sending hugs your way and I will be thinking of you on Sunday.
Thanks Teresa for your kind words , your granddaughter Skylie is so beautiful.It's not fair that our childrens life were cut short, ask myself everyday WHY ?????????? , and I cant find the answer , so hard to believe or accept.
Look for the song FACE OF HEAVEN. Yes it's hard I am currently writing a book of my son. And yes I am selfish too 1 more day 1 more hug 1 more......you must live on and share her story. People want to hear ESP how we all repaired our fractured lives. Did we become big brothers or sisters. Did we foster did we adopt.did we help at schools sit down and figure out you r new path
Hello Teresa, I am so sorry for your loss. My son passed away Dec. 7, 2010. He was 43. I feel like someone pulled my heart out of my chest. You're right, I wish I had more memories. And yours, being so little, so innocent, so precious, my heart goes out to you. We all feel your pain. Hugs to you. Paula
I want to repeat to you... You did not cause this..nor could you have prevented this. I know that does not help your pain, but we have to forgive ourselves for what happened Skyle loves you still and you will see that one day. We do not know why we lost them, one day maybe we will... I so know your pain.. God Bless.
We are here Teresa. You can vent anytime. I am so sorry your pain is so awful for you.. You did nothing to cause, and you could not have prevented this from happening, please know this is true and forgive yourself. Skylie would not want you hurting so and there is no blame in things that happen like this.. they just do. So very sorry Hugs...
teresa, i hope that you will not harm yourself. please as tami says talk to someone about this. the pain is so unbearable at times. its a day to day hour to hour struggle which i think we all understand. i lost my only child 6 weeks ago and i struggle everyday that i am no longer a mother and that was my life. i have such guilt about his death. but i hope that you know that you are valued and need to live. there is people you may not even know that you are somehow having a positive impact on their life. and we somehow have to learn how to live with how stupid people are with how they act and what they say sometimes. people do not think before they speak and sometimes they speak ignorance. ive been told your young enough have another child. like my son was a dam puppy and i could just make another baby and it would be better. which is even more painful as my son didnt have a brother or sister because we tried to have other children and we couldnt that would be why my son was 18 without a sibling. please let us all know you are ok. we do care about you.
Teresa, Please call someone, I dont like you saying "before I slit my wrists" it makes me want to run to you! You did all that you could do, we all wish things were different but we cant change a thing, harming yourself wont make it any better, If you need to talk to someone here is a number 1-800-273-8255 This is a number that you can call just to talk out your feelings, PLEASE call it if you feel overwhelmed, I know I do all the time and just need to talk. We are all here for you at all times, you can let out all of your feelings. I'm not judging you , I just want to make sure you aren't going to harm yourself, there is so much love here for you.
Teresa, you can write whatever you want here, nobody will judge you, if they do then they shouldnt be on this site... This site was opened so that we could let out all of our feelings, especially the ones we cant let out to others that have no clue what we are going through. We are all here to Listen, help, and learn. Go for it, if you are judged, please let me know.
Thank you for your kind words, Teresa. It is devastating to lose a grandchild. We lost our second granddaughter, Ruth, when our daughter was 5 1/2 months pregnant. We got to spend some precious hours with her. She was a perfect, beautiful baby. I can't imagine losing your grandbaby when she was almost a year old. We have two other granddaughters and they and our two remaining children are the reasons we get up every day after losing Garrett. I keep telling myself that it's God's plan and someday we will understand, but for now we just have to face every day. Keeping you and yours in my thoughts and prayers!
She is a beuatiful girl, Im so sorry for your loss how is your daughter and son in law doing with all of this i hope you all are comforting each other, we just lost our 17 year old son nov 19th and found out yesterday the air bag is what killed him.
Teresa, I am so very sorry that you are feeling so much pain. Know that you are not alone. When I was told that my 21 year old beautiful boy had been shot and killed, I tried to take my life that evening. After that I thought that there was no way I could continue to live without my only son. But somehow I have made it almost 7 months now. I can't call it living but at least I get up and go through the motions. There are times that I actually laugh and there are a few moments during the day that I don't think about him. We will always feel this horrible pain and emptiness but I have the hope that things will get better for us. God bless you and give you strength.
I feel like you and I are in the same place except your grandchild was not abused and your baby was older so you had more time to form a bond. Read my other post. I am so sorry, I wish both of us had our angels back.