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At 9:56pm on March 27, 2011, Linda Sacquety said…
Melissa, Beautiful poem.  Thank you for sharing
At 9:56pm on March 27, 2011, Linda Sacquety said…
Melissa, Beautiful poem.  Thank you for sharing
At 1:08am on March 27, 2011, Melissa Asher said…

After my daughter

died
I would sit and brood,
I would pick at my food,
I force to smile

As if smiling were
A betraying act
Against the deep grief
That gnawed inside of me.
I did it so no one woud react

I had to be strong brave

so I would not cave

Some days I would walk
Alone by myself
Along by the ocean
Watching the tide's rush


Hitting  against the shore
Listened to the sound
Of the the ocean's harsh roar
Felt the punches of the ocean

Power in the pit
of my stomach core.
You see my daughter and me
would walk the ocean shore
together no more.

After my daughter died
I lie awake
In the early hours
Watching the sun's move
Across the ceiling
Like a playful child

Which would bring on tears
For my daughter's lost years
And the vacant space
Inside my pierced heart

Echoing loudly
Each sullen moment
Of every waking day.

but as time goes by
The years are lost
As I walk the ocean shore
I do not feel pain as the wave
crash among the rocks

The memories of Samantha
are sweet as we walk the beach
the waves are a save in my mending heart

As each wave hit I would see her beautiful smile

and I would have a little peace for awhile

I will miss you my daughter every minute of the day
I will not try to cry today or fall apart.

You will always be in my heart.

I love you Samantha your Mom

At 9:55am on March 5, 2011, shannon churchill said…

Thank you for sharing with us.   God bless you and celebrate each day on earth...as one less we will have to wait to see our God, and our beautiful children!   Woo Hoo if that is not a reason to celebrate the sunrise!   You are in my heart and prayers.  

Shannon

At 8:42am on March 5, 2011, Janet - Todd's Mom said…

Since this happened, we've been to at least four law firms that are supposed to be the best in the Boston area.  The first one even had an attorney whose sister had worked with and thought highly of Todd, but, after four months of gathering all of the medical records, they told us that if this went to court, the doctor would win, because she didn't do anything illegal.  They did recommend that we get a second opinion and offered referrals.  They felt badly that there are so many laws protecting doctors from being held accountable for incompetence.  After that, we sought the help of another law firm, with the same result.  Not to give up, I told a friend of mine who is an attorney about this, and she helped me with referrals to other law firms with attorneys that she has worked with over the years.  Same answers.  So now, with her guidance as a friend (a wonderful woman), we have filed a formal Letter of Complaint to the Board of Medicine and they are currently investigating this doctor.  We're not interested in money but we want her held accountable for her substandard care of our son.  

Thank you so much for your comments.  I'm so very sorry for the loss of your beautiful daughter.  Your poem has helped me to remember why I have to go on....to speak for my son, and continue his life in good deeds in his name, helping others now that he cannot.  As a matter of fact, tonight we are babysitting for his two God children, so his best friend & his wife can go out for dinner & a movie, without the children, for a change.  May you have a peaceful day in helping others too.  Hugs, Janet

At 8:14am on March 5, 2011, Janet - Todd's Mom said…

Melissa,

Thank you so much for that beautiful poem.  It says everything I feel since losing my wonderful son 21 months ago to pneumonia and acute respiratory distress syndrome, because his doctor sent him away saying, "you're not that sick and don't have the flu or pneumonia".   When he went back 3 days later, she said, "You should go to the ER" but he told her he had to go to work.  He didn't know how sick he was.  After going over his medical records with other doctors & nurses, we have learned that she should have called for an ambulance to take him there immediately, as his blood oxygen was dangerously low.  My son was intelligent and loved life, animals and helping people.  Your poem really resonated with me because helping people and animals is about the only thing that helps me to feel better.  Hugs to you for helping others, including me,  Janet   

At 10:17pm on March 4, 2011, Melissa Asher said…
YOU SAY I AM BRAVE
BUT I AM NOT I HIDE BEHIND A MASK
I AM A CARE GIVER I LIKE TO SAVE

I FIND COMFORT IN HELPING OTHERS
TO FILL THE VOID IN THEIR HEART
I AM LIKE A ALL AROUND MOTHER TO OTHERS

I FORGET THE VOID IN MY HEART
BUT I FEEL THE ACHE EACH AND EVERY DAY
BUT I PUSH THRU THE PAIN THAT IS THERE FROM THE START

YOU SAY I AM BRAVE
BUT I AM HUMAN YOU SEE
THERE IS NOT GRAVE
THERE ARE ONLY ASHES
THAT HOLDS A PART OF ME.

I CRY EVERY NIGHT FOR PAST THREE AND HALF YEARS
I AM NOT BRAVE
FOR I CAVE
I DO PICK MY SELF UP AND GO ON FOR MY PEIRS
FOR THAT IS HOW I SEEM TO BE BRAVE
I AM A CARE GIVER
AND I LOVE IT I WOULD NOT CHANGE,

AS FAR AS MY DAUGHTER DEATH
I AM NOT GOING TO LIE
IT HURTS WITH EVER BREATH
BUT I GO ON BECAUSE I HAVE TO LIVE FOR BOTH OF US
IT IS A MUST!!!!!


At 11:32am on March 4, 2011, Shari Soklow said…

Dear Melissa,

God Bless you for your kind words and being my friend!

Please feel good and the sun will shine in your life again!

I pray for you.

Your new friend,

 

Shari

At 11:49pm on March 1, 2011, Tracey L Howlett said…
Melissa,
Thank you for your kind works, I bet your beautiful daughter does have a ring side seat!! I'm so glad that you were able to give your friend her clothes what a blessing for both of you. We do special things to in Bryan's memory, I really never messed with his stuff after he died, I couln't really go into his room as that was where he passed away so my huband and oldest son worked on it, and we gave some of his stuff to his friends and donated some, and because he and his brother were the same size, Justin has some of his stuff. Thank you again for writing to me, I have had more friends to talk to on this site, than I've had for 3 years! It truely is a blessing to me.
Your friend Tracey
At 8:56pm on March 1, 2011, Vicki Vazquez said…
Glad I have a new friend, I will talk to you again soon..  Love Vicki
At 8:13pm on March 1, 2011, Vicki Vazquez said…
Thankyou Melissa,  your daughter is beautiful. God Bless you all. Vicki V.
At 1:05am on February 19, 2011, Terri Kuta said…
yes I love it i hadn't seen it until now thank you so much you don't know what it means to have that you are so talented
At 1:05am on February 19, 2011, Terri Kuta said…
yes I love it i hadn't seen it until now thank you so much you don't know what it means to have that you are so talented
At 3:34pm on February 8, 2011, Terri Kuta said…
Thank you Melissa:  I would appreciate it so much if you would do that for my son, how do I get a picture to you i feel so bad so many parents have sites that are so beautiful in the memory of their child and i barely can get a picture up.
At 1:36pm on February 8, 2011, valerie moore said…
i have accepted your friend invitation.  thank you!!!
At 1:35pm on February 8, 2011, valerie moore said…
ps, beautiful poem, i have printed it out.  thanks, val
At 1:35pm on February 8, 2011, valerie moore said…

thank you melissa for writing back.  the 1 yr 5 mon anniv which was the 28th- that anniv for some reason has been real hard.  (well all of them are hard)  as we know.  on dustys last birthday (his 1st one since he passed)  extremely difficult.. i had a cake, with his name on it and butterflys around his name.  i love butterflys, they represent freedom and peace, my son was a drug addict and needed peace from his chaotic life. several years ago, ( i am a dog lover) he bought me a "beanie: stuffed dog as a gift.  since he passed, aug 2009- i have slept with that puppy. i hold it close to my heart all night long.......

thank you for sharing, valerie

At 12:51pm on February 8, 2011, valerie moore said…
dear melissa, just thought i would share, that i also do balloon liftoffs, every holiday,and anniversary. dusty loved valentines day and easter because i would always fix him up a candy basket even though he was in his 20's, he loved candy.  these holidays are very hard for me.  i too, on valentines day, will be releasing red and white balloons up to heaven for my dusty.  hugs,   valerie
At 2:47am on February 7, 2011, Terri Kuta said…
Melissa:  I love how you an do all of htat with pictures they are beautiful, unfourtunely i am barely able to even get a picture on here.  My sons 18th birthday is this wednesday and im having a memorial birthday party for him, its getting a liitle out ofhand i was thinking maybe 15 or 20 of his close friends and family would come by and eat a bite talk about jonathan and light a candle, as of tonight we have over 35 people who are coming for sure, although this is wonderful to know my son was and still is loved that much its tearing me apart knowing i will have to listen to everyone laughing while my son is in heaven, I haven't slept in 2 days just thinking about it but we all want to honor our children and this is just a way to to do.
At 2:47am on February 7, 2011, Terri Kuta said…
Melissa:  I love how you an do all of htat with pictures they are beautiful, unfourtunely i am barely able to even get a picture on here.  My sons 18th birthday is this wednesday and im having a memorial birthday party for him, its getting a liitle out ofhand i was thinking maybe 15 or 20 of his close friends and family would come by and eat a bite talk about jonathan and light a candle, as of tonight we have over 35 people who are coming for sure, although this is wonderful to know my son was and still is loved that much its tearing me apart knowing i will have to listen to everyone laughing while my son is in heaven, I haven't slept in 2 days just thinking about it but we all want to honor our children and this is just a way to to do.

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