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At 12:53pm on February 6, 2011, valerie moore said…
happy birthday to your beautiful daughter.  when it was my sons birthday, i had a cake, candles and bought a beautiful plant to nurture.  on all holidays i have a balloon lift,  for valentines, i will have red and white balloons.  may God bless you and your family.  hugs,  valerie
At 12:53pm on February 6, 2011, valerie moore said…
happy birthday to your beautiful daughter.  when it was my sons birthday, i had a cake, candles and bought a beautiful plant to nurture.  on all holidays i have a balloon lift,  for valentines, i will have red and white balloons.  may God bless you and your family.  hugs,  valerie
At 7:30am on January 8, 2011, Carrie L said…
Hi Melissa i feel for you and us. it is not a good situation there is not much suport at home for no one feels as bad as we do. the constant thoughts. I know it will take time but it is more than that. we are now fractions shattered from what we were and knew. take care carrie L
At 7:30am on January 8, 2011, Carrie L said…
Hi Melissa i feel for you and us. it is not a good situation there is not much suport at home for no one feels as bad as we do. the constant thoughts. I know it will take time but it is more than that. we are now fractions shattered from what we were and knew. take care carrie L
At 7:38am on January 7, 2011, Carrie L said…
Melissa. I am so sorry for our losses .. I hope you are getting along ok. for me it is mornings and evenings they are the hardest I believe mornings are the worst. Your daughter is beautiful. My son is quite handsome. and such a sense of humore. I can't believe he is gone I guess that is part of the hardness of loss. you will be going along with normal thoughts and then that thought hits you it saddens you and nearly brings you down. it is very hard and i know you know that love to you .. I hope you are ok. carrie L
At 9:07pm on January 6, 2011, JOANN BARNES said…

Hi Melissa,

 

I appreciate words that gives hope and inspiration. I know that death is perplexing, why our daughters?   I don't know how to reach Donna Smith.  I would love to speak with her and share our experience and thoughts, about septic and sepsis in the medical facilities, that is kept hushed.

 

I thought I knew how to pray, all of my life.  My prayers are different, I read and try to find my understaning of the teachings of the Bible.  I believe I am searching for understanding of why we mourn, when death is inevitable.  Before, I listen to the words of other as they spoke from their belief and understanding of what is written in the bible.  I and my daughter are more spiritual than religious.  We love this earth and all of God's creations.  Prayer is helping me.  You are right, you can't say goodbye, I don't want to.  The things I do ask for, will not be granted.  I find the most wonderful cards that she had given me, in the oddest places, at the times when I am so lost.  One said that her strength came from God and her mother.  It appeared out of nowhere.  Today, I found another card, that she created for me, on my birthday, and a card that I had sent to her, while she was away at camp, in 1991.  That card expressed how much I missed her, so uncanning. Her card expressed her appreciation and love for me,and caring for and loving her.  That she had no fears because of the love and strenght of her mother in life and after we were both  gone from this earth, we would still have one another.  It's as if she was preparing, me. Christmas has always been so special for our family.  We could not stay in our home.  I couldn't wait to leave and was anxious to return, to feel her presence.  Yet, I feel lost here.  I am thinking about the future, what to do to make life worthwhile.  I have a wonderful husband, but that void, overwhelms, everthing.

I pray for other parents and their loss.

 

At 9:07pm on January 6, 2011, JOANN BARNES said…

Hi Melissa,

 

I appreciate words that gives hope and inspiration. I know that death is perplexing, why our daughters?   I don't know how to reach Donna Smith.  I would love to speak with her and share our experience and thoughts, about septic and sepsis in the medical facilities, that is kept hushed.

 

I thought I knew how to pray, all of my life.  My prayers are different, I read and try to find my understaning of the teachings of the Bible.  I believe I am searching for understanding of why we mourn, when death is inevitable.  Before, I listen to the words of other as they spoke from their belief and understanding of what is written in the bible.  I and my daughter are more spiritual than religious.  We love this earth and all of God's creations.  Prayer is helping me.  You are right, you can't say goodbye, I don't want to.  The things I do ask for, will not be granted.  I find the most wonderful cards that she had given me, in the oddest places, at the times when I am so lost.  One said that her strength came from God and her mother.  It appeared out of nowhere.  Today, I found another card, that she created for me, on my birthday, and a card that I had sent to her, while she was away at camp, in 1991.  That card expressed how much I missed her, so uncanning. Her card expressed her appreciation and love for me,and caring for and loving her.  That she had no fears because of the love and strenght of her mother in life and after we were both  gone from this earth, we would still have one another.  It's as if she was preparing, me. Christmas has always been so special for our family.  We could not stay in our home.  I couldn't wait to leave and was anxious to return, to feel her presence.  Yet, I feel lost here.  I am thinking about the future, what to do to make life worthwhile.  I have a wonderful husband, but that void, overwhelms, everthing.

I pray for other parents and their loss.

 

At 1:30am on January 2, 2011, Rev.James Durden said…
Hi Melissa,I was going over what you said & yes I know Kisha Samantha and many others are with our Lord,Kisha lived and breathed God she wrote poems on the love of God and the love she shared was pure please share the love of Samantha with all of your family I know it can be hard at times for some might not feel as vocal as you do as I was told that they were not able to share so openly as I do so I go on and continue my quest for all parents who have children to love them everyday with all of your heart for you never know when they might not be with you any longer.Be Blessed
At 12:33am on January 2, 2011, Rev.James Durden said…
Hi Melissa,I'm thankful to have friends of this caliber for many would shy away from talking about their children but here we find solace in each other and not the constant silence we find from family members at times so I hope this year finds you and your family healing and living but not forgetting your beautiful child, God bless and keep you is my prayer.The Preacher!!!
At 4:41pm on December 30, 2010, Rev.James Durden said…
Hi Melissa,your kindess is well appreciated as I see that Samantha has been glorified by your level of love displayed to your other daughter,God has a way of lifting us up when we're down and all the days that go by will keep the love of our lives close to our hearts by all of his grace,just stay in his love and in prayer and you'll light up many more faces as our children save lives by leaving theirs behind, the testimonies of two darlings is joyus and brings tears to my eyes.Jesus died to save lives and he knew exactly what he was doing when Samantha, Kisha and others were called into his kingdom.Be Blessed my friend!!   
At 10:00am on December 27, 2010, Rev.James Durden said…
Hi Melissa,my daughter was 23 and she had a blood vessel to burst in her head and she was brain dead for 3 days and we had to turn the machine off hardest thing I ever had to do,we donated her organs as you did stories sound so similiar she saved three lives so there we are the number of lives increase as we share , she wrote poetry about the love of God,you have such a beautiful daughter and may your heart and mind be at peace in Christ Jesus.The Preacher
At 1:27am on December 23, 2010, Amelia R Chavez said…
Just thinking of my friends and praying that we all heal our pain which will always with us. Hugs
At 5:44pm on December 20, 2010, Gaynell Leath said…

Hello Melissa,My first born was Steven.He was a wonderful guy.He was 19 when he passed.I have had alot of anger due to the one who murdered him is walking free.My youngest was Jason.He had blue eyes and a smile that would stay in your heart forever.Both of my sons were gentle souls.Jason was kicked in the head about 10 months before his brother was taken.He was a strong young man with a heart of gold.He went down in respitory failure.Due to the prior head injury tests were done.The hardest decision I have ever made in my life.Yet knowing Jason giving heart and soul.He was a Lifegift donor.I know it would have been what he wanted.I was very honored to have had both of them in my life for 19years each.To this day I remember and think of them with every breath I take.I do know they are in a better place.I just miss them so much.I carry them always in my heart.I will until it is my turn.I pray for everyone on here.This is the hardest thing in life we could ever experience.May God Bless you.Always here Steven and Jasons mom Gaynell Leath

At 12:48pm on December 20, 2010, Lisa Halsey said…

Yes Melissa i truley beleave that Daniel and Samantha are together and they are with us. you know what is wiered is that i had a dream about Daniel it was very short i saw his face for a moment and he said mom iam here i just wanted to grab his handsom face then i woke up. I talked to my inlaws last night and they told be that they found a feather that came off their tree my father in law ran in the house and told my mother in law and he said that Daniel's here he got his angel wings i was so happy. R U ok Y are laying down so much it because of grieving for the loss to Samantha or are you sick?  I just hope you are ok if you need anything just let me know if i could help i will. I know in my heart we will be with our children again and i know Daniel would want me to go on and take care of his brother Michael those two were so close Daniel would make sure he would come home and shared his birthday with him they have the same birthday Oct 22nd 5yrs apart to the day Daniel would be in college he would tell his buddies i have to be home for his birthday so they would party the day before his birthday and him and his buddies would come on their birthday. So now Micheal doesn't like having his birthday any more so we just go to Daniel's grave site and decorate it with balloons and flowers and we just sit there and talk to him it feels comforting he is always with us we feel him we even hear footsteps and we will say hi Daniel hi son and the dogs know hi is here also. Well talk to you again your friend LIsa Daniel's mom HUGGS

At 7:46pm on December 19, 2010, Lisa Halsey said…

Hi Melissa thank for telling me your story that is real sad watching your daughter die trying to save her life i know she thanks you for that but god needed her more. She passed away on Daniels Birthday is Oct. 22nd and she passed a year before he did. I know Samantha and Daniel are together they were both in college he was studying in criminal justice going for DEA investigations that's what he wanted to do that was his back up plan if he didn't make it in the NFL and you know footballl players get hurt sometimes and can never go back his freshman in yr in college he got hurt he had to have reconstruction knee surgery but he was a fighter he pulled threw and started playing football again. Daniel also was a organ donor but he was already gone on the scene by the time peramedics got there that's what he would of wanted tho and Daniel was also my best friend so we have a lot of commom our children loves us so much and i know they would want us to go on and it is hard for all of us. Iam so glad we met i have met alot of nice people on here and friends iam always here for any of you if you need to talk ok to bad we live so far apart so we can give each other huggs when we need one once in a while. Please tell your step daughter don't text and drive if she ever or you want to read his story just google Daniel D.Rivera and she can read about him or go to ksdk.com it is a news reprort in St.Louis Mo and go to search and type in McKendree student dies if it doesn't come up go to bottom of page and push on more or somthing like that i will try to save other kids lives that do that because you never think that it will ever happend to you and yes and Daniel was a good at texting he could do it in his sleep he just took his eye off the road for a minute that's all it took tho. Love Lisa Daniels mom

At 5:07pm on December 18, 2010, mary mello said…

he died 2 years ago it seems like yesterday then his grandaughter died my great granddaughter i died 4 times but i am still here for what i don't no. I called him Mr personality he could fill a room with laughter. He was in a lot of pain he had crowns he took sizers and the cancer now his pain is gone that don't make it any easyer

I was dancing at his wedding i have his pictures all around me my youngest son said i have a shrine of him i have to get thorugh this xmas.

At 4:12pm on December 18, 2010, Julie Patton said…

Hi Melissa,

Thank you so much for the message.  I understand exactly what you're saying.  Your daughter is beautiful.  Her picture reminds me very much of one of my daughters senior photos.  I keep thinking that it will get easier with time, but it doesn', in fact it seems to be getting worse.  I think for the first month that I was in denial and do still think that I might be a little but there are more and more times now that the reality hits and I sob so much that I have a hard time catching my breath.

 

The one thing that I do know is that we all have our angels watching over us. They may not be with us in the physical sense but I do believe that their spirit watches over us.  They know what we are going through and I know that they don't want us to suffer the way that we are. 

 

If you don't mind me asking, how old was Samantha.  How did she die?  I see that you're from Brandon.  We are from Port Richey.  My daughter was going to college at USF and was on her way to school when the accident happened.  The news first reported that she was at fault and it was determined the next day that she was not.  That was extremely painful as there was another driver involved in the accident that was killed as well.  As it turned out he was responsible for the accident as he tried to pass a car behind Cindy and he was hit head on by a semi and pushed into my daughters car.  It just makes me sick to think that it could have been avoided.

 

My thoughts and prayers are with you.  I won't say Merry Christmas because I know it won't be for any of us but please know that everyone on this site is in my prayers.  Hugs!

Julie

At 10:32pm on December 8, 2010, Lisa Halsey said…
Here is a picture of my baby boy my angel Daniel
R.I.P Daniel David Rivera
10-22-97 to 11-16-08

At 10:29pm on December 8, 2010, Lisa Halsey said…
Hi Melissa my name is Lisa Halsey, i got the same message from the same people a couple of days ago Ruth and Linda it didn't feel right why do they want from us we have lost our children why do they want't to take advantage of us we are grieving parents. I guess there are sick people on this earth i deleted them i know sometimes iam not all there especially at a time like this missing my son Daniel during the holidays. Well enough about those people how are you iam so sorry for your loss is this your daughter on your page? She is so beautiful how old was she and what is her name? If you don't minde me asking how did she pass away? I know it is hard. My son Daniel died on Nov 16th 2008 he just turned 21 three weeks before he died in a car accident using his cell phone he was away in college at the time of the accident he was in a different state well the next state over 3 hrs away he was on a football scholorship some day he was going to the NFL he was very talented in football he made all state conference his senior yr in high school. He had so much going for him in his life i was such a proud mother i miss him so much he was my rock he was my best friend he was always there for me he was my protector and his brothers too he loved his brother so much and Michael misses Daniel they both share the same birthday Oct.22nd 5yrs apart they were so very close MIcheal hasn't been the same since Daniels death, but i know i have to be strong for Micheal i know thats what Daniel would want me to do but it seems to me that michael feels he has to take care of me since Daniel isn't he is always makes sure iam taking my medication for my depression and some for my diebetes. I have the most greatest sons that i could ask for. I know Daniel and your daughter are in heaven together and they are watching over us well you can write me any time if you have face book we can also be friends on there too. It will be under lisa rodrigues halsey well my thoughts and prayers are with you.
At 10:29pm on December 8, 2010, Lisa Halsey said…
Hi Melissa my name is Lisa Halsey, i got the same message from the same people a couple of days ago Ruth and Linda it didn't feel right why do they want from us we have lost our children why do they want't to take advantage of us we are grieving parents. I guess there are sick people on this earth i deleted them i know sometimes iam not all there especially at a time like this missing my son Daniel during the holidays. Well enough about those people how are you iam so sorry for your loss is this your daughter on your page? She is so beautiful how old was she and what is her name? If you don't minde me asking how did she pass away? I know it is hard. My son Daniel died on Nov 16th 2008 he just turned 21 three weeks before he died in a car accident using his cell phone he was away in college at the time of the accident he was in a different state well the next state over 3 hrs away he was on a football scholorship some day he was going to the NFL he was very talented in football he made all state conference his senior yr in high school. He had so much going for him in his life i was such a proud mother i miss him so much he was my rock he was my best friend he was always there for me he was my protector and his brothers too he loved his brother so much and Michael misses Daniel they both share the same birthday Oct.22nd 5yrs apart they were so very close MIcheal hasn't been the same since Daniels death, but i know i have to be strong for Micheal i know thats what Daniel would want me to do but it seems to me that michael feels he has to take care of me since Daniel isn't he is always makes sure iam taking my medication for my depression and some for my diebetes. I have the most greatest sons that i could ask for. I know Daniel and your daughter are in heaven together and they are watching over us well you can write me any time if you have face book we can also be friends on there too. It will be under lisa rodrigues halsey well my thoughts and prayers are with you.

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