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At 6:27pm on June 22, 2011, Alicia Rodriguez said…
HI BOBBY'S MOM SORRY I THOUGHT IT WAS HIS ANGEL DAY.SO TODAY WOULD OF BEEN HIS BIRTHDAY. I'M SORRY THIS HAD TO HAPPENED. I KNOW YOU MUST NOT BE DOING TO GOOD TODAY.IM SO SORRY.YOU'RE IN MY PRAYERS. ALICIA JESSE'S MOM
At 5:41pm on June 22, 2011, Alicia Rodriguez said…
HI BOBBY'S MOM JUST THINKING OF YOU ON BOBBY'S ANGEL DAY.I'LL PRAY YOU MAKE IT I KNOW IT'S VERY HARD JUST THINKING OF MY SON'S ON 7/12/11 TWO YEARS AND IT HURTS LIKE IT WAS YESTERDAY. THEY SAY THERE ARE SOME REALLY GOOD BOOKS TO READ.I'M GONNA TRY FIND SOME. WHERE DO YOU THINK I CAN FIND THEM.GOD BLESS YOU.ALICIA JESSE'S MOM.
At 7:09pm on June 19, 2011, Tami said…
Thank you for adding me as a friend, I will make sure to say a heavenly happy birthday to Bobby on the 22nd.
At 6:07pm on June 15, 2011, Alicia Rodriguez said…
Hi so sorry for you're loss. I lost two son's one in 1979 and my beloved son jesse on7/12/09 imiss him everday god bless you im Alicia Jesse mom
At 9:05am on May 26, 2011, Karen Kloo said…
sorry about your son not graduating, my daughter in law is the same havent seen my grandson since before i left for az.  finally texted her "hi" and got a response, small but one.  she dosent answer her phones,  so i am mailing the tshirt to my grandson which upsets me!  your words about our hearts being shredded and are kids wanting us to not suffer are so true, but we are moms. i met a woman in the grocery store, she said we move on but we are never the same!! so true.  take care i will pray for both of us
At 9:05am on May 26, 2011, Karen Kloo said…
sorry about your son not graduating, my daughter in law is the same havent seen my grandson since before i left for az.  finally texted her "hi" and got a response, small but one.  she dosent answer her phones,  so i am mailing the tshirt to my grandson which upsets me!  your words about our hearts being shredded and are kids wanting us to not suffer are so true, but we are moms. i met a woman in the grocery store, she said we move on but we are never the same!! so true.  take care i will pray for both of us
At 1:47pm on May 24, 2011, Karen Kloo said…
it is 24 main street east hampton ct.  i am sorry i did not call you back i have been in a funk, had to go get my sons death certificate today and figured id get the final police report also.  the woman at the town hall would not even take my $20 bucks for the certificate she said no mother should have to go through what i have.  gonna try and check out that sunni person.  hopefully i can find the info in our past chats.  the death was ruled an accident due to asphyxia due to flash fire, sounds so terrible along with the police report. probably best for you and kim we are not ourselves right now and probably never will be the same again!! do what you feel is best for the moment. congrats ( i hope)to your son for graduating both my kids quit school. and yes jon wants to read the book when he finishes the one he is reading. i would like to reread it, and when my mom comes home in july she wants to read it.  take care for now.  hope your doctors can help you more than they have
At 12:03pm on April 11, 2011, Karen Kloo said…
but i am glad i came back if my son had died and i had been out of state and missed all that time, god, i probably woud do myself in,  well better go do a few things, need to call the doctor about my son, he was put on chantix to quit smoking and it made him flip out, i gave up drinking 19 years ago, i keep my cigs for now, need some kind of stress reliever.
At 12:01pm on April 11, 2011, Karen Kloo said…
sent a couple pics of the house, when we bought in we knew it was in need of repairs, BUT not to the extent it was it is an old house 9 rooms 2 baths, they took out the inside stairs and made it 2 apts.  we are restoring it to a one family.  the downstairs had water damage from lousy plumbing, pipes not attached to anything but water still pouring through them, under the house, they put in a new well and did not cap off the old well, which ran under the house also.  the upstairs is livable, for now, we plan to redo the downstairs, move down there and start upstairs,, it is  lens retirement project, so we can sell it after he retires and travel or whatever.  pics where the walls are gone or pic, i took alot of walls out after my son died it helped my anger alot.  a hammer can be a wonderful thing. also pic of my husband len and me with my two boys and grandson, jake is the one without the glasses, jon is my youngest, with glasses than cameron my grandson, what do you do for work i dont remember if you told me, i am working part time at stop and shop in the produce, i used to do third shift when it was shaws, 40 -48 but than i was living on my own needed the extra $ to support myself.  still waiting to hear about san diego.  i lived there for 4 months with my sister when i needed to get away for a while. glad i decided to come back, len and i were having issues, his brother showed up on our doorstep from ohio, len had not seen him in probably 20 years LOST CAUSE!! we were supporting his lazy butt so i left and went to san diegofor 4 months than georgia with my mom for 4 months, than lived on my own for a year, the whole time len was still supporting his brother, i wouldnt go back until he left, len finally got sick of his brother and he told me to come back whenever i wanted, his brother packed his bag and left.  he didnt want to deal with me again, i maybe tiny but i am mighty as my mom always says. 
At 11:43am on April 11, 2011, Karen Kloo said…
At 4:19am on April 11, 2011, Karen Kloo said…
oh you put a smile on my face this morning, our true selves are coming out, i was hoping i wouldnt affend by using the word bitch.  i will chuckle to meself today at work for this one.  it is early having my coffee and checking my mail, i work 7 til 12 today so i will respond more after work,  i am probally more like 103 right now because i did gain wieght, my normal wieght was always about 98, i am only 4 ft 11 and 3/4 inches 5 ft with my shoes on.  i will have to post some pics later of me and my husband who after i chewed him out last night told me i was RIGHT i love it when he does that, he has been sitting on his butt drinking beer and playing poker on the pc and has done nothing around here!!  try to stay strong i will check back after work.
At 3:06pm on April 10, 2011, Karen Kloo said…
thanks for listening!!
At 3:02pm on April 10, 2011, Karen Kloo said…
my address is 24 main street east hampton ct 06424 i am very interested in the medium thing,  i really like sylvia browne and john edwards but toooooo expensive.  my daughter in law went to someone twice the first time she said my son was there and something about meds, the second time she said he wasnt there so my daughter in law got mad and did not go back.  i than worried because when i spoke to him shortley before the accident he was so bummed as he put it i told him to take half a xannex so i was afraid i caused him to hit the tree. he had been under medical care the last couple months because of the stress of money and all he did.  we both have been on anxiety meds for years, he was so much like me, i take a half a xannex to take the edge off only when really needed.  i am 100 pounds he was about 160 so i am sure it could not have caused it.  the lady  elyse saw said he closed his eyes for a split second, i think the sun may have been in his eyes or he was falling asleep. that was all it took, it was 230 in the afternoon.  the tox report only showed caffine in his system.  so i feel some guilt too and wonder sometimes, i also wonder if all the stress he was under made him want to hit that tree, but as my husband says dead is dead, the reason really dosent matter.  speaking of my husband i am being such a bitch to him lately.  for good reason i might add but this whole thing is so much on me.  we bought a foreclosed house two years ago in need of major repairs, he ends up working 6 days a week alot of time, he is a mailman and walks 12 miles aday so i know he is tired but when he does have a weekend off he does nothing if the talk he does about fixing things would fix them it would all be done by now.  my sister called me yest. she is finally getting out of the military after 25 years she wants to pay for me to go to san diego for her retirement.  i am sooooo ready to get out of here for a bit.   
At 8:14am on April 10, 2011, Karen Kloo said…
what a beautiful picture your son  is very handsome.  I live in a small town too and leave stuff for my son, the pictures usually blow away but i seal them in plastic so they will last a while, my son is buried next to my grandparents who we loved so much. i was fortunate they had an extra plot and told the family whoever needed it could have it. i never expected i would be the one asking to have it for my son.  when i get real down i ususally bring flowers the other day i planted daffadils, and i am with you it is getting worse instead of better.  all i have been doing the past few days is cry my youngest birthday was the 6th and without jake here it was so hard. we went to my daughter in laws for dinner yest. to celebrate jons bday and instead it made jon and i so sad.  my grandson seems okay but i know he is not. jakes dad and i kept saying that poor boy to grow up without his daddy!! his dad was his everything.  i found a program here called the cove they sent me a book and a sesame street dvd for kids on death the cd was great.  i gave it to my daughter in law and i will give her the book when i am done i dont know if they have the program in your area but it is free.  the book is called guiding your child through grief by mary ann emswiler and james p emswiler, i am halfway through and it is a very good book, it talks of everyones grief.  i will see if i can find out if the program is elsewhere if not maybe i can send the dvd off to you when elyse (dil) is done with it.  about the ins. i believe she set something aside in the begining i am hoping she did, jakes company did a college fund for cam so at least noone can touch that, i need to go for now to get ready for work, i too look forward to your posts, you are a great support for me.  thank you!!
At 5:20pm on April 4, 2011, Karen Kloo said…
well right now im exhausted as i stayed up watching our uconn women loose, taping men tonight cuz im about ready for bed.  things have been crazy here my daughter in laws family has her such a mess.  they have managed to spend my sons life ins policy before he was gone even 7 months, thank god my daughter in law took care of the funeral expenses and bought a beautiful headstone for him.  but without getting into it, her father had her lend her brother 40,000 and than she gave him the rest recently for what and what he did with it no one knows, he is a mental mess, from what i understand it was about 300,000 or so i heard through the grapevine.  i only want what is best for my grandson!!!  as i am sure you did for your son, you did not make him go to florida, he went because he wanted to and you supported him in doing so, plus he knew you had him covered with his son, and he trusted you, i really believe things are meant to happen regardless of what you do. i believe god has our path set the day we are born, we can not change it.  he has his reasons what they are we may never know, my husband made a comment because before my son passed we lost so many young men in our area, good kids, real good kids, he said it was like god was building an army of young people.  the way things are going in this world it kinda makes sense.  and yes my son makes his comments that he is gonna drive into the same tree my son hit.  he has gotten better but he still makes his comments, he is going to be 25 on wed, his brother passed at 25, jon says it will be wierd that he is going to end up older than his older brother, what do you say to that,  i am looking forward to seeing the picture you post, although there is truely nothing wrong with your pic, as for work, i am doing 15-20 hours a week, it is just enough to keep busy and thankful for not being full time!! i will write again tues or wed only work til noon tomarrow and have wed off. hang in there
At 2:31pm on March 26, 2011, Karen Kloo said…
 well i got called into work this am.  not good after not sleeping much but i take the hours when i can get them instead of moping around the house.  as for you always on your son i have always done that, i did it most to my son who passed, i realized it is because we were so much alike i didnt want him to make the same mistakes as me.  as far as you not flying home with your son, or not crying you were probably in shock.  no i am sure you were in shock.  my youngest son has always been my handful.  he hates his life, he just picked me up from work and all i heard is how much his life sucks and he is going to drive into a tree.(my other son died hitting a tree)  i really hate it when he is like this but it is more often than not.  i always knew he had issues and found out he is bipolar, i got him to see a doctor after my son passed because he was so violent and angry.  the meds help but he has a girlfriend that i cant stand and she drives him crazy, again making mistakes i made thinking there is noone better out there.  i am lucky my husband is so understanding to all of this, my sons father whom i was married to long enough to have to kids, then we were divorced. he feels so sorry for himself, probably because he was such a lousy father.  i than ran into my childhood sweetheart who raised my boys, we were together for 13 years.  i gave up partying and he didnt so things didnt work.  now im married to my mailman i had while i was married.  he had a 20 year old brother die hitting a tree with his car, but he was drunk,  he is glad that i am using this site to help me because as he tells everyone, no one not even him can know what i am going through.  oh and by the way rant whenever you want.  i know it helps.  well im gonna get moving and take care of some things, i will check back later.  take care
At 2:59am on March 26, 2011, Karen Kloo said…
correction my son had never saw mw as happy as i was!!!!  this is my third marriage and he told my husband a week before he died that he did not know what len (my husband) did but i had changed not so anxiety ridden and enjoying life.  not sweating the small stuff, he also told my husband that he had done more and learned more from him than his other two dads put together. it was really wierd how all the ducks seemed to line up in a row.  he saw so many people he hadnt seen, spent time on my honeymoon with us.  said things to people, it was as if god allowed us the chance to say and do certain things.  note the time, this is probably why i am sleeping in, cant seem to sleep when im supposed to
At 6:28pm on March 25, 2011, Karen Kloo said…
well you have been in morning a year longer than i and it doesnt sound like it gets any easier.  My daughter in law fortunetly has looked to me over her parents because she knows how close my son and i were, i also see the world alot differently than they do. we are close and i am glad.  as for your so called daughter in law, i can understand the having to be nice part.  i feel for your grandson loosing his father but he is so lucky to have you.  we will never be able to replace our children but at least we can let their children know what wonderful people they were,  which really sucks!!!!  it is not fair they have to grow up without a daddy, boys need their fathers!!! and i want my son back so bad!!!  i too used to be a morning person, today i woke my husband up for work and went back to sleep until 930, the other day it was 1045,  i never used to sleep in, i only work usually 3 -4hour days and i am wiped out! i used to work 40-48 hours a week.  last year my husband who walks 12 miles a day as a mailman passed out in a grocery store.  he ended up with a pacemaker/defibulater put in.  i was so afraid of loosing him it was taking over my every move, watching him sleep, checking for him breathing, the poor man couldnt even be in the bathroom for any length of time without me checking on him.  my son jake was there for me the day he passed out.   i called him from the store, he brought me the the clinic, than to the hospital where they sent my husband, he was always so thoughtful and good to me.  then bam my son dies, where the hell did that come from!!  never in a million years did i think i would loose my child.  it hurts so bad!!  i am not afraid of dying anymore, than i can be with my son, but than again i have another child, i dont want him to feel the pain of loosing me either,  and my husband, i just enjoy everyday i have with him,  my son had never saw me as happy as i am now, he let us know just days before his death how he felt.  
At 12:19pm on March 25, 2011, Triny Malone said…

It has been 2 1/2 years that my son passed away. I don't know if it ever gets easier, I guess you just learn to deal with it day by day, some days are better than others. That is such a blessing to have a part of your son in your grandson. I think you are always left with a big gap in your heart. My aunt lost her son more than 15 years ago, she will still cry when she thinks of him. All I know is that I have never felt such a great pain in all my years of life, as the pain of losing my son.

At 11:33am on March 25, 2011, Karen Kloo said…
I am so sorry I did not even say im sorry for your lose!!  i have been in such a hole thinking of my son.  How are you doing with all of this and how is your grandchild??

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