Hi Jerry, I think I finally found you. I would love to share my son with all of you. His name Marcus "Mark" Tyler. Mark was murdered Dec. 5, 1992. It dose not seem that long to me at all. Mark was my only son and died at the age of 26 yrs. old. He had a little girl at the time of his death that was only 6 weeks old. She never got to know her daddy except what she is told. Mark loved to fish, work on his car, play basketball. We all love Mark so very, very, much. I feel somedays as if he is going to walk in the door and say Momma I'm home but I know deep down that will never happend. I know with all my heart that I will see and be with Mark again. Their is never a day that I don't think of him. I would love to have a big old hug from him again and I know that day will come .

Thank you Jerry we appreciate that.

Chad Arthur Holbrook was born November 24, 1990 at 7:45 am on a Saturday morning. He weighed 8lbs 14.5 ounces and was 21 inches long. He had the blondest hair and bluest eyes.

I held his hand for a little while and he holds my heart forever. We lost him on September 4, 2009 until we meet again.

Lisa

Hi Jerry,

My name is Lisa. I lost my treasured son, Chad, to a car accident on 9/4/09. He was 18 years old and priceless. He died at the scene, and never got to see him alive again after I had woken him up that morning. My husband and three children grieve his loss every minute of every day. He was one of our four special kids. His connection to me was strong. He was an athlete who was a thrill to watch on the football, baseball, and basketball courts but most of all he was a simple, uncomplicated boy with a brilliant smile that was always on his face. Goodnatured, all boy, but compassionate.

If you could have told me I could have lived one day without one of my children, I would have said "NO". However, here we are in a world that suddenly makes no sense or has any meaning.

You mentioned a grief newsletter. While its only been 5 months and we are not in the terrible second year, could you please forward.

God bless you as you work through the loss of your precious child as well.

Lisa Holbrook
(tried to send this to your email, but it came back invalid). Mine is sixholes@charter.net

Thank you so very much. I think I will be in the first year forever.

Diane Dillon
cdd3y@yahoo.com

Heidi, we don't know them but know they would be great. the Griefshare material is wonderful. We put out a Christian support newsletter for parents who have lost a child and if you would like to see a e-mail copy of our last one, you can email us and we can send you one. jerrymudge@bellsouth.net Sorry about your loss and you are still in the first year. We have done a special issue a few years ago on Going through that first year and will email you a copy. Blessings, Jerry

I too live in Charlotte, NC (well Ft. Mill actually) and have attended a Grief Share class at my church, Good Shepherd UMC on 49. It was very very helpful and we may be joining it again for a 2nd time. My son Ryan died in an accident on 8/14/2009. I miss him more every day! Do you know Connie Henderson Garrett?

We lost our precious son, Phil, on Jan 16 of 2009. We miss him so much that I do not know if we can really live without him. We are so sorry about your loss.

Diane
Greensboro NC

Judy, we go to Hickory Grove Baptist Church North Campus.

hey Jerry, I live in Concord, NC; is there a group around here?

Lisa, that is why I named the organization that God gave me Footprints because when you are in your deepest pain, you want to know where God is, that is when you discover He is carrying you on those days you can't put one foot in front of another. Hope you have a blessed day today in the Lord.

I'm so sorry for your loss's.
Without my faith, without Jesus, I could not get through this. Griefshare has been such a blessing.
God is close to the brokenhearted, even if we don't feel Him we must not go on feelings but on truth. He promises never to leave us or forsake us. It's by His grace and His strength I am here. You are right we must walk through the valley to get out the other side. No going around, over or under but THROUGH. But we are not walking alone! God is with us every step of the way. I'm glad you also have Griefshare. For those of you who are looking for hope, I encourage you to find a Griefshare support group near you. It helps to know, your not alone. The leaders have experienced loss as well and want to help you. Grief should not be walked alone. You will be blessed and be a blessing to others. You are right, we will never forget our children, this side of heaven the scar will always remain but we have that HOPE that this is not the end of the story! This is temporary. We will see our children again for Eternity!! So fix your eyes not on what is seen but on what is unseen, for what is seen is temporary, what is unseen is Eternal. This life is but a midst, a vapor, compared to the time we will have with our children. They are more a part of our future then they were our past!! My prayers are with ALL of you.

Gwendolyn, how did your two children die? Mine died in a car crash. What helped me was the group that I started with God's help. It is called Footprints Ministry. this is our website http://www.angelfire.com/ny5/footprintsministry/index.HTML We use Griefshare for our support meetings and you can find one near you by going on their website called
www.griefshare.org and put in your zip code to find a church near you that has this ministry. I know without God, I would be dead or in an insane institution. I have healed from the horrible pain of dealing with it but I will never forget my sons and the scar on my heart will be there until I join them one day. Blessings, Jerry

so sorry about your lost of 2 children i have also lost 2 children when does pain stop and the sadness end please write me gwendolyn